Bob_Funk Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 I went to a bar alone tonight, as I often do. The place was packed, but the male to female ratio was like 6 to 1. You could hear the faint slapping of sausage against thigh if you listened carefully enough. Opportunities to approach were so sparse. As soon as one guy would be done spitting his game, a new dancing monkey would immediately take his place. I had to physically pull girls aside to get a word in edgewise. Some fights broke out near the end of the night. Nothing new. Picture a bunch of frustrated whiggers with nothing to lose, all fighting to the death for that elusive mating opportunity. It was like watching the Discovery Channel. As always, I went home alone. No numbers or makeouts either. Why bars are considered good pick up venues, I'll never understand.
jobaba Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Who told you bars are good pickup venues? Bars are good pickup venues for women and for men who usually do well with women outside of bars. For other guys, they're brutal. 1
dasein Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 (edited) Here are some tips for working bars I have posted before: 1. Never just walk into a bar blind. Do your homework and find the bars that attract a crowd of what you want. Pick three and make those your home turf. Go to those bars and those bars only until you realize one is a mistake and then do more homework and replace it. Steer clear of loud, dark, crowded poorly designed bars. Steer clear of drunken kid party bars. 2. Go during non weekend, non rush times. Every schlub is trying to pull on the weekends. Every woman knows that, alternatively putting her guard up and encouraging attention whoring. 3. Go frequently for short times. Don't get drunk, act like the DD and order club soda after one drink. Don't mix partying and meeting women. The two are counter to each other. Learn to have a partying demeanor and motion without actually partying. 4. Get to know the staff, especially the bartenders. Remember their names. Eventually you will meet the owner(s). Remember their names and speak to them briefly every time you are there. Speak to all the staff. You will develop a posture and attitude of this being "your place." You will be known. This is a -tremendous- social advantage. 5. Cultivate platonic friendships with attractive women, married, single, doesn't matter. Start out the evening having a drink with friends, then take them with you to one of your places. Being seen with women, being seen having women touch you, laugh with you, is extremely beneficial, powerful mojo for meeting other women. 6. Talk to everyone there, young old, men, women, ugly, good looking. Get known among other regulars. They all have friends who will be there from time to time, some of those are attractive single women. 7. Stake out places in the bars that are near chokepoints to hang, not -in- the chokepoint, just near it. Don't run around all over the bar back and forth constantly. Women like to see someone comfortable in their place. They will also gravitate towards men who they find interesting. If you are constantly moving around, they won't be able to signal interest in this way. 8. Wherever you are, don't lean over like a tired hunchback, don't lean over the bar especially. Sit up straight and back, turned a bit towards the crowd with an open posture. If you are tired go home. 9. Work one bar for a short time. Don't close bars down hoping to scrape up some drunk floozy. That's both desperate and shallow. Women see men behaving like this and the good ones don't appreciate it. 10. Groups of women are great to approach. Take a second to figure out who the queen bee is. "Hi ladies, what's the occasion?" works fine, especially if they have seen you socializing with staff, regulars, the owner. If the queen bee is married, charm her, flirt innocuously. She will help you if she likes you. Don't try to split off some girl from the group, engage them all. It will become apparent if one of them likes you. If so, and she interests you, ask for the number. 11. Leave them wanting more. "I have to run, nice meeting you, can I call you?" rather than trying to do a "war of attrition." You will lose these almost always and be frustratingly c-blocked trying to play the waiting game. That's enough for now, hope this helps. Bars are very doable with just a bit of effort. Very few men will have this attitude, and it shows in how they end up being treated by women in bars. Good luck. Edited April 28, 2012 by dasein 5
mesmerized Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Come to where I live. Weekend nights there is 60+ percent women in them. And the good looking (even some of the average looking) guys constantly get hit on.
persevere Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 (edited) I, too, was on the prowl last night. It wasn't a bad ratio. It was a restaurant/cantina. A kind of rowdy place, packed with 30 somethings who turned happy hour into dinner and more margaritas. Not a traditional bar. Not the kind of place where all the dudes patrol like meerkats and the women are self righteous and or kissing each other. So anyway, I did my usual lurking near the women's restroom and got a number after some converstaion mixed with humor. She was cute, but could barely walk. Ill find out if its the correct number later today. It was nice to not have to log on to talk to her. Edited April 28, 2012 by persevere
persevere Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Come to where I live. Weekend nights there is 60+ percent women in them. And the good looking (even some of the average looking) guys constantly get hit on. Where are you? I've been to Iceland, seriously. It was like that there...
Author Bob_Funk Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 Where are you? I've been to Iceland, seriously. It was like that there... Getting the f*ck out of Amerika is probably the best thing a guy could do to improve his sex life.
persevere Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Getting the f*ck out of Amerika is probably the best thing a guy could do to improve his sex life. No kidding. I travel to Central America for work. The women there are pretty straight up and let you be the man, playing less games. Of course, the economy of scale is a bit different.
persevere Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 So anyway, I did my usual lurking near the women's restroom and got a number after some converstaion mixed with humor. She was cute, but could barely walk. Ill find out if its the correct number later today. It was nice to not have to log on to talk to her. Well, I tried calling several times this morning, over a few hours. The phone is always busy. Is this a bad sign? I hope she enjoys her cats.
ThaWholigan Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Meh, I live in London and there are like 1 million different cultures rolled into one city . I get rejected a lot, but I'm not too bothered about it personally, because I'm getting better and enjoying my life a little more.
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