What's the longest time you've waited before making your relationship 'official'?

[crazylove]

As the title suggest, just wondering how long it was before you waited before offically becoming boyfriend/girlfriend/partners, and what would be the longest time you would be prepared to wait?

[Onlyjonley]

Waited 4 months with my current bf ... 3 weeks with my ex.

[wildgeese]

It took me almost 5 months before I agreed to make it official. He asked after about 3 months of hanging out. Before that I had been single for over two years and was very comfortable being single. And when I say single, I mean I had one brief FWB fling but otherwise I didn't date at all. I had no interest and I still look back on those years in fondness. I was nervous about entering a relationship and I was uncomfortable with making something serious when I wasn't quite ready.

 

Nontraditional, sure, but we've been dating for over a year and a half now. Worth it.

[insertnamehere]

I've never made a relationship "official". And that includes one that went on for two years.

[crazylove]

I've never made a relationship "official". And that includes one that went on for two years.

 

 

Does that mean you were in a friends with benefits kind of situation, or just that you didn't want a label? ...and how was your partner with that?

[MontanaGirl]

Two and a half years, then I gave up. We were exclusive the whole time, and saw each other nearly daily, but he didn't want anyone to know about us and I certainly didn't get the "girlfriend" title.

 

We worked together, so it could've been awkward I suppose (not against company policy). That was the excuse he used most of the time, along with a host of other excuses. I think the real reason was, he was still hung up on the ex before me and knew being in an official relationship with me would've meant they were really permanently over. He'd never admit that, of course.

 

That was a tough situation, will never let myself go back to that place again.

[crazylove]

Two and a half years, then I gave up. We were exclusive the whole time, and saw each other nearly daily, but he didn't want anyone to know about us and I certainly didn't get the "girlfriend" title.

 

We worked together, so it could've been awkward I suppose (not against company policy). That was the excuse he used most of the time, along with a host of other excuses. I think the real reason was, he was still hung up on the ex before me and knew being in an official relationship with me would've meant they were really permanently over. He'd never admit that, of course.

 

That was a tough situation, will never let myself go back to that place again.

 

Wow, yeah that's a really long time!! Must have been hard for you.

[Leigh 87]

We waited about 5 months or so, but we agreed not to see other people, nor did we want to, before hand.

 

We are much closer now, i.5 years later. We were just single for years, and never had a real relationship before each other, therefore we were just seeing each other and making sure it worked out before making things ' official".

We wanted to be exclusive, though, and we were... We just did not refer to each other as bf and gf yet.

[MontanaGirl]

It was tough. He was a good guy, just took commitment phobia to a new extreme. Other than him, I think a couple months is a good amount of time before making a relationship "official" for me.