HollyBolly Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 This is what I was told. Was chatting with a friend today and she is going through something similar as I. For me, it all started when my dog got hit and killed by a car on Christmas evening, and then was treated like garbage by the roads crew here. One week after that, on NYE, my ex revealed what kind of a person she really was by making it all about herself. 2012 started with a bang for me. I was devastated but my baby didn't die in vain. I started a petition and group on FB for her to bring awareness, so that the same thing wouldn't happen to other pet owners. I posted this on the group after our BU: "Hi, all. I came to the realisation recently that T, indeed, did not die in vain. Whereas I was hoping her death would bring awareness so that what happened to her would not happen to another, it has instead freed me of a very vile and poisonous person in my life. As you all know, T's passing affected me very greatly. I was very depressed. All my friends and family on this group and in my life helped me tremendously. For that I am forever grateful. There was, however, one person who stayed away and offered no support whatsoever: the person who was supposed to have been the closest to me, my girlfriend, M. I have since ended the relationship. It was difficult at first but I find I feel utterly, for lack of a better word, emancipated today! One of my friends came over for a drink last night and told me that M had told him, after I started the petition, that she didn't understand what the fuss was all about. She had also told him that she did not want to sign it. This coming from someone who told T day in and day out how much she loved her. I have come to realise that I was wasting my love and time on a complete narcissist. It came at great expense but were it not for what happened to T, it would have taken me a much longer time to be rid of this awful, awful person. No doubt she would've secured another victim before dumping me, just like she did her previous victims. T, thank you!" My dog's passing was the impetus for me to finally say no to my ex. Take it and use it to free yourselves. May my baby rest in peace.
Chi townD Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Yeah, I love dogs. Their love for us is totally unconditional. Whether you're having a bad day, they're there to pick us up. When we're sad, they console us. When we grieve, they grieve with us. When we are happy, the celebrate with us and they ask NOTHING in return except our love and they'll give it back to you 10 fold. Most selfless creatures on the planet. I'm sorry about the passing of your dog. 1
CCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCC Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Weird man, my dog of 11 1/2 years also passed around the same time. My now ex showed no sympathy at this time and forced me to go to a party with her the night of his death even though it was obvious I was in pain. We broke up a few months later but that was one of the events that showed me her true colors. Self centered. I also plan to make 2012 a year of change. 1
DMS Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 More of a cat person myself but I was raised around dogs and my current cat behaves like one a lot. I wholeheartedly agree with Chi TownD some of the most loving and selfless creatures on the planet. People could stand to take a lesson from them. Sorry for your loss.
Author HollyBolly Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 Yeah, I love dogs. Their love for us is totally unconditional. Whether you're having a bad day, they're there to pick us up. When we're sad, they console us. When we grieve, they grieve with us. When we are happy, the celebrate with us and they ask NOTHING in return except our love and they'll give it back to you 10 fold. Most selfless creatures on the planet. I'm sorry about the passing of your dog. Thank you, Chi. Yes, aren't they just...what is the word I am looking for? Oh, wait. There is no word to describe them. I miss my baby but, like I said, she died for a very good reason. Everything happens for a reason. God bless her and all dogs. I will see them again.
Author HollyBolly Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 More of a cat person myself but I was raised around dogs and my current cat behaves like one a lot. I wholeheartedly agree with Chi TownD some of the most loving and selfless creatures on the planet. People could stand to take a lesson from them. Sorry for your loss. Thank you. I'm afraid I don't know much about cats, but I'm sure they are better than we.
fucpcg Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 My ex dumped me last year in February. I lost her and her 3 boys who I fathered. First week of June I lost my 12 year old dog. Last week of June I lost my 10 year old dog, and that night when going out to distract myself, I come face to face with the ex and her new guy. July I lost my oldest cat at age 13. I also lost the main contract that fueled my business and paid my living last January, and have struggled to replace since. I don't know how and why sometimes in life we need to go thru such struggles, but it does happen. When I look at what a brutal year it was, I try to remember this story from last summer: Army amputee thrown from NY roller coaster, dies - Yahoo! News Poor guy gets his legs blown off in Iraq, then gets thrown off roller coaster to his death last summer. THERE IS ALWAYS SOMEONE GOING THRU SOMETHING WORSE. 1
staringspace Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Okay, I know we're going off the subject of pets, but losing a pet or someone very close to you can really put things into perspective. I was still with my ex when my mum died 1 1/2 years ago, and while he was great at the time of the whole thing happening (I'll always thank him for that) he decided to cheat on me less than 2 months after she died (in our first term of university). When you see someone do something like that without any thought or reason to their actions, it really makes you question how much they really care. I did end up taking him back for a very messy year after that - but now I've gotten rid of him for good (I don't want anything to do with him) I've realised his true colours, and the fact that he really was too selfish to realise that grief lasts longer than just a few weeks. When something like this happens, you can guarantee that there's someone out there better for you. 1
TaraMaiden Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Nice thread HollyBolly. i found and signed the petition, BTW.... Make it all about your dog, honey. Hell, he's your wonderful unconditional love of your life - use him to focus on what matters. But don't let him perceive a weakness. Dogs will always challenge your alpha status, when they notice an insecurity in their owner.... You have to fake it until you make it - but with animals - you have to fake it so well, they believe it. They're extremely sensitive to changes in your emotions, and can pick up a tremor in a heartbeat.... emotions - or a display of same - are, to a dog in a pack - a sign of weakness. And a weak leader, is no leader at all.... so up with the confidence! Stay calm, stay in control and be assertive. kick it to the kerb!! 1
Author HollyBolly Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 Thank you, all. I will be moving out of this toxic town next week, back to the city near the beach where almost everyone has a dog. It will be good for me and him. Found out my ex had been asking around town if I'd moved. Questioned her motive at first but decided I didn't really care. She made her bed, she can die in it. Yes, die in it.
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