adv Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Hi there I am new to this forum and just joined today because my husband and I seem to be having the same problems over and over, well I do he doesnt even notice. I love playing sex games or watching porn with my husband but he told me one time he doesnt like games so I stopped them over a year ago. He used to use oral sex on me but now this never happens. Our sex life consists of mayb once a week if we r lucky, me giving him a blow job, no kissing (he doesnt like kissing either which I love and also gave up for him stupidly) and then just have sex. I do orgasm but sometimes I would like to try different positions and dress up etc. What is really frustrating at the moment is that he masturbates on porn even if he doesnt ask me for sex, it would be nice for him to say to me lets watch a porn together (which I have offered to do with him before). I just feel it is going around and around in circles and I have tried talking to him but things never improve. I do love him but am really really sick of our sex life or lack off, has anyone ever been in a similiar situation before and did you improve things? I would appreciate any advice, thank you
january2011 Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 How long have you been married? What was the relationship like before you married? Has anything else changed? Is he under a lot of stress at work?
jphcbpa Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 Obviously he has a serious problem with porn. He needs some help. This will only escalate.
Jennifer A Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 adv, i understand you so well! I am in the same situation... I can't understand how can it be possible that i love my husband to bits with all my heart and yet our sexual live is quite disappointing for me... and i also love kissing! But he doesn't... It's been so long since i've been kissed passionately the way i like it that i am seriously thinking of kissing some other guy i know... Just kissing - no more. How sad that my fantasies are normally about passionate french kissing... not sure what to do in situation like this...
SarahRose Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 if you have talked to him and he is not doing anything differently, you might try counselling and if that doesn't work a trial separation.
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