nugget77 Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 About me, I am educated, 32 years old and for the first time in my life, I am very much confused over a girl. I have had many women in my young life and have had many one night stands thanks to my band days... I have also had a few girls that I strictly used for sex, so, perhaps karma is coming my way right now. Ill try and make this simple. I moved to Puerto Rico from NY to enjoy the beach etc. About a week off of the plane I met this girl on the beach while she was biking and I was finished surfing. We talked, invited her to a bbq that night, she came, she stayed my house same night, we hooked up. We went a few days without talking then had a long convo on the phone with her mom there! We made plans that niight and I met her mom then went to her place to **** her. We slept together and after that night we pretty much lived together at one of our houses. we were together 24/7 for three months until one night my band was playing. Everything seemed fine but she started talking to this guy and wound up leaving with him right in front of me. I know, I should have never spoke to this girl again but I was very much into her. Out of all the girls ive been with in my life I actually thought I met the best girl for me ever. I flew back home the next day for a few days. I hated her but wound up calling her to see what was up. She was nervous at first but then we spoke for an hour or more. I wound up bookng a ticket back to pr because I quote from her mouth, " Daddy I want to see you again, Im sorry) ..I came back and we went slow for a week but for 4 more months we were so tight again. With each other 6 nights a week. Then, about two months ago, she text me after leavng my place that she DOESN'T want A RELATIONSHIP, not with me, not with anyone. She then was very bitchy in the texts and went out to a club that night (Presumably to get it on with someone). However two days later she text me after telling me to get lost ( I dd nothing wrong, it was random and she admits it) and asks me to go to a club. She said doesnt want a relationship all the time, but get this, I now live at her house, we **** and sleep together every night, we are moving to ny for work till october, we are going to be living together. Its like we are married except she always says she doesnt want a relationship an she even tells me she plans to **** guys in nyc.. Ok What the Hell is going on with this girl! Does she want to be with me in the future or no?? Is she getting some sort of sex out of the way she needs to fullfill then be with me? Or, what I think, we are friends and she likes to have sex with me, but wants a relation from someone else.. ?? Here is what makes it obvious she doesn't want a relationship from me: -we going to ny, she says she wants to be a bad girl and to prepare me for the fact she is going to go home with other guys -She truly like muscle guys and I am a skinny surfer dude -The thing she has done in the past, such as leaving with another guy n front of me -she has told me she isnt ready for a relationship . Here is what leaves me scratching my head -We live and sleep together and have plans to for the next 6 months at least -We have pillow talk, we hold each other tight at night, we have GREAT sex -She calls me daddy constantly, she really plays the baby roll. Its pet talk but I really feel like her dad, she looks up to me. When all is said and done, to me its a tough shell to crack which I have. -She ALWAYS asks me " Daddy , dont treat me bad and dont leave me" however after we play that little game, she gets serious and says its just a game for her.. A BIG ONE- She warned me in ny she wants to have sex with other guys and s worried I am going to get sad because she knows I like her so much. We spoke about it and she knows it will hurt me and that I am lying when I say I can brush it off. However, she says sorry, its what I am going to do in nyc, BUT, then a minute after the convo she says she doesnt know what the future holds and maybe she wont be with anyone and then calls me daddy and holds me tight etc etc.. Is this girl the biggest mind **** or what? I have never seen anything like this in my life. I am soooooo confused, is there a chance of us being together or is it always going to be friends with benefits and NO commitment from her..? I think its friends with benefits until she meets her muscle guy or we go our separate ways for other reasons.. Tell me I am wrong please cause I like her so much. About Her A model, very poor girl yet most beautiful. Guys want her terribly. Trust me when I say she is amazing. Probably has daddy issues and trust issues, admits to having a wall for people. Her dad left her at 5 yrs old to only see hera again yrs later. She and her brother who is gay and hey live together, hate their father. Thinks she is bi polar, happy one day sad the next thinks mysteriously, always says she wants to live on mars alone. So much more,PLEASE GIVE GOOD ADVICE AND BE HONEST!
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 The longer you stay, the harder it will be to leave. She already suggesting going home with other fellows. Dealbreaker there and if you are intimate with her, you need to get tested just in case. "Skinny surfer dude" you say? Love it:) She's playing mind games with you in a big way. If you are up to the challenge, stay, but it sounds like you will be hurt very badly from this.
Imajerk17 Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 (edited) You know what you have to do. Leave her and her bipolar craziness. It's a matter of your survival here. She's already killing you slowly. You're putting up with a woman who is openly disrespecting you and likely, getting you at a possible insecurity--that you're not a muscular dude. Edited April 29, 2012 by Imajerk17
truth_seeker Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Go to NY without her. She comes with you, it will destroy you. She knows you are totally into her and she is taking advantage of this. That right there should tell you what kid of person she is. Leave her in PR.
GildedLily Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 She's using you sweet heart; who's paying for all of these adventures? You've got to give this girl credit, she's set it up so good that she can **** other guys and you can't get mad because she told you she would wow! You feel like her dad? and then you **** her? that's just sick. I feel you need to talk to a therapist for yourself; a healthy dude would've said "no thank you" to this one.
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Even more than a horror movie or a love story, it resembles a Lifetime TV special.
TigerCub Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 hmmm, I always thought "Daddy"s would be dominant and authoritative - so why are you acting like her bitch? 1
Author nugget77 Posted April 30, 2012 Author Posted April 30, 2012 Thanks for all your advice.. I am do take charge and make the leading decisions for sure. I am just wondering if I should take this forward or bail. To make my original post more clear, SHE HAS NEVER asked me for money. I gave her $200 to fix her car once and she said she didn't want it because she would feel like I would have the control over her. I had to convince her to take it. She is also Selling her car to pay for her own ticket and her half of the rent. She doesn't ask anyone for money including me. She always states she doesn't need anything from anyone.
GildedLily Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Then she's using you emotionally for comfort; to have someone around, it's not normal or healthy to see each other everyday or to live with someone that quick after meeting them.
amantis Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Thanks for all your advice.. I am do take charge and make the leading decisions for sure. I am just wondering if I should take this forward or bail. To make my original post more clear, SHE HAS NEVER asked me for money. I gave her $200 to fix her car once and she said she didn't want it because she would feel like I would have the control over her. I had to convince her to take it. She is also Selling her car to pay for her own ticket and her half of the rent. She doesn't ask anyone for money including me. She always states she doesn't need anything from anyone. You take charge ? you are her little bitch She thinks that she is bipolar ? you are the one who needs to go to a doctor for sure . She tells you in your face that she is going to fk other guys and you are asking us our opinion Sorry the way im talking , but come on , she is telling you how she thinks , and you dont want to see . If a girlfriend tell me that she is going to fk other guys i would bail the next second and dont look back . Its all a game for her , and she is playing you . Just end everything and move on , i bet that you are going to find someone more normal then her ... she is fking crazy
Yare Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 That girl is not right in the head...and you're not that far behind from her...What are you doing Daddy? Get away from that psycho and go shop for some self respect...
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