ThaWholigan Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 I must be abnormal, I see hot women everywhere
NYC-BigKat Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 I must be abnormal, I see hot women everywhere Um..u must mean in passing 'cause everyone sees them in passing but not in 1 particular spot nope. They like to stay in the club even if just to sit in one chair all nite & be seen .
mesmerized Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 I must be abnormal, I see hot women everywhere Cause you live in london duh! I remember I saw many hotties when I was there. Not many hot guys though, unfortunately.
threebyfate Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Did it ever occur to anyone that it's because women get all dolled up to go out dancing and partying?
Necromancer Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Cause you live in london duh! I remember I saw many hotties when I was there. Not many hot guys though, unfortunately. Hahaha! i came home from London 2 hours ago seriously, i was at Oxford street most of the time buying clothes and new phone i would say i didn't find 95% of the women there physically attractive and i don´t have high standards at all. Women can´t rate other women's attractiveness very well.
ThaWholigan Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Cause you live in london duh! I remember I saw many hotties when I was there. Not many hot guys though, unfortunately. Yeah, we're all lazy cunts who live with our mothers and eat kebab and chips j/k you just need to come find us
ThaWholigan Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Hahaha! i came home from London 2 hours ago seriously, i was at Oxford street most of the time buying clothes and new phone i would say i didn't find 95% of the women there physically attractive and i don´t have high standards at all. Women can´t rate other women's attractiveness very well. The hot girls come to Picadilly & Kensington . Go to the right areas and you'll see them. Girls from Fulham
mesmerized Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Hahaha! i came home from London 2 hours ago seriously, i was at Oxford street most of the time buying clothes and new phone i would say i didn't find 95% of the women there physically attractive and i don´t have high standards at all. Women can´t rate other women's attractiveness very well. meh, I was in downtown areas mostly and I was actually with an American guy there. He also found the girls attractive.
ThaWholigan Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 meh, I was in downtown areas mostly and I was actually with an American guy there. He also found the girls attractive. LOL Downtown? Don't tell me.......Islington??
mesmerized Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 LOL Downtown? Don't tell me.......Islington?? lol, I don't really remember the names. This was like 6 years ago.
phineas Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 From my perspective of being a former member of the club industry, I'll tell you the hot women are more into going partying at bars because they have been pampered either all their lives or whenever they lost weight and got all dolled up into her "hottie" mode. Face it, a pack of hot chicks will get pulled in ahead of lines, not have to pay cover, and even promoters will give them a free booth and bottle simply so he has hot girls in his club. Even if they don't get a freebie from the promoter, there are plenty of horny men who will buy them drinks and all try to get a number or something out of them. It's life...they are still pampered when they go out, because they're hot...and they will simply ride on their looks until they can't anymore, or they find their dream alpha male husband. In general, the club scene is a world where good looks and/or money will get you places...and being "average" or "ugly" won't. LOL! At 40 I meet a lot of former hot chicks my own age who still carry that hot chick mentality & dating them is a constant power struggle & nothing but games & it took me a while to figure out I need to just disregard & find someone else as soon as that crap starts. Usually if their 40 & never married their a former party girl that got that alpha in her sunset & he wound up dumping her mid to late 30's when she started talking about marriage & kids. They haven't learned & are still looking for an alpha. I meet them in sports bars all the time. I'm there for the game with friends their there to find a guy.
ascendotum Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Extreme title there, but it's an attention getter, I have a male friend (he's involved in a serious relationship) But, I've been noticing all these seriously hot women he has friends on his FB, but he has met them through real life gatherings. Saw quite a few pics of him with all these ladies either from the last Holiday party or some kind of holiday gala. I know my male friend through our "Game Night" group....and he had been a regular of said group. I PM'ed him and I was like "Damn, how is it you know all these hot ladies, and how come you never bring them to Game Night?" He said, "Well, they're more of a 'paint the town red, drinking' types." Basically....another way of saying they're lushes or middle aged party girls. It got me thinking about the old topic "Where to meet women?" Usually, people here have suggested joining a Game Night, or some kind of class to learn something. Basically CONSTRUCTIVE venues in which to meet people. THe kind of gatherings that require a semblance of INTELLIGENCE if you get what I mean. That require some kind of usage of the brain that doesn't involve alcohol or grinding up against strangers all night. Though this is a broad generalization, simply put you'll see most average looking people at places that require thinking and learning, while the attractive tend to avoid venues of average looking people, because, face it...the kind of people you'd be attracted to you'll find ONLY in bars and nightclubs....so why settle for any OTHER venue, right? Thoughts on this? Just something I've noticed the past few years. I agree with you though, as you said its a broad generalization. If you are talking about women in their 30s the 'hot women =paint the town red women' theory breaks down a bit, especially when it comes to single mothers, but still a number of women I know in their mid 30s, attractive + no kids, are doing the SATC thing and go out to the over 30s venues, especially if they have a friend in the same category to clink glasses with.
Author irc333 Posted April 30, 2012 Author Posted April 30, 2012 I agree with you though, as you said its a broad generalization. If you are talking about women in their 30s the 'hot women =paint the town red women' theory breaks down a bit, especially when it comes to single mothers, but still a number of women I know in their mid 30s, attractive + no kids, are doing the SATC thing and go out to the over 30s venues, especially if they have a friend in the same category to clink glasses with. Yeah, these 30 or 40 something women tend to gravitate towards the more "Upscale" clubs where an older category hangs out. But, it's all the same, it's partying....but perhaps in a more subtle way. More into the nightlife than anything else.
grkBoy Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 So, I guess placing a night of Uno or Scattagories or a day out hiking or kayaking is boring to these women, but nightclubs are "exciting" I think with the board games, this old Popeye cartoon kind of speaks the mentality of those women... Popeye the Sailor - Jitterbug Jive (1950) - YouTube I've also noticed those particular women aren't into the great outdoors, but more into beaches/clubbing in Miami or shopping/partying in Las Vegas. REMEMBER...they don't represent all women.
Author irc333 Posted April 30, 2012 Author Posted April 30, 2012 Yeah, they'll go the beach, but won't SET FOOT in the water. lol I think with the board games, this old Popeye cartoon kind of speaks the mentality of those women... Popeye the Sailor - Jitterbug Jive (1950) - YouTube I've also noticed those particular women aren't into the great outdoors, but more into beaches/clubbing in Miami or shopping/partying in Las Vegas. REMEMBER...they don't represent all women.
thatone Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Isn't this simply because they are getting all dolled up (attraction mode) when going to bars? I rarely see girls in "bar makeup" at the office or out and about. Same reason I don't wear my tuxedo to go grocery shopping. Women WANT to be overly attractive in clubs.... According to 100 women polled*, there are 3 main reasons why women attend nightclubs: 1-- To meet men - 64% 2-- To see what happens - 21% 3-- To have fun - 12 % 4-- Other (with boyfriend, on a date) - 3% *askmen.com to see what happens also = meeting men, lol. OP, i don't see what your issue is. there are all sorts of bars out there. sounds like you're angsty about places you've never been to. do you have any idea how ridiculous that sounds?
Imajerk17 Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 irc, I say this because you seem like a nice guy and I am rooting for you. There is indeed a certain "fishbowl" mentality in small towns. But as much as you might have been incompatible with either/both of them, you might want to consider in the meanwhile the impression you made on them. I'm 95% sure of this: What your friend told you really was code for those girls saying (or feeling) "we didn't really like this guy". If that is the reaction you're getting from these girls, it probably is (but not definitely) the reaction you are getting from almost all of the women you are meeting. Which might be the real reason why these women aren't meeting up with you again (their rationalizations notwithstanding). It might do you good to go to your friend, depending on how close you are with him, and tell him that you are trying to improve your dating life, and ask him for a brutal assessment of what really happened with those girls. You might learn some stuff that will help you. Mostly people are still palin' around with each old high school buddies they grew up with (to me , never happened, I moved onto other social circles or open to exploring new ones). I bet the small town people are already coupled up, and the still unattached ones have the "drive" to seek out new friendships elsewhere. Single people find themselves unable to find time to spend with married couples, because married couples are busy with their own lives. Anyways, got off tangent there....my other male friend, decided to invite a recently unattached woman (broken off engagement) and another single female friend with him. He calls me up and says they're going to an event in the "big city".....we've gotten used to the commute for a social life, we have no qualms with that distance. So they drove with him, I think his intention was to introduce to his new lady friends (he was married at the time....still is, but his wife was working a diff. shift), I met them there. I meet them, start talking with them, got to know them some, one of the women, wasn't too chatty, they were both cute though. Anyhow, I went to mingle around with others that I already knew...but I still saw them both, just talking to each other and not mingle. I approach them again, and said, "So, did you mingle around at all, Meet anyone?" And , no joke, one of them said, "No, we're not much for making new friends" And I thought, "What kind of F-'ed up way of thinking." They were SO stuck in their "fishbowl" community,t hat they had no desire to make new friends. Anyhow, I go mingling around some more, then they were gone, including my friend . Couldn't find them anywhere in sight. They bailed on the event early. When I got home, and got to chatting with him, and I said, "Hey, where'd yall disappear to, was looking for you, you guys didn't even say goodbye." And he said, "Well, they were bored and wanted to go dancing." Then I thought, "and they didn't think to invite me?" THen I asked him that...and he said, "Well, they didn't want you to come , figured you'd take it the wrong way." (Meaning that I might think that they think they'd be interested in me.) So they bailed....didn't tell me, and 2 single women, went dancing with a married man. Yeah, some of these backwoods people have issues or too cliquish with their local church groups, Masons, and marrying within friends of families and such. Their idea of a social is not going out further than a local grocery store or walmart, and their idea of a vacation is going an hour away from the house. And their neighbors, old high school chums, and families are theiR ONLY source of social life....wonder how people can stand to live like that. Thus the fishbowl community. ALSO to note....any woman that's coined a "hottie" in a small town is either. 1. Passing through/tourist 2. Is married or has a boyfriend if they're a permanent resident. 3. Is BRAND new in town and realized the top 2 listings made her put a personal ad on a dating site. lol #2 is the MOSt common. 2
Author irc333 Posted April 30, 2012 Author Posted April 30, 2012 I'm sure that's not it at all. I have had women spend time with me on more than one occasion, just told you mostly about the bad stuff, not the good stuff. They were just snobs. irc, I say this because you seem like a nice guy and I am rooting for you. There is indeed a certain "fishbowl" mentality in small towns. But as much as you might have been incompatible with either/both of them, you might want to consider in the meanwhile the impression you made on them. I'm 95% sure of this: What your friend told you really was code for those girls saying (or feeling) "we didn't really like this guy". If that is the reaction you're getting from these girls, it probably is (but not definitely) the reaction you are getting from almost all of the women you are meeting. Which might be the real reason why these women aren't meeting up with you again (their rationalizations notwithstanding). It might do you good to go to your friend, depending on how close you are with him, and tell him that you are trying to improve your dating life, and ask him for a brutal assessment of what really happened with those girls. You might learn some stuff that will help you.
Author irc333 Posted April 30, 2012 Author Posted April 30, 2012 irc, I say this because you seem like a nice guy and I am rooting for you. There is indeed a certain "fishbowl" mentality in small towns. But as much as you might have been incompatible with either/both of them, you might want to consider in the meanwhile the impression you made on them. Thing is, they had no drive or desire to go around and mingle with other people. I have seen people like this that usually show up with another friend in case they decide, "Meh, this place is a drag" and head out. One of THOSE types.
Recommended Posts