luvflower Posted May 26, 2012 Posted May 26, 2012 Whoa. That adds another dimension to this situation.
surferchic Posted May 27, 2012 Posted May 27, 2012 Im guessing that he is a bit controlling by nature and due to his job. OP, you may be missing him now but you may want to maintain your distant position but if he ever contacts you again think of a way to respond without being too engaging or simply don't respond. Other thoughts...
Author unevenXchange Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 Im guessing that he is a bit controlling by nature and due to his job. OP, you may be missing him now but you may want to maintain your distant position but if he ever contacts you again think of a way to respond without being too engaging or simply don't respond. Other thoughts... Ahhh yeah.... his nature in addition to his job.
utterer of lies Posted May 28, 2012 Posted May 28, 2012 6. He often makes jokes about domestic violence...? This is going to end badly.
Author unevenXchange Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 This is going to end badly. Lol...it's already ended. Its fading out peacefully. He'd never do anything crazy like some people assume. He'd rather leave the relationship than "try" to control me. It'd never happen. Its just the incidents that I mentioned being a bit shocking in nature. Other than that he's pretty sensible. Plus I haven't done anything that would strike a nerve. If so, I can handle myself. Im a purple belt and did some special training that he knows nothing about. Perhaps he'd try to control me emotionally if we stayed together.
Author unevenXchange Posted May 28, 2012 Author Posted May 28, 2012 And he has been contacting me btw... not drama. He's just distant. Having fewer words.
2sunny Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 And he has been contacting me btw... not drama. He's just distant. Having fewer words. Well you knew he would eventually. Have you responded at all?
Author unevenXchange Posted May 29, 2012 Author Posted May 29, 2012 Well you knew he would eventually. Have you responded at all? Yes I have
2sunny Posted May 29, 2012 Posted May 29, 2012 Yes I have Then you are INVITING him into communicating with you.
Author unevenXchange Posted May 30, 2012 Author Posted May 30, 2012 ...and? Its not like I've invited him over.
luvflower Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 True, but I suggest proceeding with caution. Sometimes moping, few words, distance is a sign of anger and/or a plan for revenge.
Author unevenXchange Posted May 30, 2012 Author Posted May 30, 2012 True. Though im not really trying to rekindle what we had. I can see that he does have lots of anger aside from this situation. I can't coddle him everyday or try to convince him everyday that I'm not "the enemy"... if he wants to be angry he can. I know that's not love or care. Nothing else can convince me otherwise. I wonder how many people regret losing a relationship do to control or anger issues or how many of those situations were worked through ...
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