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Women, if you're not interested in a guy, will you p***** not flirt with him?

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fortyninethousand322 Established Member

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But really, I think some men get the impression that women are 'flirting with them' when they really aren't, and are just being friendly. Problem is, people's definition of 'friendly' varies.

 

I think this happens. But I think for those types of guys who confuse friendly with flirty, we should kind of refrain from being aggressors in dating and such. So we don't get our hopes up.

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threebyfate Established Member

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Sounds to me like people just have preferences where those preferences will vary per individual, regardless of gender.

 

I can tell the entire world not to chew noisily or talk with their mouths open during a meal (sounds and looks like a barnyard animal) but it's not going to happen since it's solely my personal preference.

xxoo Established Member

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Which she shouldn't be with guys who could be interested in her.

 

It's just being naive thinking that men would not interpret her innocent flirting as anything more. And apparently, many young women are guilty of this.

 

She shouldn't be relaxed and natural, and joke around? Look you in the eye? Make risque jokes?

 

Basically, aside from the touching, acting like a guy.

 

It isn't her fault if you interpret eye contact and risque jokes as flirting. No harm, no foul; she cleared it up right away by letting you know she's in a relationship.

 

If she were 45, would you be as upset? Or would you joke around with her "like a guy"?

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threebyfate Established Member

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She shouldn't be relaxed and natural, and joke around? Look you in the eye? Make risque jokes?

 

Basically, aside from the touching, acting like a guy.

 

It isn't her fault if you interpret eye contact and risque jokes as flirting. No harm, no foul; she cleared it up right away by letting you know she's in a relationship.

 

If she were 45, would you be as upset? Or would you joke around with her "like a guy"?

I find it odd that somedude expects that women can read his mind but he's not holding himself just as responsible for his own inability to read female minds.
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ThaWholigan Established Member

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Which she shouldn't be with guys who could be interested in her.

 

It's just being naive thinking that men would not interpret her innocent flirting as anything more. And apparently, many young women are guilty of this.

 

Because he is horny.

 

Ok then :laugh:

Somedude, have you thought about just not reading into it? Some girls just flirt. You should flirt back with the expectation of nothing. As far as I'm concerned, if they don't make their interest known, it doesn't mean anything. And if I make my interest known and get rebuffed, whoopiedoo. Doesn't matter.

 

EDIT: It's the best way to learn how to flirt, to be honest. If you wanna ask her out, do it, but if she flirts, just flirt back without assumption.

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somedude81 Established Member

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She shouldn't be relaxed and natural, and joke around? Look you in the eye? Make risque jokes?

 

Basically, aside from the touching, acting like a guy.

Because it's pretty much accepted that when guys joke around like that, there isn't any possibility that they will be going brokeback on each other.

 

I find it odd that somedude expects that women can read his mind but he's not holding himself just as responsible for his own inability to read female minds.

When did I say that I expect women to read my mind.

 

What I've been saying is that it should be common sense for women to think that most guys in their age range will want to have sex with them, especially if the woman is young.

threebyfate Established Member

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Because it's pretty much accepted that when guys joke around like that, there isn't any possibility that they will be going brokeback on each other.
Oh? Considering how the gay population is around 10%, where there's more since a portion haven't come out of the closet, how would you know this as a certainty?

 

When did I say that I expect women to read my mind.

 

What I've been saying is that it should be common sense for women to think that most guys in their age range will want to have sex with them, especially if the woman is young.

Not every guy or woman thinks the way you do. Haven't you figured this out yet? Edited by threebyfate
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somedude81 Established Member

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Oh? Considering how the gay population is around 10%, where there's more since a portion haven't come out of the closet, how would you know this as a certainty?

It's usually not that hard to tell if a guy is gay. Even if somebody was still in the closet, most men just assume that the other guy is not gay. I have never worried that any of the guys I joked around with are gay, subconsciously it's not even a possibility.

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What I've been saying is that it should be common sense for women to think that most guys in their age range will want to have sex with them, especially if the woman is young.

 

And?

 

Really, is a woman required to act completely devoid of charm and wit because you might want to have sex with her?

 

She doesn't care if you want to have sex with her or not. If you don't like joking around with her, now that you know she has a bf, don't do it. If you still think she's funny, and can accept that this is just her being her (not coming onto you), have fun with it.

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somedude81 Established Member

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And?

 

Really, is a woman required to act completely devoid of charm and wit because you might want to have sex with her?

No. But she should know where the line is.

 

As veggirl said in my thread, she shouldn't have been surprised when I asked her out. It's almost is if she expected me to know she was taken.

 

She doesn't care if you want to have sex with her or not. If you don't like joking around with her, now that you know she has a bf, don't do it. If you still think she's funny, and can accept that this is just her being her (not coming onto you), have fun with it.

I'm certainly going to give her far less attention that I have been. And I don't think she'll care either way.

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Ross MwcFan Established Member

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How do you "know" she's not interested? Sometimes women flirt to gauge a man's interest. Other times they do it to get him to open up to see if they could be interested, past physical appearances.

 

Or maybe you're just entirely misreading her flirting and reading more into it than there is.

 

I'm just going off what other guys have said, and they've said that the woman ended up admitting to them that they weren't actually interested.

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Ross MwcFan Established Member

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Why would a guy f*ck a woman if he is not interested?

 

Same reason.

 

A guy wouldn't **** a woman if he wasn't interested.

fishtaco Established Member

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A guy wouldn't **** a woman if he wasn't interested.

 

I would, and I have.

 

FrustratedStandards is right.

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Ross MwcFan Established Member

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I would, and I have.

 

FrustratedStandards is right.

 

Why would you have sex with a woman who you weren't physically attracted to?

 

That's what I'm talking about by being interested, being sexually attracted to someone.

RedRobin Established Member

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A little light hearted banter can be fun. It gives you a feel for their sense of humor. AND what they might or might not be into sexually without having to commit to romantic intentions. This is especially useful in situations where there might be something at stake (ie, work, mutual friendships, etc). Or you are trying to gage their relationship status.

 

I still remember this hot French guy when I was in college. Flirted like nobody's business. Totally full of it, but I just loved hearing his accent.

 

Same thing with an Italian guy I used to work with. Flirted like crazy. He had a long-term girlfriend. I was a little annoyed with him... more like disappointed. Frenchie was too young for me. Italian guy... wasn't wearing a ring, but I heard through the grapevine he had a GF. Thing is, wasn't like the guy was asking me out. Did it make me feel good that he might be attracted? Sure.

 

I had no doubt that was just both of their ways of showing appreciation without actually crossing a line. I never got pissed or took it personally... or even thought they were leading me on.

 

Just roll with it.

 

Oh, since you are in the UK, pop on over to the Continent and see how those Southern Europeans do it (flirt that is). They are the KINGS of flirt. Damn them ;)

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fishtaco Established Member

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Why would you have sex with a woman who you weren't physically attracted to?

 

That's what I'm talking about by being interested, being sexually attracted to someone.

 

It's a scale, it's not a binary yes or no. There are women that I find completely unattractive, then no, I would not have sex with them. But there are women that I don't find them particularly attractive, but it's not like I find them repulsive. Then should the opportunity presents itself, why not?

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threebyfate Established Member

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It's usually not that hard to tell if a guy is gay. Even if somebody was still in the closet, most men just assume that the other guy is not gay. I have never worried that any of the guys I joked around with are gay, subconsciously it's not even a possibility.
More mind reading! There are literally millions of gay men who you can't tell are gay, who lean towards being very flirtatious with either gender. It's fun for everyone except for individuals who insist on misinterpreting their flirtatiousness.
FrustratedStandards Established Member

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A guy wouldn't **** a woman if he wasn't interested.

 

I meant interested in her, not her vagina.

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Somedude, you're acting as if this girl commited a capital offense by flirting with you. I mean really........you're over reacting. Did she really cause you any harm? I agree with the poster above who said you should have responded with "well fine, you can go see him after we go out" make a joke, don't get worked up and that is that.

 

She wouldn't have flirted with you if she didn't at least like you on some level. If she thought you were repulsive or creepy she wouldn't have even said the word sex in your presence. So why don't you take it as a much needed ego boost and move on.

 

If I had a nickel for every man that flirted with me who was wearing a wedding ring I'd be a rich(er) woman than i already am. Or how many men who've flirted with me and then when I asked for their number (cos Im a go getter like that) mentioned "oh you must have mis read my signals. Im married."

 

 

uh huh...sure.

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Feelsgoodman Established Member

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The starred out word is supposed to be 'please'. For some reason that word is not allowed in the topic title. I tried not using the word please at all, but then the topic title didn't really read right.

 

Anyway, why can't you 'only' flirt with a guy when you're interested in him?

 

Why flirt with guys that you're not interesetd in? Why pretend to be interested?

 

Just be more honest.

Attention whoring. Yes, it's as simple as that. Attention is like crack to women. And the more they get, the more addicted they become. That's why women engage in "innocent flirting", get tramp stamps, wear hooker heels, low riding jeans with underwear showering and low cut tops that make their boobs fall out. That's why they get fake tans that give you skin cancer and spend 90% of their disposable income on clothing. It's all about attention whoring.

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Attention whoring. Yes, it's as simple as that. Attention is like crack to women. And the more they get, the more addicted they become. That's why women engage in "innocent flirting", get tramp stamps, wear hooker heels, low riding jeans with underwear showering and low cut tops that make their boobs fall out. That's why they get fake tans that give you skin cancer and spend 90% of their disposable income on clothing. It's all about attention whoring.

 

And what about the women who don't do any of the above?

Mme. Chaucer Established Member

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Attention whoring. Yes, it's as simple as that. Attention is like crack to women. And the more they get, the more addicted they become. That's why women engage in "innocent flirting", get tramp stamps, wear hooker heels, low riding jeans with underwear showering and low cut tops that make their boobs fall out. That's why they get fake tans that give you skin cancer and spend 90% of their disposable income on clothing. It's all about attention whoring.

 

What's your explanation for guys who flirt, have tattoos, wear jeans with their underwear showing, go around with their shirt unbuttoned or a skin tight tee shirt, and get fake tans?

USMCHokie Established Member

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What's your explanation for guys who flirt, have tattoos, wear jeans with their underwear showing, go around with their shirt unbuttoned or a skin tight tee shirt, and get fake tans?

 

He's jealous of the attention they get...? :confused:

USMCHokie Established Member

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No. But she should know where the line is.

 

Why the hell is it her responsibility to assess your thought process and "act accordingly"...? It puzzles me that you would be that presumptuous to believe that every woman must behave in a manner that caters to your whims...she has no obligation to you...

 

As veggirl said in my thread, she shouldn't have been surprised when I asked her out. It's almost is if she expected me to know she was taken.

 

Who cares if she was surprised or not...? Just as she has no obligation to you, you also have no obligation to her. Go ahead and ask out a girl who appears to be flirty with you. You have absolutely NO duty to not ask her out. If she's already in a relationship, so what? Is she supposed to get as butt-hurt as you did because you asked her out?

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lino Established Member

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It isn't going to stop anytime soon mate. It's how a lot of em get free drinks, meals, car repairs, etc.

 

You need to adapt and learn when it's for real or being done for ulterior motives, boredom, etc.

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