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Women, if you're not interested in a guy, will you p***** not flirt with him?

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Ross MwcFan Established Member

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The starred out word is supposed to be 'please'. For some reason that word is not allowed in the topic title. I tried not using the word please at all, but then the topic title didn't really read right.

 

Anyway, why can't you 'only' flirt with a guy when you're interested in him?

 

Why flirt with guys that you're not interesetd in? Why pretend to be interested?

 

Just be more honest.

joystickd Established Member

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As a man you also have to put verbally let these women know to either put up or shut up. You must call them on that flirting BS

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GravityMan Established Member

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Some women (and some guys) lightly flirt just for fun. It can be a way to brighten up one's mundane day a bit.

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january2011 Established Member

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You see, this is why I never flirt ;)

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thatone Established Member

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The starred out word is supposed to be 'please'. For some reason that word is not allowed in the topic title. I tried not using the word please at all, but then the topic title didn't really read right.

 

Anyway, why can't you 'only' flirt with a guy when you're interested in him?

 

Why flirt with guys that you're not interesetd in? Why pretend to be interested?

 

Just be more honest.

 

women could just as easily say to you "stop falling head over heels for every girl that smiles at you"

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xxoo Established Member

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What kind of flirting are you talking about, Ross?

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Ross MwcFan Established Member

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What kind of flirting are you talking about, Ross?

 

Anything really, as I guess any kind of flirting can make a woman look as though she's interested.

NeverDated Established Member

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How do you "know" she's not interested? Sometimes women flirt to gauge a man's interest. Other times they do it to get him to open up to see if they could be interested, past physical appearances.

 

Or maybe you're just entirely misreading her flirting and reading more into it than there is.

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Why flirt with guys that you're not interesetd in? Why pretend to be interested?

 

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Ego boost or mini power trip (the having someone in your backpocket feeling).

 

Both men and women do this. I've found that those who flirt with "everyone" to be attention hounds.

 

I wouldn't take any of it personally, but I have to admit, it does make me feel unconfortable when one of these kinds flirts with me.

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Ego boost or mini power trip (the having someone in your backpocket feeling).

 

Both men and women do this. I've found that those who flirt with "everyone" to be attention hounds.

 

I wouldn't take any of it personally, but I have to admit, it does make me feel unconfortable when one of these kinds flirts with me.

sounds a little hypocritical here. in another post you said some level of tension was good and that post bordered manipulation. so what is it are you for or against flirting with someone you are not interested in

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I only flirt with men I'm dating. Why encourage someone I'm not interested in?

 

I'm another one who doesn't understand the exclusion of words like "advice" or "help" or "please" from the title of a thread. It just seems silly.

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Mme. Chaucer Established Member

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As a man you also have to put verbally let these women know to either put up or shut up. You must call them on that flirting BS

 

But … lots of these guys are so invested in what they've "learned" online in pua-ish dating fora that they think if a woman touches her hair while talking to him, or giggles, she has "flirted."

 

So I touch my hair while talking to you - are you gonna tell me to "put up or shut up"?

 

There has to be some kind of middle ground.

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joystickd Established Member

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But … lots of these guys are so invested in what they've "learned" online in pua-ish dating fora that they think if a woman touches her hair while talking to him, or giggles, she has "flirted."

 

So I touch my hair while talking to you - are you gonna tell me to "put up or shut up"?

 

There has to be some kind of middle ground.

I mean like touching. I think at some point verbally going back and forth pushes it some but its not like touching. Touching is the point where you have to put up or shut up

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sounds a little hypocritical here. in another post you said some level of tension was good and that post bordered manipulation. so what is it are you for or against flirting with someone you are not interested in

 

I'm not for or against it. For me, personally, I wouldn't want to be flirted with if the person wasn't attracted to me in some way. It just wouldn't make sense to me. At the same time, I don't think it's hard to see why some flirt even if they feel nothing. There's benifits to it for some, even if it might hurt a few. Understanding this does not mean I think it should be encouraged or discouraged. I'm simply giving a reason why many flirt even if they don't really feel attracted to the person they flirt with.

Mme. Chaucer Established Member

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In my life I've known some people who would be considered "shameless flirts." Men and women both. They mean no harm. Live and let live.

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In my life I've known some people who would be considered "shameless flirts." Men and women both. They mean no harm. Live and let live.

 

They might not mean any harm but for someone like Ross, or me or SD or similar posters it's quite easy to get signals crossed. A guy who's not used to having women flirt with him encounters a serial flirt and mistakes it for genuine interest. It's awkward.

 

Lesson for these type of guys: don't flirt.

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I'm not for or against it. For me, personally, I wouldn't want to be flirted with if the person wasn't attracted to me in some way. It just wouldn't make sense to me. At the same time, I don't think it's hard to see why some flirt even if they feel nothing. There's benifits to it for some, even if it might hurt a few. Understanding this does not mean I think it should be encouraged or discouraged. I'm simply giving a reason why many flirt even if they don't really feel attracted to the person they flirt with.

Its either or. I think you are for it but afraid to say now because of the consensus against it

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The starred out word is supposed to be 'please'. For some reason that word is not allowed in the topic title. I tried not using the word please at all, but then the topic title didn't really read right.

 

Anyway, why can't you 'only' flirt with a guy when you're interested in him?

 

Why flirt with guys that you're not interesetd in? Why pretend to be interested?

 

Just be more honest.

 

I posted this question a while ago on another forum and MANY women admitted to flirting with men they had no interest in. They do it because...

 

1) They want to see if they can attract a man who has no initial interest just to prove it to themselves

 

2) They flirt with everybody

 

3) They are bored.

 

Unless you are sticking your tongue down a woman's throat, she has no interest.

somedude81 Established Member

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Strong eye contact, laughing, joking, touching, talking about sex through obvious innuendo. Hell she actually said sex a couple of times. This was all in our first real conversation

 

Got it all from a girl with a BF.

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Strong eye contact, laughing, joking, touching, talking about sex through obvious innuendo. Hell she actually said sex a couple of times. This was all in our first real conversation

 

Got it all from a girl with a BF.

 

Touching aside, I interact with men that way. I interact with women that way, too.

 

Single girls need to worry about leading guys on. Attached girls can be their own playful self, and not worry about it so much.

 

If you think a girl is flirting, and you are interested, flirt back! If it makes her uncomfortable, she'll dial down her own flirtation. If you are worried about what is ok, let her set the tone and follow her lead.

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somedude81 Established Member

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Touching aside, I interact with men that way. I interact with women that way, too.

 

Single girls need to worry about leading guys on. Attached girls can be their own playful self, and not worry about it so much.

Why think like that?

 

Did she just expect me to know she had a boyfriend?

 

IMO, a girl in a relationship should be more wary about leading guys on then girls who are single.

 

 

If you think a girl is flirting, and you are interested, flirt back! If it makes her uncomfortable, she'll dial down her own flirtation. If you are worried about what is ok, let her set the tone and follow her lead.

That's what I did.

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Why think like that?

 

Did she just expect me to know she had a boyfriend?

 

IMO, a girl in a relationship should be more wary about leading guys on then girls who are single.

 

In her mind, she isn't leading you on, because she is unavailable. She's just being her natural, relaxed self.

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FrustratedStandards Established Member

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Why would a guy f*ck a woman if he is not interested?

 

Same reason.

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In her mind, she isn't leading you on, because she is unavailable. She's just being her natural, relaxed self.

Which she shouldn't be with guys who could be interested in her.

 

It's just being naive thinking that men would not interpret her innocent flirting as anything more. And apparently, many young women are guilty of this.

Why would a guy f*ck a woman if he is not interested?

Because he is horny.

Same reason.

Ok then :laugh:

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I do agree that women really should not be doing blatantly obvious flirting if they have no interest in the guy - and vice versa. I consider frequent touching, hugging, and consistently very close proximity for no reason at all in that category, as well as evident verbal cues. It's pointless, and especially mean if you know the guy is single and looking and interested in you, and you aren't in him.

 

But really, I think some men get the impression that women are 'flirting with them' when they really aren't, and are just being friendly. Problem is, people's definition of 'friendly' varies.

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