Texsec Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Hi all, been lurking for months, time to post....I will try to keep it condensed...First, if Homebrew, Wilson or Gibson are out there, I would welcome some feedback. Dated the wife for 1.5 years, married 5. She is younger than me, I'm 47, she is 32. She never dated anyone less than 10 years older than her. Totally in love, very happy together, never knew there was a problem until the bomb. My mom has cancer and she was due to receive what we thought was grim news 3 days before Christmas last year. Wife was going home, (mexico) to visit family and I decided to stay here in the U.S. because of mom. She seemed cool and understood. 28th of Dec she comes home and announces she wants out, then proceeded to tell me everything I ever did wrong in the marriage. Things like I didn't dance with her new years 06? I didn't take her to a restaurant she wanted to go? We didn't get her new car quick enough, I didn't get the 20K master suite remodel done fast enough...totally grasping at straws and digging for reasons... We went to MC 5 times and I tried to change everything she was unhappy about. Things were better for 2 mo. then she started all the cheating signs, phone lock, purse by her bed, late from work, not coming home for lunch...She is bad a lies and might as well tattooed it on her forehead, "I'M CHEATING" She said she needed space, felt, trapped, bored, old, life was passing her by, was this all there is? bla bla bla BS. got the ILYBINILWY, she leased an apartment and the day she moved she was an emotional wreck, crying one min, angry the next, talking about us living in the apartment while I finished the kitchen remodel..I knew what was up. I found out she had a hidden bank account with 9k in it, and a hidden VOIP phone on her iPad. Gave her 2 weeks then busted her with sh*t bag serial cheater co worker. Hired a P.I. (I'm a 14 year P.I.) got it all on video, car tracker, everything. Told his wife, she said he had done it before, she was going to leave him, bla bla he has 2 girls, 3 and a newborn at the time.. We confronted them both at the same time. His wife rolled over and took it like she did the other 2 times, guess she won't ever leave.. My wife flipped out, got so upset she puked in front of her apartment. I went home and she showed up for the most bazaar hour I have ever seen, one min. in my lap, next min, pointing a finger at me,...Said she was empty inside and was trying to fill it, didn't understand why she felt that way, didn't care about him or his wife, so confused...I told her she could come to me, her husband with the problems and we would work on them together...She left, called 30 min later, super mad cuz dipsh..ts wife called her and wanted to know what was up.....said she wanted a divorce, I ruined everything and pushed her away.?? left her alone for a month, she called and wanted to take me out for my birthday? I was curious and agreed. went dancing, dinner great time. Called her the next day and she went off again. Same pattern 2-3 more times in 6 mo. I asked her a few times to come home, I still loved her, and she would just sit there and cry, not saying anything. Called once cuz her dog was very sick and insisted I see her before she went to the vet? Dog is ok now. I asked her to go to Paris with me for 3 days and she just sat there crying on the phone again..I really don't understand that. I had surgery in jan. and she asked to come over and help me wash? One time she would be there 2 hours, very sweet, next time, 20 min, lets get this over with...Her father has been diagnosed with cancer. She had a strained relationship with him as he was a boozer, but, recovered. Her mom really likes me and told me she runs from problems. She walked in on college BF and roomy going at it and wanted to quit and go home. Mom would not let her. I was her 2nd serious relationship. other BF was physical with her and did not like her family..So, she called the other day and said she wants out wants to get it done...I guess I'm going to give it to her, as I don't see what else to do.. Maybe she will see I was good to her and want to work on it, maybe not...I don't know if I could trust her again.....Gigs or just a selfish beeotch? My uncle is a 30 year shrink and says she has a lot of borderline Pers. disorder traits...I Thoughts? Bring it folks, I need you.....
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