mortensorchid Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 I got back in the game tonight. I had an Internet date with a man tonight who is a beekeeper (no really, he is) who also works a variety of other odd jobs (construction and as a substitute teacher). I liked him, he was a good guy. He asked after dinner if I wanted to go out and drink some more coffee with him, but I declined (don't want to make it too easy for him). He walked me to my car, we said our good-byes and he said "I'll call you". So I am playing the waiting game in the meantime. That report aside on how the evening went, I was struck by how much of an Alpha Male / Bad Boy my last serious boyfriend was. Unfortunately I found out a bit too late that he was just so. Our last real date we were driving by this location (which happened to be a doughnut shop that was recently shut down) and said that place held wonderful memories for him. It's a well known place for drug trafficing. I asked if it was a place like a coffee shop, but he was there when it was in its heyday of said trafficing. Even though he was the one who dumped me, I realized at that moment that I had hitched my wagon to a Bad Boy. He had all the signs : inflated ego, enjoyed racing cars and dangerous sports. He mentioned a few times getting into a fist fight with someone, and several sources confirmed this afterward, and he certainly was (I must admit) a tornado in the sack. Women are attracted to guys like him because we are Bad Girls ourselves and we are acting out our own wants and needs to be bad through them. Boys may be boys, but I'm a grown up now and I don't want drama like him anymore. I hope the Beekeeper calls back soon ...
ThaWholigan Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 I predict a riot ....... On Topic, I suspect there are a lot of girls out there who are learning the exact same lesson, and conversely a lot of girls who are, quite simply, suited to that life. Not an insult, because bad boys and bad girls need love too . The bad boy thing is a bit of a myth though, because I know some bad boys who are terrible at attracting women. There are other attributes at play here that seem to be more innate in bad boys but is not exclusive to them, I think that must always be stressed.
january2011 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 I declined (don't want to make it too easy for him) In my opinion, that might have come across as disinterest. Depends how easily he's put off and how keen he is on seeing you again. 1
Author mortensorchid Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 No fable? .. .. That was a fable, wasn't it? Ha ha ha... I have learned that if you say yes to everything immediately they will not chase you. And if he has not called within the first 48 hours since he will just be a friend. I do not chase guys having learned the hard way. They can do the work in the initial stages.
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