reimeivn Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Hi there, For those of you who are hurting, I hope you will feel better soon. I promise you will. I broke up a year ago, I got hurt quite a lot, but eventually you dont anymore. People here have been very supporting, so keep posting on, keep sharing, let people touch you with their words. I think that the experience of a broken heart is very unique to each person but the compassion is what we all have, and all appreciate at the right time. So please trust in the goodness of the world and trust in the goodness within you. I have this experience that I want to share, not quite the usual breaking up story. That story of mine you can find through old posts. This story, however, is about the internship and job hunting. I applied to a bunch last year, nobody replied. I thought I was not good enough. We all do when we get rejected. This year, I updated the portfolio with some new works, and applied again. I got one offer. Of course I jumped in, and he was horrible. He took advantage of me. I could have kept working for him because I thought that I could not get anything better, at the time it seemed like I was the lucky one looking at my friends not even having an internship to do. Or I could risk, so I quit, and I applied again. This time I say I am not going to give the native files, and if you dont like my works, then dont hire me. I got 17 offers in like 3 weeks. But not all of them pay, so I did one, then I applied again. You would think that during finals week and I also do test designs for all 17 of them, how would I manage, I just stayed up all night long and do it. Thats the point, when you risk it, dont risk it half way, risk it all. Put your best efforts into it, when its done then its done, your done, move on. So here I am, a month later, having 25 offers, and have the options to choose. They are considerate and they are crazy about what I do and how I do it. When we talked, we talked about me and what would benefit me more than what they like me to do. The story is a part of what going on with me after the guy left me. I did see him again and I look down on him. In the span of a year, you will see clearly, who you are, how you have grown, and the nature of the breakup itself. Dont think that you are not good enough, and know that even if you made mistakes, thats not the reason, there is a bigger reason why you are not with that person anymore, and its a good reason, and sometimes, you need that goodbye to say hello to a new part of your life. I am truly glad that he let me go, so I can go somewhere big, do something big. I realized that if you are patient enough, the right ones are gonna find you, in life as well as in love. Dont be afraid of changes, changes are good, pack up and leave, just make sure wherever you go, go with all your heart. *** It is gonna be really lonely for a long time, but your heart will be filled with love again, once the feelings you have for the ex is gone. You are still loved, just wrapped up in pains right now. So when you get hurt, when you cry, when you cant breathe, know that I felt that too, and I feel you too, you are not alone at all, reach out, I ll be here to comfort you.
windmask Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 hi yes i too struggled a lot after my ex gf left me a year ago. i went no contact with her for a year. she recently contacted well i ran into her she stopped to tell me how i was the worst bf she ever had and she broke up and is happy. i got upset and just left then she messaged me online too only to tell me how amazing her life is since she made the decision to leave me. i said its good i wish her the best she said this 3 times i lost it i said stay away from me your a low life lady. so hoenstly the dumpers are just jerks to be honest they want things there way we dont see the signs when were with them but after the relationship ends we do. i realize now that shes just a money digging girl. reason she left was because i was in school well college and she said your not educated high enough and since ur in school u dont have a lot of money. am like whatttt after 2 years u tell me this w.e. anyhows a year later i still feel the pain...but after reading your story it does give me hope that i should focous on myself and just forget all this and one day when i dont expect it i find the girl am suppose to be with. so thanks for sharing your stories too lady...
sweetheart5381 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Hi there, For those of you who are hurting, I hope you will feel better soon. I promise you will. I broke up a year ago, I got hurt quite a lot, but eventually you dont anymore. People here have been very supporting, so keep posting on, keep sharing, let people touch you with their words. I think that the experience of a broken heart is very unique to each person but the compassion is what we all have, and all appreciate at the right time. So please trust in the goodness of the world and trust in the goodness within you. I have this experience that I want to share, not quite the usual breaking up story. That story of mine you can find through old posts. This story, however, is about the internship and job hunting. I applied to a bunch last year, nobody replied. I thought I was not good enough. We all do when we get rejected. This year, I updated the portfolio with some new works, and applied again. I got one offer. Of course I jumped in, and he was horrible. He took advantage of me. I could have kept working for him because I thought that I could not get anything better, at the time it seemed like I was the lucky one looking at my friends not even having an internship to do. Or I could risk, so I quit, and I applied again. This time I say I am not going to give the native files, and if you dont like my works, then dont hire me. I got 17 offers in like 3 weeks. But not all of them pay, so I did one, then I applied again. You would think that during finals week and I also do test designs for all 17 of them, how would I manage, I just stayed up all night long and do it. Thats the point, when you risk it, dont risk it half way, risk it all. Put your best efforts into it, when its done then its done, your done, move on. So here I am, a month later, having 25 offers, and have the options to choose. They are considerate and they are crazy about what I do and how I do it. When we talked, we talked about me and what would benefit me more than what they like me to do. The story is a part of what going on with me after the guy left me. I did see him again and I look down on him. In the span of a year, you will see clearly, who you are, how you have grown, and the nature of the breakup itself. Dont think that you are not good enough, and know that even if you made mistakes, thats not the reason, there is a bigger reason why you are not with that person anymore, and its a good reason, and sometimes, you need that goodbye to say hello to a new part of your life. I am truly glad that he let me go, so I can go somewhere big, do something big. I realized that if you are patient enough, the right ones are gonna find you, in life as well as in love. Dont be afraid of changes, changes are good, pack up and leave, just make sure wherever you go, go with all your heart. *** It is gonna be really lonely for a long time, but your heart will be filled with love again, once the feelings you have for the ex is gone. You are still loved, just wrapped up in pains right now. So when you get hurt, when you cry, when you cant breathe, know that I felt that too, and I feel you too, you are not alone at all, reach out, I ll be here to comfort you. Very lovely, thank you for your encouraging words There is more to life than romantic relationships. Sometimes these seem to take precedence, but it's far better to see it all in perspective. I got an email last night from an old friend and colleague. Long story short, I broke new ground as a student in my program 3 yrs ago when I became professionally certified prior to graduation in my field of study. I defied the odds and did it, so that other students would do it too. My goal was to influence other students to strive for more. 3 yrs later, another student has followed in my footsteps . My ultimate goal has been fulfilled. There is now a new brand new award that has been created to honour students that become certified and I have the honour of my name being the first and for creating new opportunities for others. Even if you are discarded by a lover, no worries, your value is in who you are and no one person can take that from you. Shine on and feel good!
CopingGal Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 Yes, my ex did not value me. I began to realize that 6 months before I left him. But I thought maybe I was being too sensitive. But even the couple's therapist said I was worth more than my bf was treating me. After I left him she told me he was not a good bf. I have a lot of value. When I realized that, I left my ex. I will never date someone who makes me feel bad about myself, ever again. Thanks for the wonderful thread.
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