weldn4us Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 I have known the girl I was with for 12 years we dated all through high school and college. We broke up for three years and we dated other people, we also saw each other of and on through those 3 years. Then we got back together and dated again for 6 months and we got engaged on christmas of 2010. We were engaged 6 months and then she moved in. The first 2 months were amazing, then I got very stressed with work, school, planning the wedding, relationship. I put my fiancee through a lot of ups and downs. I called the engagement off in November of 2011 and told her I needed to get my act together for myself before we got married. We continued to live together and still had the ups and downs. Finally went to a physcologist and he diagnosed me with depression, chemical inbalance in my brain. He said it gets triggered through stress and if not treat i could make irrational decisions. Well My ex fiancee had already wanted to move out and have space away. Now she says she does not love me anymore and that she needs her time and space away. I am doing everything on my part to get help. I am in support groups, I am getting counciling, and I am on anti depresents. I now feel balanced out. I know I did a lot to hurt her and we both know that I wasn't acting myself. What are some of yalls thoughts do you believe she could give me another chance??
january2011 Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 Now she says she does not love me anymore and that she needs her time and space away. I'm sorry. There aren't any guarantees, unfortunately. You already got a second chance. Getting a third chance, while not impossible is unlikely, particularly because she said that she does not love you anymore. You need to give her what she wants - time and space. Continue to focus on yourself. Perhaps there might be another opportunity in the future, but I wouldn't pin all my hopes on that.
travelbug Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 Ugh, I'm so sorry. From what you've said, I think the best thing to do is give her the space she's asking for. Pursuing her right now will likely just push her further away. You won't be able to convince her to see things as you do. But after that many years together I don't believe she doesn't love you anymore. Living together is very stressful, especially when you are trying to plan a wedding, and are stressed about many other things. She probably just had second thoughts about getting married because she got what she thought might be a preview to a rough and stressful marriage, based on your recent living situation. Keep working on resolving your personal issues, that will benefit you in more ways than you know. Let her know how you feel, but then let her be for now. You will know when you are the best version of yourself and have your life in order. Stay in that place for a while, then maybe reach out to her. I'm wondering if you broke up for the same reasons the first time? Different reasons?
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