Lonely_lonely Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 (edited) Do you get the same satisfication when you ignore your ex? I almost enjoy it too much , is there something wrong with me? Does that make me a bitter person? Do I love it so much because deep down inside of me I'm still not over it and still hurting? I feel high on how now I got all the power and he is the one who is begging and bleeding and contacting me non stop . Edited April 29, 2012 by Lonely_lonely
Shinobi Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 NC and ignoring- that's the way. Last night me and my ex gf who left me for another "man" two months ago happened to be at the same bar. Since the awful break up (maybe I'll post a thread about it explaining all) I went totally NC. I bumped several times on her but nothing more that indifferent "hi". So last night at the bar I noticed her looking at me since the moment I entered- she was staring at me even with the corner of her eyes. We waved to each other once and I looked aside. Their curiosity sharpens even they are with another man/woman and especially if you do not happen to see each other- she/he will be hit by the way you look if you have improved yourself. I look more athletic and already have a nice sun tan- I have changed since break up and it is well obvious for someone that had seen you good when we were still wearing jackets and long sleeves. Very soon it will be obvious for her what she let go in exchange for older scumbag full of sh*t... Well girls, what you would prefere to see when making out in bed- 4-6 packs of abs or a hairy cannonball of fat bumping onto your belly? 2
jennisfora Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 the taking control euphoria was short lived for me, i am now back to the whole resisting temptation to contact. i don't think there is anything wrong with you for feeling that way. i thnk when we are hurt, it is natural and normal to want to hurt the person who you feel is responsible for your pain, whether it is rational or not. i dont wish my ex ill will, conciously, but there are times when i am angry, and irrational, and i do get some enjoyment that now he has to wait until i feel like contacting. at the same time, the fact that this still enters my thoughts, tells me that i am still way too invested to have a civil calm conversation. i want to get to the point where i can run into him, or chat with him and it not be a big deal, where it wouldnt tear me to pieces that he doesn't want to reconcile. basically, i want to get to the point where we can be acquaintences and not have it be a big deal. im not there yet. still too many feelings. but, i didnt do it to punish, but sometimes i do feel happy that he wanted to reach out now, although his last attempt was on the 17th, so now he is respecting my wishes. which i knew he would, he would be an a-hole if he was calling and texting constantly. unless he really wanted to reconcile, but constant breadcrumbs is a lack of respect. you tell someone, dont contact me, and they do it anyway with bs vague texts? sorry, but that is douchebag behavior. if he sends flowers to my work, and leaves voicemails apologizing and saying he made a mistake, okay, that is someone that is scared that he is losing me forever, that is different. but, random texts whats up? or how r u? yeah, no thanks, don't bother with that nonsense. grateful he isn't doing that. 1
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