Chrisal23 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 All of a sudden I want to talk to my ex. I'm trying to chill with my friends but I still think about her! I bet she's probably having fun with her a friends and other boys since we broke up. I'm trying to stay positive but it's getting harder each day. I feel like one of these days I will slip and text her. O donar know what to do.
darkmoon Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 pull yourself together; you need to get out more, plenty cute girls, it's spring everybody's out there looking lovely, give somebody else a chance, you'll have much more fun
HollyBolly Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 (edited) All of a sudden I want to talk to my ex. I'm trying to chill with my friends but I still think about her! I bet she's probably having fun with her a friends and other boys since we broke up. I'm trying to stay positive but it's getting harder each day. I feel like one of these days I will slip and text her. O donar know what to do. No worries, mate. We all feel that way once in awhile. I want to call or text my ex now! I won't, though. Why? Because I know it will only end up hurting me. Forget about whether it will hurt her, it will hurt me! You are fine. This is normal. Just post here. Follow your avatar! Sing Gung! Edited April 28, 2012 by HollyBolly
Author Chrisal23 Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 So how can I do to stop feeling this way? I feel bad even posting here cause I don't like to whine about my problems to people.
HollyBolly Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 So how can I do to stop feeling this way? I feel bad even posting here cause I don't like to whine about my problems to people. You're not whining. You're venting. There's a difference. You can't stop feeling this way until you acknowledge your feeling. Feel your pain. Accept it. You are hurt. Nothing wrong with it. You are human. 2
DMS Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Honestly I have found LS to be an invaluable resource as I go through the loss of my ex. The posters here have been more than kind with advice and knowledge. I know it is hard, but if you can go for a walk or jog, ride a bike, read a book do anything to get yourself thinking of something else. as has been said before all it will do is reopen the hurt that you have felt. Trust me, I tried talking to the ex a few times before finding this site and all it did was make me miss her more and wish that I could do something to get her back. That's no way to live. 1
HollyBolly Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 I tried talking to the ex a few times before finding this site and all it did was make me miss her more and wish that I could do something to get her back. That's no way to live. Amen to that! That is NO way to live! There should be a conference for us in Arizona or some s**t.
Author Chrisal23 Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 The thing is most of my friends I don't talk to like that. I wish I had at least one person. Who can hear everything I have to say. I have so many questions and things I want tell someone , but unfortunately there isn't anyone
DMS Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 That is the benefit of a site like this, I know what you mean about having no one to talk to, I am 800 miles from my family and friends because I moved here to be with her so I have no one readily on stand by to vent to. Luckily that is what these boards are all about, so vent to your hearts content and you just may find people willing to offer advice, insight and their own experiences to help you through.
Author Chrisal23 Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 (edited) Ok anyone please help me out. I went out with this girl for 2 years. One of the things that bothered me the most was the fact that she never forgave me for my mistakes yet I forgave her for worse ones. I drank with friends when we broke up and talked to another girl for advice. This is the reason why she couldn't trust me anymore. The things that bothered me the most was when she left to talk to another boy when we were going out. This boy has been in the picture since we first met. She has mentioned to me that she likes the way he treats her! And also asked for a break multiple times, and a year later I found out it was because she wanted to be with this boy! After we broke up last time she went to the movies alone with this boy. Now my mind is going crazy cause I feel she's with this boy. She broke up with me this time because she thought I was cheating on her , which I wasn't and I was also acting distant. The reason I was acting distant was because of the constant questions that made me feel she didn't trust me and the fact she kept on telling me she wasn't over my mistakes. I feel bad , she's probably moving on with this boy and I'm here wanting to talk to her. Edited April 28, 2012 by Chrisal23
DMS Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 I understand the wanting to talk to her, but by your own admission she wants / wanted to be with this other guy. I am going through much the same situation myself although I get the impression you are a bit younger than I. Honestly the best thing I have found is No contact at all, there is a thread here that has really helped me with that : No Contact Q&A (for you LS newbies) - LoveShack.org Community Forums I know it is hard at first but, you have to be willing to give her enough rope to either a) hang herself ( so to speak ) by moving on to this new relationship which may or may not last. or b) use it as a guide back to you. There is no definite way to tell which she will do but given the fact that you said this other guy has been there from the start I have to conclude that she knows she can string you along and has been doing so while keeping the feelings for him alive and well. The other benefit of no contact is that it allows you to put thing in perspective. By saying you are "trying to remain positive" I get the impression that what you are doing is clinging to hope that she will come running back to you. I know this is a hard one to accept as I am slowly coming to terms with it myself but you have to be willing to let go in order for the healing process to begin. It will and does suck at first but as long as you keep yourself occupied you will begin to feel better about you and that is what is important. Finding someone that deserves you.
Author Chrisal23 Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 I read the post. Thank you, this cheered me up. Now i just wish I could fast forward time lol.
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