joystickd Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Do they come from a place of insecurity? Do you have specific reasons why you want what you want? Are you open to tweaking preferences?
USMCHokie Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 My preferences came from what I was actually able to attract...and I have a feeling this will be true for a large percentage of folks here...even if they aren't willing to admit it... 1
Author joystickd Posted April 30, 2012 Author Posted April 30, 2012 What kind of preferences are you referring to ? preferences in the opposite sex
Els Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 You ask a lot of general questions without answering them yourself, don't you? No, yes, and somewhat.
Cracker Jack Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Not really. I just developed certain preferences as I gotten older. Most of what I prefer is pretty basic and in no way extreme or strict, anyway. I might prefer a woman with curly hair and a juicy ass, but it's so minor that it doesn't really matter.
Author joystickd Posted April 30, 2012 Author Posted April 30, 2012 You ask a lot of general questions without answering them yourself, don't you? No, yes, and somewhat. These general question help other users more than me
USMCHokie Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 You ask a lot of general questions without answering them yourself, don't you? But that makes him mysterious...and therefore, desirable. 2
Author joystickd Posted April 30, 2012 Author Posted April 30, 2012 But that makes him mysterious...and therefore, desirable. Hell I'm mysterious to my own family.
somedude81 Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Right now my preferences feel more like hindrances. 1
verhrzn Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 ... How do the questions help? My preference comes from who I can attract. Really all there is to it. 1
SmileFace Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 My preferences generally are from specific reasons. However each and every one of preferences falls to the way side for who I find myself attracted to.
TheFinalWord Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Do they come from a place of insecurity? Do you have specific reasons why you want what you want? Are you open to tweaking preferences? You mean just physical? Mental? Spiritual? I think we all desire things at different phases in life. As a man in my early 30s I am looking for someone that is mature and has goals. In my 20s it was someone primarily to party with. Physically, I don't have a bucket list of "must haves". More than once I thought a girl was okay looking and came to be heavily physically attracted after a few conversations.
Author joystickd Posted April 30, 2012 Author Posted April 30, 2012 ... How do the questions help? My preference comes from who I can attract. Really all there is to it. Just watch and you will get your answer
Radu Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 preferences in the opposite sex Mine come from my first 'sexual' experiences and from what is different here. I like variation from the norm a lot.
Star Gazer Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Do they come from a place of insecurity? Absolutely not. Do you have specific reasons why you want what you want? Yes. Are you open to tweaking preferences? Generally, no. 1
Leigh 87 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Interestingly ( at least I think so haha), it is my own appearance and facial features that make me naturally attracted to the opposite type of women. I have lived every dday with the things I like and dislike about myself, so I really dislike two things: My roman nose with a not nice profile ( not looks normal straight on) and my large, athletic build. So, the most desirable and attractive women to me, have cute up turned or button noses, or at least neat noses, and a petite body type. i just find that to be more pleasing and feminine to look at.
PratyekaYana Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 I do consider the origin of my preferences from time to time, and, as the OP alluded, these occasions are usually marked by an attempt to reform or transcend them after having noticed a negative connection within (though not necessarily insecurity). For instance, when I was younger, I had a lurking bias against women who identified with the metal and punk subculture. Growth and reflection over the years showed me that this was a carry over from experiences of insular cliques during my formative years in high school. So, I dropped it.
Michael Johnson Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 My preferences are updated like software systems when I get a new partner. Past experiences along with societal reasons develop them, I guess.
Nikki Sahagin Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 I tend to like a weird combination of intense/aloof men (yes it is possible). I also go crazy for serious dudes. They say we go for people who remind us of our dads. My dad has dark features (my preference), is quiet, serious, masculine and intense and also not particularly emotional available. I find I tend to gravitate to these qualities, but am also very intense myself. I REALLY love a guy who emits quiet intensity, rather than a party boy or frat boy type. On the flip side, I like a charismatic, laid back, free spirit guy too...but intense/serious is probs my deepest preference and I suppose I could link that to the traits I saw in my father. I find intensity a VERY sexy trait.
january2011 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Do they come from a place of insecurity? Do you have specific reasons why you want what you want? Are you open to tweaking preferences? No. Yes. Yes.
gotye Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 I know I have always had the preference, I can remember finding what I like now as good when I was young (when I didn't understand sexual attraction but when I saw guys that match what I like now I was really fascinated)... it kind of developed from there I swear a lot of preferences was from when I was in 4th grade and watched Buffy the Vampire Slayer obsessively and thought Giles was the swankiest, coolest dude ever... now love glasses and tweed jackets. I don't even find Giles attractive, just his style
FitChick Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 I think most of us get "imprinted" in our teens. I loved the look of skinny British rockers with great hair. Not their hedonistic lifestyle though. I still like British guys but with muscle tone (not bulky), who wear suits to work.
Recommended Posts