Sophia12345 Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 I know even though I don't want to I need to. In my head i'm convinced I won't im floating through limbo with what i'm doing. One minute its 'I love him our love is strong enough to get through anything' next its 'well what if we can't and he moves on completely...' Id like to think im prepared for that but I guess I won't know untill it happens. I rushed in there with no background, me and my bf were together for over 4 years and about a month ago he went into what I now seem to think is the GIGS state. No real reason to break up other than he wants to chill and get wasted with freinds all the time which is fine I get it im more than happy to let him to that just worried he'll never return.... I mean he says he will and he loves me and no one compares to me blahblah his mum said he loves me and doesnt want to let go he just needs his time blahblah which I get its just fear of having to deal with letting to FOR REAL. Atm we still have contact and we have a open relationship through all of this, if there was another girl I would DEFFINATELY 100% know about it. I keep posting random threads on here just so I can vent whats going on in my head, give myself some sanity.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 the best thing u can do is find something else to conmpletely preoccupy ur time. being idle does nothing for you and neither does venting. you'll just feel more sorry for yourself. be productive and take up a hobby that will mentally and physically prep you for when they decide to worm their way back into your life.but you'll be at a better place then.
uptowngurlie01 Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 Well just to give you some hope. I was in a relationship for 5 years on and off which ended like 5 years ago. I was this guys first real relationship ever (he was 17 when we started dating and just turned 21 when we broke up for good). So everything was great for awhile until a couple things happened. His dad died pretty suddenly, he found out he had Crohns disease and couldn't get into the naval academy which was his life-long dream. So long story short he started to slowly push me away and treat me like crap. So through all of this I stayed with him. Then we played the off and on again for a reallyyyy long time b/c again I was his first ever real relationship, he was in college and wanted to "see what else is out there". He would always come running back like clockwork once he realized the glass is never greener on the other side. So after 5 years of this back and forth nonsense I ended it for good. Moved on. However, I just got out of another relationship myself recently and here is my ex again trying to come back for another chance after all these years. I think you have a chance of him coming back for good, in my case it happened. But every relationship is different and the last thing I'd want is for you to waste your time. I'd go out, have fun, try and meet new people and date around and see what else is out there yourself. You never know, you may surprise yourself and realize that your guy isn't really want you want anyway
Author Sophia12345 Posted April 29, 2012 Author Posted April 29, 2012 I am living my life normally getting on with it I'm not moping around as much as I was but i'm worried thats because in my head i think hes going to return? I dont know. Im letting him get on with it as thats what he needs, I DO NOT EVER contact him first, allways him doing the contacting but I allways reply...We have met since the break up, twice and both times have been a mix between him showing his love for me eg cuddling and falling asleep together like normal ect talking like nothing is wrong and his new 'chilled out life' as in he went out with his boys whilst I was there ( I stayed and spent time with his mum and slept at his that night). I just dont want him to think he can have his new lifestyle and have me whenever he likes, but I also want to be here for him and not leave him because its not what i WANT to do... erghh i wish everything didnt take time! Life would be so much easier but also unrealistic.....
Author Sophia12345 Posted April 29, 2012 Author Posted April 29, 2012 Well just to give you some hope. I was in a relationship for 5 years on and off which ended like 5 years ago. I was this guys first real relationship ever (he was 17 when we started dating and just turned 21 when we broke up for good). So everything was great for awhile until a couple things happened. His dad died pretty suddenly, he found out he had Crohns disease and couldn't get into the naval academy which was his life-long dream. So long story short he started to slowly push me away and treat me like crap. So through all of this I stayed with him. Then we played the off and on again for a reallyyyy long time b/c again I was his first ever real relationship, he was in college and wanted to "see what else is out there". He would always come running back like clockwork once he realized the glass is never greener on the other side. So after 5 years of this back and forth nonsense I ended it for good. Moved on. However, I just got out of another relationship myself recently and here is my ex again trying to come back for another chance after all these years. I think you have a chance of him coming back for good, in my case it happened. But every relationship is different and the last thing I'd want is for you to waste your time. I'd go out, have fun, try and meet new people and date around and see what else is out there yourself. You never know, you may surprise yourself and realize that your guy isn't really want you want anyway What made to stay for those 5 years, was it hope it would work out? Im at that phase where I dont even want to meet anyone else, im happy to let my ex do his thing and ill live my life just am not ready to see what anyone else has to offer.... I hope everything does work out, I really do our love is amazing and I know even now, with the state were in we would both do anything for eachother, call me stupid or w/e but im 100% sure of that. Maybe itll all blow up in my face but only time will tell, Ill never know if I dont try. Sorry for the rambling, dont realise ive done it till after!
uptowngurlie01 Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 Honestly...I stayed because I loved him and I understood what he was going through. I knew how depressed he was and on top of that I knew he wanted to see what else was out there. I didn't want him to be 40 and looking back on his life and wondering what else was out there since I was the only girl he ever was with. Trust me, it wasn't easy and I was depressed most of the time through college because of it. I finally ended it, because I hit a breaking point where I realized he just wasn't treating me good and I deserved so much better. But like I said 5 years later here he is back again asking for a second chance (or should i say 100th chance) saying he's grown up and has changed. So I do believe that some breakups have second chances...just depends on each individual relationship.
Tiera D Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 u said u are in an open relationship with him at the 1st post and later u said you have meet up since the breakup so which is which? TD
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