irc333 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 ....I think it's about time to call it off. I swear, a lot of the dating profiles I've been seeing lately, and it's usually the same faces I'm seeing all the time, have evolved into some bitter, whiny, demanding witch....where upon reading it....you feel like you're being yelled at, as opposed to a pleasant reading experience. But, apparently women can get away with negativity in their profiles more so than men (not saying all the time, I know I'm turned off by it). But, even seen it in BLOG format. 4/28/2012 - Okay, let clarify for you guys....<whine whine whine, *itch , itch itch* I'm sick of the jerks, players, married men! and people just wanting to get laid...blah blah blah Drug users, cons, EX-cons, people with DUI on their records....don't contact me. (Funny how most all dating profiles seem to have to state this, right? lol) In some cases, it might not be the above, but just some condescending, sarcasm with a long list of what they DONT want in a man. "Oh, also here is my lengthy, sarcastic and condescending NUMBERED list of people I don't want contacting me!" I actually have a woman in my area that has about a 30 items (yes numbered), I feel inclined to PASTE it all here, but not sure if that's a good idea. lol Parts of her / his profile would be in CAPS or exclamation points, etc. DO you think if it's come to THAT, it's about time to leave online dating for good?
oaks Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 When the list of "don't contact me if..." (or however she phrases it) is as long as the rest of her profile I find this a huge turn-off, even if none of it applies to me and even if her photos look good. But, it's her profile and she's free to write whatever she likes. I'm sure she'll still get plenty of messages.
Million.to.1 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 How many messages do you guys receive per day though from woman who are inappropriate matches?
ThaWholigan Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 How many messages do you guys receive per day though from woman who are inappropriate matches? Usually zero. It's actually a monumental moment when I get messaged - usually only to be disappointed lol. Have been messaged quite a bit, but considering I've been on POF for quite a long time now on and off - nowhere near enough.
Author irc333 Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 Usually zero. It's actually a monumental moment when I get messaged - usually only to be disappointed lol. Have been messaged quite a bit, but considering I've been on POF for quite a long time now on and off - nowhere near enough. Yeah, hardly any here...I recall one time I got an email from a woman....she looked like a 200+ slob from a trailer park. That's pretty much it. I mean, for cryin' outloud, at least run a comb through your hair. lol
sid3 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 ....I think it's about time to call it off That's probably not a bad idea.
Radu Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 ....I think it's about time to call it off. I swear, a lot of the dating profiles I've been seeing lately, and it's usually the same faces I'm seeing all the time, have evolved into some bitter, whiny, demanding witch....where upon reading it....you feel like you're being yelled at, as opposed to a pleasant reading experience. But, apparently women can get away with negativity in their profiles more so than men (not saying all the time, I know I'm turned off by it). But, even seen it in BLOG format. 4/28/2012 - Okay, let clarify for you guys....<whine whine whine, *itch , itch itch* I'm sick of the jerks, players, married men! and people just wanting to get laid...blah blah blah Drug users, cons, EX-cons, people with DUI on their records....don't contact me. (Funny how most all dating profiles seem to have to state this, right? lol) In some cases, it might not be the above, but just some condescending, sarcasm with a long list of what they DONT want in a man. "Oh, also here is my lengthy, sarcastic and condescending NUMBERED list of people I don't want contacting me!" I actually have a woman in my area that has about a 30 items (yes numbered), I feel inclined to PASTE it all here, but not sure if that's a good idea. lol Parts of her / his profile would be in CAPS or exclamation points, etc. DO you think if it's come to THAT, it's about time to leave online dating for good? I know nothing about OLD, have not used and i doubt i ever will, but what i do know about women is that they like to bait with DAMSEL IN DISTRESS.
ThaWholigan Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Yeah, hardly any here...I recall one time I got an email from a woman....she looked like a 200+ slob from a trailer park. That's pretty much it. I mean, for cryin' outloud, at least run a comb through your hair. lol Yes, same here. Lots of rather large women messaging me. Wouldn't be so bad because I like some big girls, but I couldn't see myself dating any of them. I think all the cute women who messaged me all had children too. I messaged back because I liked them, but it always petered out. I've yet to meet anyone off of POF or OKCupid.
Radu Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Wanted to add this to my above post : From personal experience i can tell you that if you date a negative person who both loves (sexually) and hates (consciously) your gender, you will be paying through the nose for what others did to that person. This is called baggage, and you avoid it.
oaks Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 How many messages do you guys receive per day though from woman who are inappropriate matches? About 2 per month. Do the "don't contact me if..." things actually work, though?
Million.to.1 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Yes, same here. Lots of rather large women messaging me. Wouldn't be so bad because I like some big girls, but I couldn't see myself dating any of them. I think all the cute women who messaged me all had children too. I messaged back because I liked them, but it always petered out. I've yet to meet anyone off of POF or OKCupid. Feel free to PM me with your openers. I'll give you some tips. 1
Million.to.1 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 About 2 per month. Do the "don't contact me if..." things actually work, though? I don't have any "don't contact if..." I only have a "i might not reply disclaimer" I get at least 10 messages from men I'm not interested in whenever i log in... they usually are full of questions regarding some shared interest or what i am up to tonight/ this weekend. groan.
oaks Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 I get at least 10 messages from men I'm not interested in whenever i log in... they usually are full of questions regarding some shared interest or what i am up to tonight/ this weekend. groan. I can see why what you're doing tonight or this weekend is a poor opener, but what's wrong with asking about a shared interest? Why did you state what your interests were if they aren't topics to talk about or if not to attract people with similar interests?
ThaWholigan Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 I can see why what you're doing tonight or this weekend is a poor opener, but what's wrong with asking about a shared interest? Why did you state what your interests were if they aren't topics to talk about or if not to attract people with similar interests? Wait, so not even a shared interest is acceptable? That's funny as hell. So what exactly am I going to message her about?
Author irc333 Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 Wait, so not even a shared interest is acceptable? That's funny as hell. So what exactly am I going to message her about? Perhaps she should rephrase that...she just didn't like OLD farts with same interests contacting her. The fact they had same interests was irrelevant.
Million.to.1 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 oh sorry, miscommunication. i don't have a problem talking about shared interests...i have a problem answering questions to a 300 pound 45 year old divorcee just because we both like the same band or something.
ThaWholigan Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Perhaps she should rephrase that...she just didn't like OLD farts with same interests contacting her. The fact they had same interests was irrelevant. . You know it's a blessing that I don't take things in life so seriously anymore. I just figure out a way to get around it.
ThaWholigan Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 oh sorry, miscommunication. i don't have a problem talking about shared interests...i have a problem answering questions to a 300 pound 45 year old divorcee just because we both like the same band or something. I hear that. I'm tired of getting "ur gawjuss, u ok bbz??" from outer city chavs with 3 kids - even though I am occasionally flattered (sometimes their alright looking to be honest). I think it's probably a good thing that I don't hold out much hope for OLD lol
oaks Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 oh sorry, miscommunication. i don't have a problem talking about shared interests...i have a problem answering questions to a 300 pound 45 year old divorcee just because we both like the same band or something. Oh I see. Well, that's fine! Don't answer questions from someone you aren't interested in, even if they are questions about a shared interest. Answering those questions (even if you finish with "but I'm not interested in you because of your weight, age and marital status" will just give him an excuse to continue the conversation.
Radu Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 I hear that. I'm tired of getting "ur gawjuss, u ok bbz??" from outer city chavs with 3 kids - even though I am occasionally flattered (sometimes their alright looking to be honest). I think it's probably a good thing that I don't hold out much hope for OLD lol What does that even mean ?
Million.to.1 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 i'd like, totes msg u wholy bruv. like hard. if u didn't liv like on the other side of da world and all dat. 1
Author irc333 Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 oh sorry, miscommunication. i don't have a problem talking about shared interests...i have a problem answering questions to a 300 pound 45 year old divorcee just because we both like the same band or something. Funny that you mention that, there's this woman...living pretty close to me....she has one of those demanding/annoying profiles that had evolved through frustrations. She had in her profile headliner, "Are there ANY good fish left" (gee , guess the site) Pretty damn good shape/body for a woman of her mature...in the late 40's...around here, most women in their late 40's look nothing like her. probably had good genes, too. But VERY athletic looking She starts off her intro with. "I don't want to offend anyone, but If I delete your profile without reading your email...it means I wasn't interested" Meaning.....she didn't read the email and only looked at the pictures. Then, like you Milton, said, "Just because we have something in common, doesn't mean that I'll be physically attracted to you!!" In exclamation points of course. Of course she rants on with, "Sorry if this sounds SHALLOW, but I have to be attracted!!" Of course, I guess she deserves it....she's attractive as well...but ...in this rural area.....all I can say is....good luck, mostly big gutted rednecks in these here neck o' the woods. lol She must've had a whole paragraph on the PHysical attraction part. Quite sickening to read. A complete rant about "I know I want....!"
ThaWholigan Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 What does that even mean ? Excuse my poor grammar there, not much sleep "ur gawjuss, u ok bbz" translated "You are gorgeous, how are you today?" 1
Million.to.1 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Oh I see. Well, that's fine! Don't answer questions from someone you aren't interested in, even if they are questions about a shared interest. Answering those questions (even if you finish with "but I'm not interested in you because of your weight, age and marital status" will just give him an excuse to continue the conversation. Ha! Exactly!
gotye Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 dude, that's why you just ignore when u get msgs from someone u no want
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