singlelife Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=why%20women%20stand%20up%20men&source=web&cd=3&ved=0CEcQFjAC&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwiki.answers.com%2FQ%2FWhy_do_women_stand_up_men&ei=WFGdT4v9LojY2AXF6eDvDg&usg=AFQjCNEX_xPpFWQnJJAxBC-tpPPV2uT3oQ Does this seem to be a proper illustration of why it goes down?
Author singlelife Posted April 29, 2012 Author Posted April 29, 2012 So nobodies ever been stood up on LS?
wwwjd Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 yeah I had ONE person left in my life that was like that. recently cut them completely loose. they don't understand why, and never will - which is why I had to walk away. Our A.D.D. society bent on using a million different things to accomplish less and less, isn't helping.
Radu Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=why%20women%20stand%20up%20men&source=web&cd=3&ved=0CEcQFjAC&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwiki.answers.com%2FQ%2FWhy_do_women_stand_up_men&ei=WFGdT4v9LojY2AXF6eDvDg&usg=AFQjCNEX_xPpFWQnJJAxBC-tpPPV2uT3oQ Does this seem to be a proper illustration of why it goes down? To me, standing up (and to a lesser extent being late) is showing that you disrespect that person's time and person. So in that way, it is very poor manners. Best advice i ever got about this is to have backup plans. I'm getting stood up on a date, go see a movie, or stroll through the park, or visit someone, or ... something, but always have a backup plan. PS: Coming from someone who was like this.
Author singlelife Posted April 29, 2012 Author Posted April 29, 2012 To me, standing up (and to a lesser extent being late) is showing that you disrespect that person's time and person. So in that way, it is very poor manners. PS: Coming from someone who was like this. Did you just not care about others or what?
Radu Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 I avoided others on account of depression, i ended up cutting a lot of ppl in my life because i was ashamed of what i had become. It is still a selfish thing to do because when you setup a date (romantic or not) and you don't show up or show up late you are discounting the other person's time and make it worthless. Same thing for letting others rely on you only to not do what you promised.
Author singlelife Posted April 29, 2012 Author Posted April 29, 2012 I avoided others on account of depression, i ended up cutting a lot of ppl in my life because i was ashamed of what i had become. It is still a selfish thing to do because when you setup a date (romantic or not) and you don't show up or show up late you are discounting the other person's time and make it worthless. Same thing for letting others rely on you only to not do what you promised. Interesting.
Author singlelife Posted April 29, 2012 Author Posted April 29, 2012 So with your experience should people be patient and try to understand the side of the offender or just count the losses and move on?
Radu Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 They should make backup plans as often as possible and try to take the rejection feelings that may come with being stood up (or coming in late) as good information about the offender. It's something that says a lot about character, and you should avoid letting their actions make you feel bad.
Author singlelife Posted April 29, 2012 Author Posted April 29, 2012 They should make backup plans as often as possible and try to take the rejection feelings that may come with being stood up (or coming in late) as good information about the offender. It's something that says a lot about character, and you should avoid letting their actions make you feel bad. I wonder if people realize they lack character when they do these things. Maybe if they did they would at least contact you and let you know. Me personally I date around so I'm never just stuck. But I think a lot of people don't realize when they get labeled as the selfish person and then others just use them for sex because they just don't present themselves as serious dating material.
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