Sophia12345 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Hey! I'm currently going through a breakup with my ex and am so confused with whats going on! I was hoping someone would be able to give some sort of opinion... Me and my ex have been together for just over 4 years. We are still pretty young both just turning 20 but we both know we want eachother and love eachother beyond belief (weird as he is now an ex right?). Well about a month ago he called quits, we had been arguing a while and he said its cause he wants to just chill, live life grow up ect doing what he wants (which i accept and understand as i did the same last year but we never broke up). He said he wants that now but wants me when thats all done, to get back to us. Now im in the dilemna of I love him more than anything, we get through everything but what if we don't get through this? What if he moves on and realises life is better and what if he finds somebody else. All of these options I cannot bare to think about I mean its hard enough him blowing me off to see his friends now but i deal with it. We've come to an agreement that although he is doing as he pleases, I am still the only girl he will have a sexual,soulmate relationship with although im begining to wonder does he just want the best of everything or should I stick it out? Moving on isnt as yet an option as we don't hate eachother he still loves me and vice versa so nothing is making me go. Yes he has done some stupid things this past month (eg visiting girls, making contact with his ex) but I accept that is part of this process and him growing up. Although I'm quite a strong person, i cant bare the thought of being without him, we still need eachother just letting go for a while, i just dont want it to blow up in my face. ANY opinions would be more than welcomed! Sorry its quite a mission to read
DMS Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 If he finds his happiness elsewhere then perhaps it was not meant to be. Also, you don't have to hate someone to move on, you simply have to realize that it may be what is best for that other person and be willing to put that ahead of your own thoughts and desires.
Shinobi Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 No, it is not safe. Seems like GIGS starts developing and perhaps this will be the beggining of the end for your relationship. I do not want to scary you but one of my closest friends did that with his girlfriend and they went through hard times and now are not together. He reached for her again afterwards, they tried, but a lot of things were burdening their relations and seems impossible now. Although I might be completely wrong- just advising you, be prepared to hear some unexpected things. There is any chance he really needs some space but people do not push away people they love. You love him and it's completely illogical to drive him away, right? Well, for him it's not the case and there might be something happening behind the curtain. I hope I'm wrong but you are still young and it seems to me that if not now then in some point in the future you will have to go through this for real... It happened to me, it happened to most of us, looks like a usual pattern... Take care and keep in mind that there is mismatch between what you think a person is and what he really is, especially when you are in love...
Author Sophia12345 Posted April 29, 2012 Author Posted April 29, 2012 ahhhhhhhhhhhhh why is this so complicated, just want it to be over with or without him! Hate the fact everything takes time!
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