xxSRMxx Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Ive been at work today, obviously the inevitable happened when i returned home and i started to feel a little down....I was having a chat with one of my sisters friends, and she was telling me about how when her bf left her 3 days after she had there daughter and how ten months later she still cant move on, and that he is now with another woman blah blah and does not do anything for the child...how does he sleep soundly?? Then it got me to thinking about my ex, how hes just walking around, happy as larry, talking about ****ing new clothes he wants to get, bragging about what hes doing with his life and his next night out. Yet one month ago he told me he loved me more than anything and i had NO idea he would just drop me like this! HOW can he walk around knowing hes inflicted such pain on me? I personally couldnt do it to someone, I understand he obviously didnt want me as much as i thought...but it hurts, Did i really mean nothing?! does he honestly sit in his flat and not think about me? its just unbelievable, I feel like ive wasted my time! 1
redrose123 Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 I feel the same way. It seems that these people are selfish and have no compassion at all! My ex hurt me so much so many times but if I do something out of anger that I think might hurt him I immediately regret it and feel bad meanwhile he has gone on just fine knowing that I'm a complete mess 1
Author xxSRMxx Posted April 30, 2012 Author Posted April 30, 2012 I regret the day I ever let him into my heart.....But I have learnt a valuable harsh lesson! My next relationship will be different, IF i ever have one! :s
Chacha8 Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 I know exactly how you feel. About 5 weeks ago, my husband told me he couldn't see life without me....he loved me more than anything and wanted to work through any problems we had. The next week, he said he wanted a divorce, and within a week after that, he was already seeing someone else. I am starting to see that he probably was seeing her before he actually left me, but I guess I was in denial for awhile. The hard part is seeing how he is just moving right along with his life....he doesn't care about how bad he has hurt me or our son (who was absolutely devastated, I might add). He says he wants to be my friend, but at this point, I don't want to be friends with someone who could do all of these things and not even bat an eye. He's never even called our son once during all of this to check on him. I don't see how anyone can be so heartless. I know exactly what you are going through. Hope your situation gets better.
Author xxSRMxx Posted April 30, 2012 Author Posted April 30, 2012 I know exactly how you feel. About 5 weeks ago, my husband told me he couldn't see life without me....he loved me more than anything and wanted to work through any problems we had. The next week, he said he wanted a divorce, and within a week after that, he was already seeing someone else. I am starting to see that he probably was seeing her before he actually left me, but I guess I was in denial for awhile. The hard part is seeing how he is just moving right along with his life....he doesn't care about how bad he has hurt me or our son (who was absolutely devastated, I might add). He says he wants to be my friend, but at this point, I don't want to be friends with someone who could do all of these things and not even bat an eye. He's never even called our son once during all of this to check on him. I don't see how anyone can be so heartless. I know exactly what you are going through. Hope your situation gets better. So sorry that you and your son have had to go through that, Hope you are bearing up okay, I'm kind of getting to the point where I do suspect if there was somebody else he had his eye on, I just find it all suspicious, but I really dont want to rack my brain with that right now. I always think about karma...but to be honest I think karma is aload of bull. I see plenty of scumbags/sluts landing on there feet on a daily basis... 1
JesseJames Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 You chose them... you deal with them. Sounds harsh, but what else is there?
jphcbpa Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 I know exactly how you feel. About 5 weeks ago, my husband told me he couldn't see life without me....he loved me more than anything and wanted to work through any problems we had. The next week, he said he wanted a divorce, and within a week after that, he was already seeing someone else. I am starting to see that he probably was seeing her before he actually left me, but I guess I was in denial for awhile. The hard part is seeing how he is just moving right along with his life....he doesn't care about how bad he has hurt me or our son (who was absolutely devastated, I might add). He says he wants to be my friend, but at this point, I don't want to be friends with someone who could do all of these things and not even bat an eye. He's never even called our son once during all of this to check on him. I don't see how anyone can be so heartless. I know exactly what you are going through. Hope your situation gets better. Sounds like he was seeing her for a while. Perhaps the week he was "all in" she was pushing him away and the next week she came back. I could be wrong but affairs are very push-pull like that
jphcbpa Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Ive been at work today, obviously the inevitable happened when i returned home and i started to feel a little down....I was having a chat with one of my sisters friends, and she was telling me about how when her bf left her 3 days after she had there daughter and how ten months later she still cant move on, and that he is now with another woman blah blah and does not do anything for the child...how does he sleep soundly?? Then it got me to thinking about my ex, how hes just walking around, happy as larry, talking about ****ing new clothes he wants to get, bragging about what hes doing with his life and his next night out. Yet one month ago he told me he loved me more than anything and i had NO idea he would just drop me like this! HOW can he walk around knowing hes inflicted such pain on me? I personally couldnt do it to someone, I understand he obviously didnt want me as much as i thought...but it hurts, Did i really mean nothing?! does he honestly sit in his flat and not think about me? its just unbelievable, I feel like ive wasted my time! Your ex did you a favor. Better now than being married to him 1
jphcbpa Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 I regret the day I ever let him into my heart.....But I have learnt a valuable harsh lesson! My next relationship will be different, IF i ever have one! :s Don't believe the lie that there will not be another relationship, the best is yet to come 1
Author xxSRMxx Posted April 30, 2012 Author Posted April 30, 2012 Don't believe the lie that there will not be another relationship, the best is yet to come I genuinely thought the best had come, everybody who met him liked him, all my friends n family etc, and yes ive had psycho moments in the break up and not dealt with things properly but i was hurt! Yet to be so so cold....it frightens me that he can be that way. However, this is the same man who refused to speak to his own mother for two years (not for valid enough reasons as far as im concerned) has ''dad issues'' AND also has problems expressing his feelings...whereas ive always been the opposite. He always talks about this ''freedom'' he wants, but he had freedom, we saw each other 4 times a week when i was in college, its not like i was around every single day. Id appreciate it if i was stressful all the time but i really wasnt, sure I was insecure and this break up has shown me that I need to work on myself and my issues. But apart from that i was a pretty dam good gf who was fiercely loyal! He said to me when we split ''If i have to get with a girl who may not be as good looking as you, or have such a good personality like u then i will, if she gives me a stress free life'' Fair enough, I hope his next girlfriend sleeps with his best friend, and records it...and then shows him....
Mr Scorpio Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 its just unbelievable, I feel like ive wasted my time! But I have learnt a valuable harsh lesson! My next relationship will be different, IF i ever have one! :s So then, can you see how you didnt actually waste your time? 1
jphcbpa Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Sounds like there were red flags that you chose to ignore. I bet there are more. Make a list of them, review them often, add to the list, keep this list, when he returns pull out the list. The red flag list will be the truth and reality. He has not changed 1
Author xxSRMxx Posted April 30, 2012 Author Posted April 30, 2012 So then, can you see how you didnt actually waste your time? Yeah....
Chacha8 Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Sounds like he was seeing her for a while. Perhaps the week he was "all in" she was pushing him away and the next week she came back. I could be wrong but affairs are very push-pull like that I defintely think you are right! He denies it, but there's no doubt in my mind.
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