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Women, if you're not interested in a guy, will you p***** not flirt with him?

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threebyfate Established Member

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I mean honestly what do you get out of making a comment to guys like that. Ones that have little to no experience with dating and interacting with women. You are doing more harm than good. They will learn eventually that you can't take advice from a woman when it comes to dating.

 

If you had some understanding I said entertainment and it was somewhat fun messing with you. I will get serious now. Sit back and watch you may get surprised. :lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:

Ew. This is reminiscent of PUA methodology. You negging and attempting to dominate me with weird-ass comments.

 

With this in mind, I can see you've got far more expertise in helping these guys as another dateless wonder, while I'm in a happy marriage. But yeah, carry on.

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Ew. This is reminiscent of PUA methodology. You negging and attempting to dominate me with weird-ass comments.

 

With this in mind, I can see you've got far more expertise in helping these guys as another dateless wonder, while I'm in a happy marriage. But yeah, carry on.

I'm far from a dateless wonder but I have been in their position. Right now I just prefer to have sex mainly with married women and women with boyfriends. So I actually have a good understanding about attraction. No I would never waste time negging lol. I prefer a straight forward approach with the women I want. I get bored sometimes and I mess around on here a bit.

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I'm far from a dateless wonder but I have been in their position. Right now I just prefer to have sex mainly with married women and women with boyfriends. So I actually have a good understanding about attraction. No I would never waste time negging lol. I prefer a straight forward approach with the women I want. I get bored sometimes and I mess around on here a bit.
Straight up, whatever tactic you're using is creeping me out which doesn't help your cause and is of no help to these guys since it's not a demonstration of flirtation, a demonstration of how to increase attraction or a demonstration of anything remotely positive in interaction between genders.

 

As far as bragging about having sex with previously committed women, Ew. :sick:

 

Edit - Oh wait, are you demonstrating how not to interact with the opposite gender? If so, you're doing a great job of it!

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Straight up, whatever tactic you're using is creeping me out which doesn't help your cause and is of no help to these guys since it's not a demonstration of flirtation, a demonstration of how to increase attraction or a demonstration of anything remotely positive in interaction between genders.

 

As far as bragging about having sex with previously committed women, Ew. :sick:

When I started out that was all the action I could get I mean I do date single women. I mean these committed women come after me. There will come a time where I can actually elaborate on what I actually do and surprisingly there is some flirting in the sense of verbal banter on there. If you had read what I said I meant touching not like a touch on the shoulder. I was clearly giving a point to when to get them to put up or shut up but you had to respond a certain way so I had to mess with you. Creep you out lol. Who gives a sh*t!!!

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You two, just get a room.

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Here's the first paragraph on the topic in Wikipedia:

 

Flirting (or coquetry) is a playful activity involving verbal communication as well as body language by one person to another, indicating an interest in a deeper relationship with the other person. Usually, flirting is therefore, either seriously or jokingly, intended to be interpreted as a romantic or sexual overture. A female flirt, especially a young one, is sometimes called a coquette; a male one, a womanizer or player.

 

Now for the second paragraph:

 

Flirting usually involves speaking and behaving in a way that suggests a mildly greater intimacy than the actual relationship between the parties would justify, though within the rules of social etiquette, which generally disapproves of a direct expression of sexual interest. This may be accomplished by communicating a sense of playfulness or irony. Double entendres, with one meaning more formally appropriate and another more suggestive, may be used. Body language can include flicking the hair, eye contact, brief touching, open stances, proximity etc. Verbal communication of interest can include the vocal tone, such as pace, volume, intonation. Challenges (teasing, questions, qualifying, feigned disinterest) serve to increase tension, test intention and congruity.

 

 

In my case it has gone far beyond that and, wonder of wonders, poor poor carhill must've just misunderstood. I could name a few LS names for good measure, some now departed.

 

OP, I can empathize. I've found the winning move is not to play. Life is so much more fulfilling now. Good luck.

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This is a perfect example of how social interactions work so I'm going to provide a parallel.

 

I'm trying to help you and might be able to provide help. In other words, you want something from me. And yet, in order for me to provide you with help, you're insisting I approach you in a way that you prefer. But what you're failing to understand is that I neither want or need anything from you, voluntarily using my time to try to help you.

 

You asked me and SD to take the test in a really condescending manner.

 

Then you make another post saying you're not going to take this any further until we take the test, as though you're our mum or something.

 

That's why I responded in the way I did. A lot of other people would've felt annoyed by you talking to them in that way too.

 

If you don't like how I responded, then you need to change the way you communicate with people.

 

Now, let's apply this to flirtation and dating.

 

You want women to stop flirting unless they're interested in you. But why would they change their behaviour if they don't want or need anything from you, where it's you that wants or needs something from them?

 

You'll probably get even more angry at me for stating this but really, I have nothing to lose or gain from never responding to you again.

 

I'm not actually angry. And from what you're saying it seems that you haven't read my past posts in this topic.

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So you're arguing for your personal perspective in another thread, expecting me to retain trivia about your attitudes and yet claim to be defending Ross and somedude who have may or may not have different perspectives? This makes no sense.

 

My impression is that both Ross and Somedude believe bantering is flirting where you're claiming otherwise in this thread.

 

I have never ment flirting as in just banter. I'm talking about flirting as in, winking, telling the guy you think he's hot, being sexually suggestive, etc. In fact I'm not even sure if I have ever viewed banter as flirting before.

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Unless you're a moderator, I'm not obligated to abide by your demands, particularly since my post was general. Maybe I'm making fun of you instead of "these guys" or maybe I'm not.

 

He hasn't demanded anything, all he has said is 'there is no need to make fun of these guys', which is a totally acceptable and understandable thing to say (if you were making fun of us. But to me it doesn't seem like you were though).

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Ew. This is reminiscent of PUA methodology. You negging and attempting to dominate me with weird-ass comments.

 

With this in mind, I can see you've got far more expertise in helping these guys as another dateless wonder, while I'm in a happy marriage. But yeah, carry on.

 

There's only one person in this topic who is attempting to dominate others.

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Ross MwcFan Established Member

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Straight up, whatever tactic you're using is creeping me out which doesn't help your cause and is of no help to these guys since it's not a demonstration of flirtation, a demonstration of how to increase attraction or a demonstration of anything remotely positive in interaction between genders.

 

As far as bragging about having sex with previously committed women, Ew. :sick:

 

Edit - Oh wait, are you demonstrating how not to interact with the opposite gender? If so, you're doing a great job of it!

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Chill out TBF, jeez.

lino Established Member

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I don't know how to learn when it's real and when it's not.

 

 

That's the hard part mate and you can only learn it by interacting with women.

 

One way to definitely tell if it's not genuine is if a woman asks for a favour shortly after flirting with you.

Most times, though, it won't be too obvious especially if you're dealing with someone who makes that type of thing 95% of their daily routine.

 

You must get out there and interact with women to start figuring them out... There isn't any other way about it.

Online doesn't count as many people online are very fake and complete clowns, you can see some very good examples of this on this messageboard.

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Not going to respond any further unless you two take the suggested Big Five test. We're only going around in circles.

 

The Big Five is currently the most accepted personality model in the scientific community. The Big Five emerged from the work of multiple independent scientists/researchers starting in the 1950s who using different techniques obtained similar results. Those results were that there are five distinct personality traits/dimensions. Here are your results on each dimension:

 

 

Extroversion results were moderately high which suggests you are, at times, overly talkative, outgoing, sociable and interacting at the expense of developing your own individual interests and internally based identity.

Orderliness results were moderately high which suggests you are, at times, overly organized, neat, structured and restrained at the expense too often of flexibility, variety, spontaneity, and fun.

Emotional Stability results were medium which suggests you average somewhere in between being calm and resilient and being anxious and reactive.

Accommodation results were very high which suggests you are overly kind natured, trusting, and helpful at the expense too often of your own individual development (martyr complex).

Inquisitiveness results were moderately high which suggests you are intellectual, curious, imaginative but possibly not very practical.

 

 

 

These tests are inaccurate because

 

 

1) They almost never mention something negative about a person no matter how they respond to a question. It will always spin positive.

 

 

2) Everybody is going to answer that they are selfless and that they care about others even if they are a total self-absorbed douchebag or twit.

PlumPrincess Established Member

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Oneities is primary a guy thing and it happens to those who get stuck on one girl, and don't have any other options.

Somedude, the women expert, who knows how women think and feel...

threebyfate Established Member

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Somedude, the women expert, who knows how women think and feel...
Not just somedude... :laugh:
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Because if someone finally does show interest in me, I would then not be able to tell if it was genuine or not, or if I did think it was genuine and then found out it wasn't I would've felt dissapointed, and I guess I thought it wasn't fair on other guys.

How can you live a life that is so passive? You expect people to be nice to you, behave in a certain manner, support you with welfare money, because you consider yourself to be weak. You could work on yourself and build up resilience, but instead you expect that other people change and make your life easier. Guess what, most people don't like working sh*tty jobs. Most people don't like rejections or pain. It's not that they can or want to endure more than you. The difference is that they accept these things as part of life. You, on the other hand, you don't want to carry your burden, you want other people to do it for you and that makes you so dependent on other people. You make them responsible for your happiness. And this is something that has never worked. Maybe it's time that you take charge of your life?

 

Regarding flirting, yes, it sucks when people flirt with you and you think they are interested in something serious, but aren't. It happened a couple of times to me, it sucked for a while, but in the end, you get over it. And you always learn something.

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