irc333 Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Okay, Im not sure what this phrase means when a woman says, "You better be able to keep up" Some don't really define what that means in their profile. What, they're "on the go" all the time? Hyperactive? what? Lol
EasyHeart Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 It means that the woman is boring, insecure and lonely, so she substitutes constant frantic activity for connection and intimacy with other people. 4
grkBoy Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Okay, Im not sure what this phrase means when a woman says, "You better be able to keep up" Some don't really define what that means in their profile. What, they're "on the go" all the time? Hyperactive? what? Lol I think she's trying to make herself appear exciting...but I also think it's mainly a message that "stay home with a movie" is not going to win points with her. She wants guys with active, social lifestyles.
Author irc333 Posted April 30, 2012 Author Posted April 30, 2012 I think she's trying to make herself appear exciting...but I also think it's mainly a message that "stay home with a movie" is not going to win points with her. She wants guys with active, social lifestyles. Actually, she threw the, "I also like to stay at home and watch a movie" following that statement. lol She's actually a horse trainer and competitive barrell rider. Living way out in the stix....it was funny becuase she had a few pics of her in a sweatshirt and blue jeans...then she had ONE pic of her posing in a bikini and heels on the side of the pool, and I was like DAMN!! She hada caption "See, I can clean up nice" but considers herself a tomboy. But a 4'10" petite hottie. Then the rest of the photos of her in work or cowgirl attire on a horse jumping fences and such. It was funny, I was starting from top to bottom scrolling down slowly seeing her in work clothes...then was like CRAP....and living where SHE lives, it only has 2 cops that like to pull people over for barely going over the speed limit....and the native sthere, well, missing teeth, and weigh the size of a dump truck...with "Larry the cable guy for President!" bumper stickers
veggirl Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 I think it means keep up with mood swings and dramatics. 2
TigerCub Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Its one of those lame OLD lines - kinda like "I work hard, and I play hard" - just an attempt to sound exciting. But comes across as desperate and lame.
dasein Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 That kind of line is partially understandable IMO, lots of people are couch potatoes but will make a good show during courtship then right back to the couch. It could also mean she is still living in SATC 4 times out drinking per week world, no way to know until you find out from experience. I have dated women who would literally pout and cry if a week went by when they couldn't go out 4 times a week on the town and "be fabulous." Poor babies.
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Are you sure it wasn't a typo? Maybe she meant "keep IT up." You know … after getting IT up?? 4
RedRobin Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 One thing I learned about OLD when I did it... it doesn't really pay to analyze every single word. If you like the overall 'feel' of their profile, if they seem pleasant and happy, then try not to nit-pick little details. Some people just aren't the best marketers. ...soooo, does this mean you are going to email her?? 1
Oxy Moronovich Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 OLD lets you weed out the bad women from the good women easier than real life. The stuff women put on their profile speaks volumes about their character. Too many guys only or mainly focus on the photo. They should check out the profile more too. If a chick puts stuff up like that then I'd click away.
westrock Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 (edited) "You better be able to keep up" I think this is a potential red flag (but may also just be different lifestyles). In my view those who say this are usually so busy with their life that they are actually failing to pay attention to the relationship. They do this deliberately as a subtle way for them to put some distance in the relationship by always being super busy. If the other person takes steps to keep up, these people are always one step ahead, making it impossible for the other to ever keep up. Ironically, those who say these types of words are the ones who are unable to keep up with the relationship, but of course, they never see it that way or would admit to it. What's important is the part of this statement they are not saying... they better be able keep up or what? The "or what" is usually that they will break up and blame it on you, or if you break up with them for them failing to be in the relationship, they will still blame you. I think those who say these types of words do so as a subtle warning in advance so that when there is a break up later on (initiated by either party), they have a pre-made reason to rationalize the break up without having to take responsibility for their own behavior of failing to attend to the needs of the relationship. Instead they say to themselves (and others) that their partner "couldn't keep up with me and therefore that justifies me breaking up and it's all their fault and none of my fault". Edited May 1, 2012 by westrock
Feelsgoodman Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Okay, Im not sure what this phrase means when a woman says, "You better be able to keep up" Some don't really define what that means in their profile. What, they're "on the go" all the time? Hyperactive? what? Lol I once had a woman I was corresponding with through a dating site tell me "you sound like a guy who can keep up with me". I responded that I was in no hurry and that was the end of that conversation. I find it a rather arrogant/insulting thing to say to someone you don't know.
Fondue Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 I'm not an expert in Online dating, as I do not participate... But I am willing to bet she does the exact opposite of what she writes. What she WANTS to tell you is that she leads a very exciting lifestyle. What she probably does is the exact opposite, yet trying to convince herself and everyone around here otherwise. She too, is probably full of drama. I'd probably avoid that one.
Feelsgoodman Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Are you sure it wasn't a typo? Maybe she meant "keep IT up." You know … after getting IT up?? Keep IT up? You mean like investing in Information Technology stocks?
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