daphne Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 After talking an hour before our date, I thought this guy is pretty normal. Unfortunately, normal does not mean that his photos were recent. By recent, I mean less than 5 years old. I'm not that picky. Zero attraction. Zero chemistry. Then he asked me if I worked at xyz, and I said yes (he works in the industry so it wasn't a stretch.) Then he cryptically says he thinks we know someone in common. But he makes it a guessing game. I don't bite, cos I'm a little weirded out. He shows me his name and I agree. Then I ask him how in the world? He said he facebooked my name and found we had a friend in common. Interesting, since I NEVER TOLD HIM MY LAST NAME. So now I'm creeped out and the date isn't even really fun. I'm boring the hell out of him, he's creeping me out. Then, he starts singing. And this guy clearly spends a little time singing. So he thinks he's good. But he's not quite as good as he thinks. So then it becomes a mini spectacle. Overall, he was a nice enough guy. But boy did that date derail. 4
Art_Critic Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 So... no second date then That is the typical scenario of a guy doing all the background on his date with the internet and friends and letting her know all he knows about her making himself look like he is a stalker type..hahaha.. What a dipshiot... 1
Author daphne Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 Thankfully, no. Despite his pre date stalking, he did not seem to be interested either. There was no spark whatsoever
ThaWholigan Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 I sang to a girl once. It must be said that I had already smoked 3 spliffs already that night, and it was over the phone so I was a little intoxicated. Sounds like a weird date. I'm sure a lot of guys are googling and facebooking their potential dates, but it's still creepy and weird to actually let on. I tend to ease on the information stuff, if she wants me to know, she'll tell me. 1
Author daphne Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 So... no second date then That is the typical scenario of a guy doing all the background on his date with the internet and friends and letting her know all he knows about her making himself look like he is a stalker type..hahaha.. What a dipshiot... lol. Yes, it was alarming and probably had something to do with the date not being fun. I think everyone google stalks others after they meet and find out last names, but he had to go to great lengths to stalk me before the date.
sid3 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Who knows, it could of been an act. He may be very interested. He may be singing right now.Question is what!
Author daphne Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 I sang to a girl once. It must be said that I had already smoked 3 spliffs already that night, and it was over the phone so I was a little intoxicated. Sounds like a weird date. I'm sure a lot of guys are googling and facebooking their potential dates, but it's still creepy and weird to actually let on. I tend to ease on the information stuff, if she wants me to know, she'll tell me. Please tell me you had actually met her before. lol I've google stalked guys after I met them and actually knew I liked them. I am now changing my online profile to really make my field look more ambiguous because I really dont' want someone stopping by my job!
Author daphne Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 Who knows, it could of been an act. He may be very interested. He may be singing right now.Question is what! That's possible but I don't think likely. I think that guys that are interested are pretty easy to read. But I didn't give him much to work with either, as I shivered there wondering if I wanted to walk back to my car cos if I did he might write down my license # and find out where I live. lol
ThaWholigan Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Please tell me you had actually met her before. lol I've google stalked guys after I met them and actually knew I liked them. I am now changing my online profile to really make my field look more ambiguous because I really dont' want someone stopping by my job! Yes, I knew her quite well, but we never dated even though I liked her I think some guys get ahead of themselves to be honest, the scarcity abundance makes them do crazy stuff. I used to google stalk before meeting too. I stopped because I thought it would be weird. Now I don't do it generally, even if I like them, unless there is sufficient escalation and closeness.
serial muse Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Was he singing sea chanteys, by any chance? I overheard some guy singing sea chanteys to a woman in a bookstore the other day. It was annoying on several levels, and I felt bad for her. Anyway! I'm sorry for your bad date - but at least you now have kind of an awesome bad date story.
january2011 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Yes, singing is best done in private if the guy can't carry a tune, unless he can make up for it with charisma.
sid3 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 That's possible but I don't think likely. I think that guys that are interested are pretty easy to read. lol I don't doubt your interest reading skills, but unless The guy had a kareoki mic in his hand or was singing you happy bday, it sounds like he was trying to impressed you. Some guys play the act uninterested game. Hopefully for your sake he wasn't. I'm not so sure though. You should of excused yourself to use the ladies room and made a dash for the door.
CarrieT Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 My current BF sang to me on our first date and that was part of what clinched it for me.... Our fourth or fifth date was a Saturday night at a Shanty Sing on a masted boat in San Francisco (200 people all singing sea shanties which I thought was very cool!), Saturday morning, we were in bed and he sang the (VERY impressed that anyone has memorized this!), and after I made breakfast on Monday morning, he sang Beethoven's Ninth in German. I was hooked at that point. Tonight, I am going to a performance of him in a Russian Choir that he performs in for fun... Guess I'm just a freak! 2
johan Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 (edited) Poor guy. This is just another example of women not giving good guys a chance. Let me guess. He began singing, and you said to yourself, "well he's obviously not a bad boy. I'm just going to save my princess self for a bank robber. I prefer to be abused over being sung to by a nice guy." This is what feminism has brought to the world. Singer hating. Edited April 28, 2012 by johan 4
reallyhotguy Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 I wrote a song for a girl once, freshman year of college, my first "real" girlfriend. Then when she dumped me, I sang it again for a different girl -- and it worked on her, too! It was such a horrible song and I don't know how to sing or play guitar. In conclusion, I can see why this guy went with the song strategy. 1
Author daphne Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 Was he singing sea chanteys, by any chance? I overheard some guy singing sea chanteys to a woman in a bookstore the other day. It was annoying on several levels, and I felt bad for her. Anyway! I'm sorry for your bad date - but at least you now have kind of an awesome bad date story. Thankfully, no sea chanteys. Yes, I do have a pretty funny old story. But I already had enough, or so I thought. Yes, singing is best done in private if the guy can't carry a tune, unless he can make up for it with charisma. He actually sings and plays a guitar alot in his spare time. But so do most of the people on American Idol that get rejected because they're not that great but are unaware of that. I don't doubt your interest reading skills, but unless The guy had a kareoki mic in his hand or was singing you happy bday, it sounds like he was trying to impressed you. Some guys play the act uninterested game. Hopefully for your sake he wasn't. I'm not so sure though. You should of excused yourself to use the ladies room and made a dash for the door. Touché. I guess a guy's not going to sing unless he's a) trying to impress me. b) trying to get me running screaming so he doesn't have to be the bad guy. My current BF sang to me on our first date and that was part of what clinched it for me.... Our fourth or fifth date was a Saturday night at a Shanty Sing on a masted boat in San Francisco (200 people all singing sea shanties which I thought was very cool!), Saturday morning, we were in bed and he sang the (VERY impressed that anyone has memorized this!), and after I made breakfast on Monday morning, he sang Beethoven's Ninth in German. I was hooked at that point. Tonight, I am going to a performance of him in a Russian Choir that he performs in for fun... Guess I'm just a freak! Yes. I think so. Actually, I used to sing classically on an amateur level. Considering all of the male opera singers were gay, I don't think that would have been teh clincher for me. Poor guy. This is just another example of women not giving good guys a chance. Let me guess. He began singing, and you said to yourself, "well he's obviously not a bad boy. I'm just going to save my princess self for a bank robber. I prefer to be abused over being sung to by a nice guy." This is what feminism has brought to the world. Singer hating. Someone's channeling woggle. I'm not looking for a bad boy. They're terrible in bed.
january2011 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 He actually sings and plays a guitar alot in his spare time. But so do most of the people on American Idol that get rejected because they're not that great but are unaware of that. Oh dear. I think I might have been okay with that as I don't mind 'good enough for the family but not stage performance-standard' singing/guitar-playing. If you're a music snob (and I mean that in a complimentary way) then I can understand that his behaviour must have been very grating. I think the main points are that you weren't attracted to him and there wasn't any chemistry, so his stalkerish behaviour and public singing just confirmed that this guy isn't the right one for you. Next!
Author daphne Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 Oh dear. I think I might have been okay with that as I don't mind 'good enough for the family but not stage performance-standard' singing/guitar-playing. I don't know if you've seen some of the rejects on American Idol. They're not good enough for the family either... lol I wasn't being overly critical that he's not professional. He seems to think he is semi pro, and he's a little cringe worthy. I think you would have to have been there. It was funny.
wwwjd Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 [note to self: scratch "practice serenades" off TO DO List]
Author daphne Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 If you do, just make sure you know she digs you so that she won't notice how bad you are.
ThaWholigan Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Hah, I can sing so I don't think I'll have any future problems
Necris Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 After talking an hour before our date, I thought this guy is pretty normal. Unfortunately, normal does not mean that his photos were recent. By recent, I mean less than 5 years old. I'm not that picky. Zero attraction. Zero chemistry. Then he asked me if I worked at xyz, and I said yes (he works in the industry so it wasn't a stretch.) Then he cryptically says he thinks we know someone in common. But he makes it a guessing game. I don't bite, cos I'm a little weirded out. He shows me his name and I agree. Then I ask him how in the world? He said he facebooked my name and found we had a friend in common. Interesting, since I NEVER TOLD HIM MY LAST NAME. So now I'm creeped out and the date isn't even really fun. I'm boring the hell out of him, he's creeping me out. Then, he starts singing. And this guy clearly spends a little time singing. So he thinks he's good. But he's not quite as good as he thinks. So then it becomes a mini spectacle. Overall, he was a nice enough guy. But boy did that date derail. You got to hand it to him he did have confidence if you know you sing badly and you are going to do it on a date in public in an attempt to impress her your confidence is pretty up there. As for the facebook stalking whats wrong with that? Its not like that information is private since it is online, and besides it could be very helpful I wish I remembered to facebook stalk but I don't:(. Your date reminded me of a date I had with a woman who turned out crazy or she was deliberately trying to act crazy whatever the case it was 10 times worse than what you described I was surprised I wasn't on a reality TV show it was getting so ridiculous, later when I told my friends they researched her and found out she was kind of crazy and not very attractive (somehow they got the idea I was out with some gorgeous woman) they couldn't stop laughing, and I felt retarded.
dasein Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 I always get laid when I sing "Copacabana" by Barry Manilow. Copacabana - Barry Manilow - YouTube
Author daphne Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 As for the facebook stalking whats wrong with that? Clearly, you didn't read my post. The only way he was able to facebook stalk me is by finding out my last name mysteriously. He also knew where I worked. I never told him. I always get laid when I sing "Copacabana" by Barry Manilow. Copacabana - Barry Manilow - YouTube By women or men?
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