Affair revealed by 13 year old boy!!?

[Affair]

Yeah, when the truth that both of your affairs were with black guys you didn't want to participate anymore. I understand.

 

Black guys? 2 affairs?

 

Bella makes me feel like less of a bad person

[Affair]

Yes, NH.....it seems so.

 

Affair, I'm curious? How long was your A? How is it you've maintained contact and friendship with the OM? Hmmmmm

 

I believe I have finally learned that that isn't possible.

 

It was a few months long, I almost got caught a couple times. I've maintained contact to some degree. I wouldn't call us friends though. We're more like acquaintances. Also I make sure that when I do talk to him that it's non-flirty.

[Affair]

Particularly when you kinda have to search for the one time I referenced how to find the blog post.

Yahh I saw last thread so i looked at the end of it and it was something like naughtywives.com so i went there and searched latin lover. I feel kinda bad for that Kidd guy. It was a nasty story.

[samsungxoxo]

I'm curious, if your husband wants your txt email history, calls and everything does this means he is also reading (or looking at) this thread?

[Affair]

I'm curious, if your husband wants your txt email history, calls and everything does this means he is also reading (or looking at) this thread?

 

I'm living with my parents

My husband is at the house

My kids are at his parents

[samsungxoxo]

I'm living with my parents

My husband is at the house

My kids are at his parents

Ok.. thanks for clearing it up.

 

I calculate this will take 2-5 years of hard work and effort. Hopefully it gets better by the 2nd year.

[Wanderer25]

Black guys? 2 affairs?

 

Bella makes me feel like less of a bad person

 

 

 

 

Take that Bella

[SidLyon]

Black guys? 2 affairs?

 

Bella makes me feel like less of a bad person

 

What the 2 affairs, or is it the black guys that makes someone bad?

 

Come on people, does it really matter what colour we/they are?

[findingnemo]

Let's not start becoming racists on this thread.

 

Now regarding Belle, I wouldn't sit snugly thinking she is worse anybody else. And whether it was a Black guy or Hispanics or even Chinese makes absolutely no difference. It is totally irrelevant. It is also bordering on racism when we start discussing the colour of the APs as if it is a worse thing.

 

Let's not even go down that road.

[Bellechica]

I talked to my H today. He seemed bothered that I hid it from him and there was some yelling. He says he might work on it for the sake of the kids, I just have to give him access to my txts email call history and everything else whenever he wants. Which I'll be doing. And to those who don't believe this is real, I understand but could you please not crowd up .

 

He SEEMED bothered? Really?????

[Bellechica]

Yahh I saw last thread so i looked at the end of it and it was something like naughtywives.com so i went there and searched latin lover. I feel kinda bad for that Kidd guy. It was a nasty story.

 

You KINDA felt bad??? Really????

[Woggle]

What a sad way for a kid to grow up. People before you have affairs this is the kind of collateral damage it causes.

[ISurvived]

It was a few months long, I almost got caught a couple times. I've maintained contact to some degree. I wouldn't call us friends though. We're more like acquaintances. Also I make sure that when I do talk to him that it's non-flirty.

You need to make sure you have ZERO contact with the OM. Period. R is tough at best. As long as you still maintain contact with the OM, it makes it near impossible.

[BetrayedH]

Black guys? 2 affairs?

 

Bella makes me feel like less of a bad person

 

That was pretty uncalled for. Going to add racist to your list of attributes?

[Affair]

He SEEMED bothered? Really?????

Yes, he did. what is your problem?

[Affair]

That was pretty uncalled for. Going to add racist to your list of attributes?

 

Not racist. I just think that makes it a bit worse, as African American males have a reputation for, well you know.

 

Can we move back to my topic now?

[YellowShark]

I am curious. You haven't said a bad word about your husband. So why did you drive a bus over him and the kids to bang another man? What was the reason you strayed?

 

And from personal experience I can tell you that children are affected in a really serious way. Mine was when my EX decided to bang a good married friend. Tore his little heart out. For the rest of his life he will live with the scars caused by that cheating "blank" and her married douchebag Ex-friend who tore my family apart.

[Affair]

You need to make sure you have ZERO contact with the OM. Period. R is tough at best. As long as you still maintain contact with the OM, it makes it near impossible.

 

Alright. I'll block him on facebook, and stop emailing him.

[Affair]

I am curious. You haven't said a bad word about your husband. So why did you drive a bus over him and the kids to bang another man? What was the reason you strayed?

 

And from personal experience I can tell you that children are affected in a really serious way. Mine was when my EX decided to bang a good married friend. Tore his little heart out. For the rest of his life he will live with the scars caused by that cheating "blank" and her married douchebag Ex-friend who tore my family apart.

 

I don't really know why. My husband is a wonderful man, and has raised our kids very well. That's something I'd like to find out too. I was very happy with him and had no reason to go out and bang another man!

[BetrayedH]

You KINDA felt bad??? Really????

 

If I was going to write a "Belle, see, here's how you can get busted just out of the blue" thread, I would have done a better job. Kinda nice that someone is dedicating so much time to your cause, I suppose.

 

Even if it's not, this OP is hopeless. When I confronted my wife, I wonder if I seemed kinda bothered. Trying to think back. I don't see true remorse happening here. Whoever said damage control was exactly right. I'm thinking that the step-mom and weekend visit thing is a good idea.

[BetrayedH]

Not racist. I just think that makes it a bit worse, as African American males have a reputation for, well you know.

 

Can we move back to my topic now?

 

Please keep stereotyping and saying it's not racist.

 

Otherwise, if you're done making racist comments about other posters then I guess we can move to something else. Wasn't my idea to go there.

[Affair]

If I was going to write a "Belle, see, here's how you can get busted just out of the blue" thread, I would have done a better job. Kinda nice that someone is dedicating so much time to your cause, I suppose.

 

Even if it's not, this OP is hopeless. When I confronted my wife, I wonder if I seemed kinda bothered. Trying to think back. I don't see true remorse happening here. Whoever said damage control was exactly right. I'm thinking that the step-mom and weekend visit thing is a good idea.

Again this thread isn't dedicated to bella and has nothing to do with her!

 

Also I don't know why, but I really don't think I feel any remorse. What's it supposed to feel like? I didn't like seeing my husband in pain, but didn't feel guilty. Maybe you're right.

[Affair]

That was pretty uncalled for. Going to add racist to your list of attributes?

 

Alright sure what the heck. Might as well be honest.

My Attributes:

-Selfish

-Racist

-Coward

-Bad Parent

-Idiotic

-Prude

 

This what you wanted to here?

[ISurvived]

Again this thread isn't dedicated to bella and has nothing to do with her!

 

Also I don't know why, but I really don't think I feel any remorse. What's it supposed to feel like? I didn't like seeing my husband in pain, but didn't feel guilty. Maybe you're right.

 

Why do you not feel guilty? How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot?

 

If you don't want to be married, then get a D. If you do want to be married to your BH, you really need to understand why you have no guilt or remorse.

 

Are you really just selfish, cold, and could care less about your BH and children?

 

Also, why do you feel the need to still be in contact with the OM?

[YellowShark]

I don't really know why. My husband is a wonderful man, and has raised our kids very well. That's something I'd like to find out too. I was very happy with him and had no reason to go out and bang another man!

 

Really? He's a wonderful man? So when you were on top of the other man you never ever thought "wow, this is wrong, my husband and kids are at home and here I am banging this other married man?" That never crossed your mind? You never wondered why you drove a bus over your family for this dude?

 

I would suggest some therapy to help you figure out why you could and would betray your family like that. Otherwise you are missing a big piece of the puzzle. Good luck.