moonbunny001 Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 (edited) It's been three wonderful years and my boyfriend(20) and I(19) have been a very happy couple. However, recently my boyfriend began to hang around high school teenagers around seventeen; I didn't think anything of it. If he wanted to have fun so be it, but the only thing I asked was that he be home before 12 because we ride to the college and work together early in the morning. When his friends heard that I had asked this they demanded my boyfriend leave me because I was 'controlling' him. I thought the whole thing was stupid so I asked my boyfriend if would stop hanging out with those kids. We got into a huge fight which he sided with his new friends and it seems every fight we've been getting into since then has to do with his friends. He claims these people are his 'best friends' and are equally important as me; I've been here for three years and I practically do everything for him and I'm being tossed aside for two seventeen year old kids. Please what do I do? Additional Info. Boyfriend falls easily into peer pressure Lying to me about smoking a hookah his friends tormenting my little sister at school I blame everything on his friends I have given his friends a chance! Edited April 30, 2012 by moonbunny001
Oxy Moronovich Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Would it make a difference if his friends were your age? Sometimes a guy's girlfriend appears unfriendly and controlling to the guy's regular buds (sometimes this is true, sometimes this isn't). Why aren't you friends with his friends? Is it just because of their age?
Author moonbunny001 Posted April 30, 2012 Author Posted April 30, 2012 (edited) Well it's not because of their age it's more of they don't act their age; their really immature. I have tried to be friends with them on multiple occasions and we were OK at first but they shunned me after I asked him to be home before 12. Also his friends have only been friends for 2 months. Edited April 30, 2012 by moonbunny001
Oxy Moronovich Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 So there's no way to bring this up with him without starting a fight?
Author moonbunny001 Posted April 30, 2012 Author Posted April 30, 2012 I mean I try not to start a fight but, when they are tormenting my little sister I will ask my boyfriend to tell his friends to stop; but he'll refuse and we get into a fight. It seems like every time we do fight it's about them.
Oxy Moronovich Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Then you need someone else to help you talk to him. Choose a responsible adult you both trust to help you talk about the situation. That has helped with me in the past when my gf and I didn't see eye to eye on certain issues.
Author moonbunny001 Posted May 1, 2012 Author Posted May 1, 2012 Thank you I actually haven't thought of that(:
xpaperxcutx Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Kind of sad that he's hanging out with such a young crowd. Yes they are immature because they're still in high school and they still have that medntality where its okay to act like they have responsibilities. Your bf needs to get his act together.
Author moonbunny001 Posted May 1, 2012 Author Posted May 1, 2012 I thought the same thing, but he refuses to leave his new found best friends.
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