Confusedguy1988 Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 So my boyfriend and I dated for a little over two years. The relationship ended because towards the end I think we both were just tired if small parts of the relationship (bickering over chores etc.) and we also both cheated once. We were living together and broke up in January however we got back together at the end of january and were together for a few weeks. We had a huge talk about the cheating and decided that it wasn't worth throwing away our relationship and as long as they were both just one time drunken mistakes that we would just move on. Things were fine for a couple weeks and he broke up with me as he just wasn't ready to get back together mainly because the trust wasn't there yet (during our breakup we were both lying a lot to each other to protect each others feelings). About 3 weeks passes and his friend gives him this new guys number and they start texting at the beginning of march. They met a couple weeks later and they have been dating ever since so total talk time is just under two months and total dating time is about a month and a half. Up until about a 2 weeks ago my ex and I were still sharing a bedroom with separate beds however him going to visit his new guy began to destroy me. I made the decision to give us some distance so I moved home and initiated LC. He also ended up moving home telling people he didn't see the point living there if i wasn't around (even though we have another roommate who is always there) The only time we would ever contact him would be if he contacted me first. He would usually text me once a day about something trivial. A week went by and he was being a little chattier than usual so i asked him to hang out. We drank together and he ended up locking himself in our old room and talking to his new guy for about 30 minutes. We got into a fight and i told him that i was sorry but that i wasn't over him yet. The next morning I told him it would be best if we didn't talk for a while and that i needed space to straighten myself out. He told me that he was sorry and that he does miss me and that he didn't mean to fall for someone else. He was upset and told me he felt like he was losing his best friend. I didn't hear from him last night and we were both supposed to hang out with a mutual friend last night but once I found out he was going to be there I decided not to go. He sent me a text mentioning something really trivial (the mutual friend owed me money and he told me to ask her for it back). I'm trying to stay no contact is it too late to get him back using this method?
Tiera D Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 its never too late to start NC..but understand 1st the purpose on NC.. NC=a tool to move on to forget and start a new chapter in ur life,not some magic potion to get an ex back,although its the best method to get an ex thinking,but still u misunderstood its true purpose..Pls read Caliguy no contact thread TD
Author Confusedguy1988 Posted April 29, 2012 Author Posted April 29, 2012 Eh I have to say that I agree and disagree with that statement. I feel that the true purpose from nc is to heal not really to forget though. As bad as things got my relationship with my ex was the best two years of my life. Its not something I want to forget about. I just want the pain to go away and that is what the purpose of nc is all about. Whether it be that you finally accept and are ok with the idea of not getting back with your ex or that the loss of contact draws the two of you back together because you realize you really want to try to work things out.
Tiera D Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 ya i should use the word heal instead,my bad..just let the grief part go its course,usually it takes 1 month for every year in a relationship to move on,its ok to cry or be down.just dont be obsessed with ur ex.u will get better trust me TD
Gulf-Delta Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 ya i should use the word heal instead,my bad..just let the grief part go its course,usually it takes 1 month for every year in a relationship to move on,its ok to cry or be down.just dont be obsessed with ur ex.u will get better trust me TD One month for each year? I know that isn't a set in stone thing, but that is kind of nice to hear.
Tiera D Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Just to let u know some examples,i read yesterday someone who is waiting an ex for over a year and is still bitter as far as i see,this guy i think its not he cannot move on,but he simply refused to move on.But it is his choice,only he can decide how his life is going to go..Another case i read today is about another guy waiting for over 10 years,sadly to say he wasted his youth.No one is worth that much.Cruel reality huh? Read my signature,and remember in ur mind. TD
ThatDudeXO Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Strategy? NC can get your ex back if it's meant to be. However if your ex no longer is in love with you, I very much doubt she'll come back.
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