warrenorabbits Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 I have had almost no success with them. I don't recall how many I've messaged, but out of several dozen, maybe five or six responses. Of those five or six, two or three led to dates. None of those dates led to anything serious. I'm not one of those "hi wassssup" kind of guys, I have a cute picture of myself on my profile, my profile makes me out to be fun and interesting ... but I messaged two people yesterday, both of them looked at my profile, and neither even gave me the time of day. Is my experience in this regard normal?
Ross MwcFan Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 I have had almost no success with them. I don't recall how many I've messaged, but out of several dozen, maybe five or six responses. Of those five or six, two or three led to dates. None of those dates led to anything serious. I'm not one of those "hi wassssup" kind of guys, I have a cute picture of myself on my profile, my profile makes me out to be fun and interesting ... but I messaged two people yesterday, both of them looked at my profile, and neither even gave me the time of day. Is my experience in this regard normal? I think it is yeah.
oaks Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 Is my experience in this regard normal? For a guy, yes.
Ross MwcFan Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 Maybe the experience is different for men? Oh yeah, women on dating sites get 100's of messages everyday.
truth_seeker Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 This woman I was tallking to on an OLD site hid her profile. I was thinking she did this because she was into me and didn't want other guys to email her. Am I right to think this?
starla33 Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 This woman I was tallking to on an OLD site hid her profile. I was thinking she did this because she was into me and didn't want other guys to email her. Am I right to think this? Was this after you went out or b4? Because if you haven't even gone out yet then no.
truth_seeker Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Was this after you went out or b4? Because if you haven't even gone out yet then no. It was b4 but then she went out of her way to try and get in touch with me IRL. We never connected though.
JesseJames Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 I've read many a female profile. The ones I found to be remotely interesting are the ones in their late twenties, PhD, well-travelled, no kids, average-looking.... and beyond that there isn't much for excitement. If I did a search for my zip code or state, my libido would swirl up and disappear to nothingness for sure. One thing is a constant though (besides mostly the obese and ugly): 99% do not mention what they can offer the other person and have at least one negative statement. To conclude: It's a fiercely bad joke being played on men. Refuse to use these sites. 1
riggs Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 I've read many a female profile. The ones I found to be remotely interesting are the ones in their late twenties, PhD, well-travelled, no kids, average-looking.... and beyond that there isn't much for excitement. If I did a search for my zip code or state, my libido would swirl up and disappear to nothingness for sure. One thing is a constant though (besides mostly the obese and ugly): 99% do not mention what they can offer the other person and have at least one negative statement. To conclude: It's a fiercely bad joke being played on men. Refuse to use these sites. I concur 100 percent. I've pledged to meet to women the old fashioned way, in REAL life. 2
starla33 Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 I've read many a female profile. The ones I found to be remotely interesting are the ones in their late twenties, PhD, well-travelled, no kids, average-looking.... and beyond that there isn't much for excitement. If I did a search for my zip code or state, my libido would swirl up and disappear to nothingness for sure. One thing is a constant though (besides mostly the obese and ugly): 99% do not mention what they can offer the other person and have at least one negative statement. To conclude: It's a fiercely bad joke being played on men. Refuse to use these sites. I'm sorry I didn't know you had to write about what you have to offer in your dating profile. That is hilarious. Should it go like: I can offer to cook for you and scrub your floors and give you sex while reading poetry? Seriously? That is asking for a lot I would run away from a profile like that.
JesseJames Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 I'm sorry I didn't know you had to write about what you have to offer in your dating profile. That is hilarious. Should it go like: I can offer to cook for you and scrub your floors and give you sex while reading poetry? Seriously? That is asking for a lot I would run away from a profile like that. The fact of the matter is, if you aren't going to mention anything other than what you expect from the other person, then you have yourself a pretty biased-reading profile. Without something, at all, to offset all your whims and desires, I'm going to run away from a profile like that. That, pray tell othewise, is asking for next to nothing. 1
Radu Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 I'm sorry I didn't know you had to write about what you have to offer in your dating profile. That is hilarious. Should it go like: I can offer to cook for you and scrub your floors and give you sex while reading poetry? Seriously? That is asking for a lot I would run away from a profile like that. Are you ... serious ? So having a pulse, breasts and vagina should be enough qualification ? The fact of the matter is, if you aren't going to mention anything other than what you expect from the other person, then you have yourself a pretty biased-reading profile. Without something, at all, to offset all your whims and desires, I'm going to run away from a profile like that. That, pray tell othewise, is asking for next to nothing. It works for her because she's a woman, on dating sites she gets to cherry pick.
JesseJames Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 I've seen the men on these dating sites--let them cherry pick away. LOL The only problem I have is that their community should be shunning these types of useless people into a real life in the real world, and when that doesn't work, they should be scrutinized through the point of exigency. I've said it before and I'll say it again: Get rid of all the useless, whiny women and the useless, whiny men will follow suit. That will always make for a much better little town. The internet allows these little bastards to hide out and cause nothing but damage.
persevere Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 I have had almost no success with them. I don't recall how many I've messaged, but out of several dozen, maybe five or six responses. Of those five or six, two or three led to dates. None of those dates led to anything serious. I'm not one of those "hi wassssup" kind of guys, I have a cute picture of myself on my profile, my profile makes me out to be fun and interesting ... but I messaged two people yesterday, both of them looked at my profile, and neither even gave me the time of day. Is my experience in this regard normal? No. It's not normal. You only had to go through several dozen to get two or three dates. Many women on these sites are too picky. It's as if you misspell a word and they close you out. I think many are looking for that perfect underwear model, in the top 0.5% financial status.
truth_seeker Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 No. It's not normal. You only had to go through several dozen to get two or three dates. Many women on these sites are too picky. It's as if you misspell a word and they close you out. I think many are looking for that perfect underwear model, in the top 0.5% financial status. It's funny how these women are picky, yet they're on an OLD site. Do they think their dream guy is on an OLD site and will one day email them? If your dream guy hasn't approached you IRL then what makes you think it will happen on an OLD site?
Bob_Funk Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 (edited) Don't even bother with OLD unless you look like an Abercrombie and Fitch model. Every normal weight girl on there is getting spammed by hundreds - even thousands - of guys just like you. I made a fake profile of a female 5 and received way more messages in the first few minutes (many from male 7's and 8's) than I've received in three years with my own profile. Edited April 30, 2012 by Bob_Funk
persevere Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 It's funny how these women are picky, yet they're on an OLD site. Do they think their dream guy is on an OLD site and will one day email them? If your dream guy hasn't approached you IRL then what makes you think it will happen on an OLD site? They probably give off the aura of a vault door. Don't you dare approach me. Or, they go out to bars, etc. kissing their friends, slaying any guys ego who try to break the ice.
Wesker Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 No. It's not normal. You only had to go through several dozen to get two or three dates. Many women on these sites are too picky. It's as if you misspell a word and they close you out. I think many are looking for that perfect underwear model, in the top 0.5% financial status. What's funny is that if you're Mr. Joe 6pack abs, underwear model. there shouldn't be any need, or reason to be on a dating site. What gets me are the profiles where the woman says "looks are important" yet you know that is the main deal breaker for them.
persevere Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Don't even bother with OLD unless you look like an Abercrombie and Fitch model. Every normal weight girl on there is getting spammed by hundreds - even thousands - of guys just like you. I made a fake profile of a female 5 and received way more messages in the first few minutes (many from male 7's and 8's) than I've received in three years with my own profile. A few years ago, I tried a different approach. Total sarcasm to the tune of... "I'll cuss in front of your mom. Kick your cat. Stand you up. Allow you to my conjugal visits in the penn. Yes, I have no tact. I don't care about your feelings, etc." Then clarified the opposite at the bottom of my profile. I got more responses than I ever had before.
USMCHokie Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 What's funny is that if you're Mr. Joe 6pack abs, underwear model. there shouldn't be any need, or reason to be on a dating site. This is not necessarily true...
Emilia Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 What's funny is that if you're Mr. Joe 6pack abs, underwear model. there shouldn't be any need, or reason to be on a dating site. What gets me are the profiles where the woman says "looks are important" yet you know that is the main deal breaker for them. So if you think it's a 6 pack you need for success, why don't you get one? It's within the reach of every person on this planet. Or do you guys prefer to whine and complain on LS instead? 3
Million.to.1 Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 . One thing is a constant though (besides mostly the obese and ugly): 99% do not mention what they can offer the other person and have at least one negative statement. . I found this interesting. Alot of men DO mention what they offer but woman don't. I think woman need to deter as many messages as they attract otherwise checking ones inbox can become a full time job. Men definitely need to make a huge effort to succeed in OLD, and i sympathize that it is frustrating. It's frustrating for us girls too for a myriad of different reasons.
yongyong Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 6 replies out of 36 messages sent? (3 dozens) that's really good ratio! (oh btw, I am a minority who hits on white girls. so my ratio should be lower than yours) If you get that high % of response, when you send out flyers, you will be a millionaire soon! how long does it take to send 36 messages? 2 days? or even a day? Don't even sweat man, most guys would be doing worse than you do.
Radu Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 It's funny how these women are picky, yet they're on an OLD site. Do they think their dream guy is on an OLD site and will one day email them? If your dream guy hasn't approached you IRL then what makes you think it will happen on an OLD site? No, they do what they do in the mall ... window shopping and wasting time thinking about how that model would fit on her.
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