LasVegasGuy Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Maybe the reason that most people here don't understand the dumpers feelings is because they have never been the dumper. Truth about it is if you ever dumped someone and hurt there feelings you were being selfish. So has anyone ever dumped someone here? I did and I have been dumped, and truthfully the last thing on my mind was how that person felt only how I felt. Humans can be selfish, but I don't think its on purpose, maybe dna.
tipsyleprachauns Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Maybe the reason that most people here don't understand the dumpers feelings is because they have never been the dumper. Truth about it is if you ever dumped someone and hurt there feelings you were being selfish. So has anyone ever dumped someone here? I did and I have been dumped, and truthfully the last thing on my mind was how that person felt only how I felt. Humans can be selfish, but I don't think its on purpose, maybe dna. I did. And then I grew up. I met someone I was crazy about. She did much the same to me. I have recently gone back to the girl who's heart I broke and offered the sincerest of apologies I can, and it makes me genuinely happy to know she's in a loving relationship with a guy much more suited to her, if a little sad that I didn't appreciate what I had till it's gone. I can see how I breadcrumbed the hell out of her at the time without realising it, but never once did I EVER use the silent treatment to try and get control. I always did my best to respect her. 1
LasVegasGuy Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 (edited) I did. And then I grew up. I met someone I was crazy about. She did much the same to me. I have recently gone back to the girl who's heart I broke and offered the sincerest of apologies I can, and it makes me genuinely happy to know she's in a loving relationship with a guy much more suited to her, if a little sad that I didn't appreciate what I had till it's gone. I can see how I breadcrumbed the hell out of her at the time without realising it, but never once did I EVER use the silent treatment to try and get control. I always did my best to respect her. EXACTLY!!! See you were breadcrumbing and giving her false hope without even knowing you were guilty of it. So this means in order to understand a dumper, you got to have been one before. I had a girl tell me how much she loved me, and creied and etc...and I was like is this how I sounded to my ex gfs that I begged back? Although sweet, it was pitiful. And the best she could have done is tell me to go to hell and there you have it, somethings only push the ex further away. Edited April 30, 2012 by LasVegasGuy
TaintedHeart Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Is ignoring somone and giving someone the silent treatment the same thing?
Feelin Frisky Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 It is a sign or immaturity not maturity to post-stalk someone else and make generalizations that show no sensitivity to that other persons personal experience. I don't give a crap about anyone's reading of pop psychology. My g/f only harmed herself yet she seemed powerless to stop the pattern of indulging her errant judgmentalism, her anger and holding on to that anger until she came crying to me apologizing. This is for one obnoxious poster somewhere on the previous page who needs to back off and go sniff someone else's butt.
nanbullen Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Maybe the reason that most people here don't understand the dumpers feelings is because they have never been the dumper. Truth about it is if you ever dumped someone and hurt there feelings you were being selfish. So has anyone ever dumped someone here? I did and I have been dumped, and truthfully the last thing on my mind was how that person felt only how I felt. Humans can be selfish, but I don't think its on purpose, maybe dna. I am talking about ignoring someone while still in the relationship, not breaking up with somebody by ignoring them. Somebody who you love and who says they love you. I've dumped guys and then ignored them. They cheated on me, so I didn't care about their feelings. I told one of them I needed time, and I told another one I was unhappy and moving out, and that was that. I didn't want to talk to them anymore. I was in new relationships "honeymoon phase" and the last thing i wanted was to rehash/comfort/provide closure/whatever.
sid3 Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 I love the silent treatment, it reaffirms why the person wasn't worthy of my time. 1
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