spiderowl Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 I haven't dated in a while now, over a year, but that's just the way it goes sometimes. I do go out regularly to social evenings and have a group of friends I see there. However, I have never dated any of the guys from these social events and they have never seen me with any guy other than as a friend. I am wondering what guys would make of a woman if they'd never seen her with a guy as more than a friend? I did tell one guy, at one point, that I was seeing someone but none of these friends witnessed me with him due to the distances involved. I have been casually asked 'out' by some of the guys, but haven't taken them up on it for various reasons, mostly lack of attraction on my part and not wanting to get into an awkward situation. Only one of these guys has dared to ask me about my relationships or anything like that (and he made it quite clear he was interested in me as more than a friend). The rest seem to talk about anything but and I'm wondering why they aren't even curious. As women, we always want to know who our friends are seeing and stuff. I'm beginning to wonder if these guys see me as totally unattractive or asexual or something and yet I have plenty of evidence that some guys at least are attracted to me in other situations. Given the above history, what conclusions do you think a guy would come to and is their behaviour normal for guys?
westrock Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 I'm not sure exactly what you are saying or why you are concerned. I have been casually asked 'out' by some of the guys, but haven't taken them up on it for various reasons, mostly lack of attraction on my part and not wanting to get into an awkward situation. On the one hand some of the guys have asked you out, but you are not interested in dating these guys and you don't want to get into an awkward situation, yet on the other hand you want them to ask you about your dating life? Why? The rest seem to talk about anything but and I'm wondering why they aren't even curious. As women, we always want to know who our friends are seeing and stuff. Maybe they are respecting your privacy or maybe they also don't want to be put into an ackward situation. If you want to discuss your dating life, why are you waiting for the guys to ask you about your dating life? A guy won't generally enquire about a woman's dating life unless he wants to date her and is asking to find out if she's single.
somedude81 Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 If I knew a girl was single for a long time I'd wonder why. But not much beyond that.
jobaba Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 I haven't dated in a while now, over a year, but that's just the way it goes sometimes. I do go out regularly to social evenings and have a group of friends I see there. However, I have never dated any of the guys from these social events and they have never seen me with any guy other than as a friend. I am wondering what guys would make of a woman if they'd never seen her with a guy as more than a friend? I did tell one guy, at one point, that I was seeing someone but none of these friends witnessed me with him due to the distances involved. I have been casually asked 'out' by some of the guys, but haven't taken them up on it for various reasons, mostly lack of attraction on my part and not wanting to get into an awkward situation. Only one of these guys has dared to ask me about my relationships or anything like that (and he made it quite clear he was interested in me as more than a friend). The rest seem to talk about anything but and I'm wondering why they aren't even curious. As women, we always want to know who our friends are seeing and stuff. I'm beginning to wonder if these guys see me as totally unattractive or asexual or something and yet I have plenty of evidence that some guys at least are attracted to me in other situations. Given the above history, what conclusions do you think a guy would come to and is their behaviour normal for guys? Aren't you like 50+? Unless you are in a really swinging, upscale social scene, it's normal for people that age to be single for a long time, sometimes many years.
Author spiderowl Posted April 30, 2012 Author Posted April 30, 2012 I don't know if it's normal, but I'm just puzzled why it's something that never gets mentioned by guys unless they are enquiring about your availability. Maybe they just don't share these things like women do?
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