TheFinalWord Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 I saw her with another guy She doesn't know I saw though. I have to see her in a few days for a work function. When last we talked she said she wasn't interested in dating at the moment (obvious lie haha) She doesn't really talk to me anymore, though we do have to interact a bit for work. I know it's not good to even mention it to her. Just burns me a bit b/c she'll play innocent around me and do little things to keep a second chance alive. I guess just smile and avoid as much as possible... Has something like this ever happened to you? How did you handle it?
jobaba Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 I saw her with another guy She doesn't know I saw though. I have to see her in a few days for a work function. When last we talked she said she wasn't interested in dating at the moment (obvious lie haha) She doesn't really talk to me anymore, though we do have to interact a bit for work. I know it's not good to even mention it to her. Just burns me a bit b/c she'll play innocent around me and do little things to keep a second chance alive. I guess just smile and avoid as much as possible... Has something like this ever happened to you? How did you handle it? Only you can answer this question bud. Can you handle it? My guess is if you're posting here and by some of your other posts, you still have feelings for her ... in which case, I would avoid her, especially if she's type that's gonna bring another guy and get all trampy with him in front of you. 1
Author TheFinalWord Posted April 30, 2012 Author Posted April 30, 2012 Only you can answer this question bud. Can you handle it? My guess is if you're posting here and by some of your other posts, you still have feelings for her ... in which case, I would avoid her, especially if she's type that's gonna bring another guy and get all trampy with him in front of you. Yeah, I do...kinda. Logically, I can see why we're not a good match, but my heart isn't being so agreeable Good thing is that here in a few months I won't have to see her anymore haha about the last part. I will just be polite and not engage her.
Oxy Moronovich Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Why were you dating a chick you work with?
Author TheFinalWord Posted April 30, 2012 Author Posted April 30, 2012 Why were you dating a chick you work with? LOL I know right? That's why I keep telling others not to do it! We don't really "work" together. I'm a grad student and teach classes at a community college for extra money. She does too.
neowulf Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Honestly? Avoid the situation until you're "over" this girl. Eventually you'll move past it. It might not be today, or tomorrow.. but eventually it won't bother you any more. People often seem to think that because a relationship fails, the only way forward is to demonise their ex. For the most part, all my ex's have bee great people. Not perfect people, no.. but then again, neither was I. I honestly wanted them to be happy and wasn't angry or bitter about them. 2
RiverRunning Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 I once ran into my first ex when I was with my then-boyfriend. But, we were both dating other people and it had been...I don't know...nearly two years since our break-up by then. It was VERY uncomfortable, though, as while the initial break-up went smoothly, I think my first ex was -furious- when he saw that rather than running back to him when he got into a rebound relationship like two weeks later, I simply cut off all contact with him. I heard from some mutual acquaintances and friends that he went on quite the smear campaign after that, both online and offline. How did I run into my first ex while with another boyfriend? We were in the same restaurant. Waitress seated us at booths that were back-to-back. Thankfully, I wasn't facing him, but that was the most awkward 20 - 30 minutes of my life! 1
SushiX Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 She's no longer yours. Get over it and move on. Plenty O fishes in the sea bro.
Author TheFinalWord Posted April 30, 2012 Author Posted April 30, 2012 How did I run into my first ex while with another boyfriend? We were in the same restaurant. Waitress seated us at booths that were back-to-back. Thankfully, I wasn't facing him, but that was the most awkward 20 - 30 minutes of my life! Oh wow, that's nuts! She's no longer yours. Get over it and move on. Plenty O fishes in the sea bro. Thanks bro. Yeah, I'm talking to someone else. It's good. Am I the only one that burns a bit when you see some other dude on your ex? lol Oh well, I just have to respect her enough to let her pursue happiness.
Emilia Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Am I the only one that burns a bit when you see some other dude on your ex? lol No, if I saw my ex now with another girl, it would kill me. Luckily I have never experienced that. Otherwise I like neowulf's post. It will pass soon enough.
g450 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 How do I handle it? I just ignore it and continue to clean my shotgun. Dang thing is getting rusty. Ya know Im kidding right? I have a hunch my X is seeing somebody. Hell she had an online affair even before she asked for a divorce so Im betting she has already hooked up with him. I simply try not to think about it for my own sake. And I stay away from her unless I absolutely have to see her. I look at it this way. No matter who she is with, he will be getting damaged goods. She really is damaged. And I was one in a million for putting up with her. So good luck to her. She will need it. 1
Author TheFinalWord Posted May 2, 2012 Author Posted May 2, 2012 I look at it this way. No matter who she is with, he will be getting damaged goods. She really is damaged. And I was one in a million for putting up with her. So good luck to her. She will need it. True, true!
Radu Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 I saw her with another guy She doesn't know I saw though. I have to see her in a few days for a work function. When last we talked she said she wasn't interested in dating at the moment (obvious lie haha) She doesn't really talk to me anymore, though we do have to interact a bit for work. I know it's not good to even mention it to her. Just burns me a bit b/c she'll play innocent around me and do little things to keep a second chance alive. I guess just smile and avoid as much as possible... Has something like this ever happened to you? How did you handle it? I usually go 'it's his problem now' !
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