JengleBells83 Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 Longgg story short, my ex and I were really good friends for years..and started dating last summer for about 4 months...he adored me, we were totally in love and talked about marriage. We had both been going thru rough times for the last 2 weeks of the relationship, and it ended. shortly after he started dating a 19 year old (hes 31). We had a big blow up, he blocked me on facebook and that was it. Anyways, about 2 weeks ago, I saw that he had unblocked me (out of the blue). Then last weekend, I ran into him at this bar that he works at (all of our mutual friends were there, I wasn't going to hide)...he let me sing a lot, I asked him how he was doing and responded "ok", how are you?" and someone yelled group hug, and he hugged me. I came home pretty buzzed that night, and send him a facebook friend request about a week ago. He told our mutual friend that "i don't know if jenny can handle being my friend"...but then accepted me as a friend last night (a week later). No message or anything...and since we've broken up, he never calls me Jenny- he always called me by my first name. I don't know why he keeps thinking I can't handle it (even tho i'm posting on here, lol)...but since the 1st of the year I have given him NO indication that I'm not over it...we had no contact for 3 months, I was super cool to him at the bar (having a great time even) and have not sent any nasty messages or anything. Totally cool. Do you think this means he wants to be friends again or tick off his girlfriend (she didn't want him and i to be friends), or things aren't going well between him and his gf ? He told our mutual friend last week (who took my side in all this, and hasnt really talked to him either) that he thought things between him and i would be "irreconcilably weird" since the breakup...but that we should all take the friendship sloowww. Any insight?
JoeyLove Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 Im going through a break up right now and it's been tough on me, but your situation seems a lot different. Based on what you wrote I feel like this guy(and I don't know him) is immature. I mean even dating a 19yr old kind of states what he's looking for. If he's telling other people that things are weird between you too than maybe thats his perception. If I were you I would continue to be you and enjoy life...I think this guy really does not no what he wants in life and his actions show that to me.
TaraMaiden Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 Are you completely 'over it'...? If you are - maybe that's something he finds hard to believe and is under the impression that really, you're still pining for him, hankering for another go at the relationship, and that you really want him baaaad!
Author JengleBells83 Posted April 29, 2012 Author Posted April 29, 2012 that could be...but i have given him no indication AT ALL that I want him back...I simply told him that I was hoping we'd call a truce and be friends. thats it. Yet, i never thought it would ever be possible that he'd be over me (especially that quick), but obviously he is. He sure has an ego on him!
TaraMaiden Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 I'm not saying that's it - but I would certainly be thinking along those lines.....
hellodearest Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 Show me the woman he sleeps with and I will tell you his valuation of himself. -Francisco d'Anconia
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