fusRoDah Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 (edited) First off, i am a guy, he is a guy. So situation might a little different than the rest of the cases. We've been dating for one year and a month, We went straight from acquaintance to couple in one day(we knew each other before, but haven't really talked to each other, he told me he been having a crush on me ever since he saw me). I was his first boyfriend, and a steady one(he has been in closet and been dating girls), within a week or 2, we started to fall in love with each other. Things has been great ever since, i admit i've neglected him quite often because of my work and stuff. But still, we love each other. We celebrated our 1 year anniversary march of this year, and he was telling me how much he loved me and how he sees this relationships going stronger and stronger. But sh*t happens, he went back to his home country for a 3 weeks visit shortly after. And i got depressed and panic because he hardly text me or talk to me while he was in there and suddenly he told me he didn't want to come back here anymore. I was depressed, and panic.. and i told him we should break up, and we did. 1 week later he came back to pack his belongings, we talked, i offered him to go there with him for a change in my life. But he didn't want me to, instead he told me he slept with an old crush of his back there, and he is falling in love with him, but they are taking thing slow. 2 days after that talk, we met our friends and hung out for one last time. we both got drunk, we had an argument. He said he still love me, but he loves him too. but when i confront, he admit he would choose that guy over me for the time being and so i told him to stay away from me. But later in the middle of the night, he called me, told me he want to come over to my place and talk to me. I didn't want him to, but i allowed him to. he was crying, hugging me and touching me. He later told me I should move on, about how good I am and how I can find someone who deserves me. but i don't know.. if it feels the same for him anymore. I have never cried for someone, or be in love this bad in my life. He was the first person i ever felt like spending my life together with. So i need some help from a third party views and some prefessionals, What are the odds of getting him back in this situation? He is still going back to his home-country, he might come back here since his family are here, But he told me the main reason to go back there is to take care of his half brother there. I've made up my mind to try what everyone is doing, No contact for month and see how things go.. hope it isn't too late. I do not want to just give up, i want to fight. Edited April 30, 2012 by fusRoDah
Philosoraptor Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Heartbreak is heartbreak, it matters not how it happened. Actions speak louder than words, and he has made a choice to try with someone else. If I were in your place I would cut all contact, change my number if necessary, and start working on myself. Work on finding your path to healing and finding peace with the situation. It hurts right now but it does get better if you concentrate on yourself.
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