guccimane99 Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 So ive been seeing this girl from well over two months we started talking when she was in germany and was dating for a while. I stopped and then after they broke up she came looking for me. I hung out with her and i just really liked her felt like a genuine connection. We had so much in common and it was weird. We hung out like three times because she lives really far away. So we went to visit her brother at a uni and she tried to sleep with me and passed out and i took care of her. Then we have been talking and she was like so and so was asking if we were dating and always brought it up so i thought she wanted to date so i asked her she said no. I was like u say u see a future what are u waiting for. So i told her i want a relationship but, if she wants to have a fling im fine with that too. She was like all you want to do is sleep with me but the thing is im still a virgin and im willing to give it to her because i see a future. So she texted me i love you last night when she was drunk after my friend said he thought he saw her all over a guy and then i remembered she goes out with her brother and her brothers friend. I told her i want a relationship and she says she needs to know me better. I told her your not gonna fully know the person fully even when ur with them for a year. When i talked to her she didnt seem anywhere intrested in the convo. Then she tells me she needs time to figure out if she wants a relationship or sex. To me it just seems like she wants sex and i dont so. Whats going on? What should i do? Should i give her the question of its either we date or we go our seperate ways. Help me please.
Beachead Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 One thing I realized after getting a little bit older is that liking someone and wanting a relationship with them are two entirely different things. This girl likes you but she doesn't want a relationship right now. She told you what was on her mind, she doesn't know whether she wants a relationship or just sex and I think you should stick to that. Starting a relationship off with a girl in this mindset (Drunk Dialing, stories bout her with other guys etc.) is an extremely draining experience right from the get go. This will bring the worst out in you. This is the way I would play it. Step back and try to embrace other girls or other things in life immediately. Do not talk about this stuff with her and keep your distance. This move is not for her, it's for you. If she asks what's happened, you tell her she sounds very confused and she needs to figure things out on her own. She will need a lot of time to do it. Rush her, and she's going to provide you with a complicated mess. Stick around, you will get more and more caught up and take the crossfire. Back off, and she just may respect you for giving her the space she needs. The catch is, you may be over her by the time she comes around. Best of luck
volvos90xc Posted May 18, 2012 Posted May 18, 2012 There are people like that. I am a guy who have some interests in some girls, but just do not want to start a relationship with them. It is because they are not prepare for it or they just don't want to be in one at the moment. I think she still likes you but just do not want to be in a relationship since a relationship requires a lot of time and effort.
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