Jono85 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Possibly childish question lol, but just looking for some opinions on this. A. To respond to ex (assuming no cheating/mis-treatment took place; obv ignore then), in a very non-caring, "i've moved on", kind of way. So hypothetically, if you were able to act like you could really care less about her romantically, and respond in a succint, condensed, manner, that shows no lingering feelings and that you're doing well moving on. Eg. Ex: Hey how's it going? You: Hey pretty good, thanks, you? Ex: *blah blah blah* (self-absorbed ramble looking for ego boost) You: That's awesome. I'm happy for you. Anyway, off for a run, ttyl. So a friendly, but fairly obvious, "i don't f-cking care anymore, why are you still msging me" type of response. B. To just ignore them completely. Thoughts? Personally I'm sort of torn, but maybe I'm not looking at the entire picture. (B) is pretty cold, but at the same time it sort of conveys that you're still hurt, and aren't ready to talk. That in itself, could give the ex an ego boost? (A) can burn b/c the ex can tell you're pretty distant now, and there's a chance you simply just don't care about them anymore.
Art_Critic Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 It doesn't take but a sec to answer this one.. NC and living well is the best revenge ever... Silence can be deafening....... 5
january2011 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Yup, B. It's a lot more frustrating to be confronted by a brick wall with no idea what's behind it than to look through a window and get to decide if you want what's on the other side. 3
sweetheart5381 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Definitely B. My ex and I had discussed being friends several weeks ago, however he does not want to aknowledge the fact that I was hurt deeply by the way he acted during and post-breakup - he would prefer that we forget it and move on. So I forgot it. I have paid him no mind or attention for the last 2 weeks at work or on personal time. No need to. Real friends actually listen to one another, accept their mistakes (I have apologized a thousand times in order to maintain a healthy friendship) and ultimately forgive one another. I have forgiven him and wish to move on. He notices now that I no longer care if he is near me, I do not contact him but will make idle chit chat of a completely impersonal nature when we do bump into one another, etc. He has lost his power position and he knows it. So guess what? He now pursues me in an effort to communicate. He tells me personal details of his life, has added me to our IM service at work (we have no work issues that we would ever need to discuss as we are in different depts). He seeks attention from me now that he knows I have withdrawn it. Stick with option B. It shows that you have class and respect yourself, it is far more becoming and improves your self-esteem immensely 4
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