HollyBolly Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 and then today, I heard that she was miserable and I felt really sorry for her!! The local hairdresser who is also a friend (small town) came for a visit today and told me my ex had, at the beginning of our BU, gone into her place and basically loitered, hoping for some sort of conversation or interaction. Unlike me, my ex does not have many friends. She has 1. Uno! And they are only friends really because they both hate me now. I don't know why but I felt so sorry for her that I wanted to reach out. I had thought that I had wanted her to be miserable. Now that I know she was, it kills me. WTF is that?
shayla Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 It sounds like compassion to me. Sounds like you have a heart. And that you don't want to see anyone suffer. Not even a person that made you suffer. 2
Shinobi Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 There is nothing wrong to wish for that when somebody hurt you. I myself want the same for my ex and can't wait for that moment. What goes around comes around. She made you suffer, now it's her turn. Just watch. 1
ctes300 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 I am still waiting for some to go around my ex's way. I'll probably either never see it or see it long after my life has moved along anyway. I don't ever want her back but it wouldn't be so bad seeing her feel something like I have for the past several months.
TaraMaiden Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 (edited) Think a minute: She really showed her true colours when you last pet died. She demonstrated a part of her character that was both callous and inconsiderate. It was all about her, and she had absolutely no empathy for you, or concern about what had happened to your dog. Then, you run into her and you come across as self-assured, confident and cheerful. Now? She's not miserable. No, she's not... She's feeling sorry for herself. she's in 'poor me, woe is me 'mode. Well, you don't need to play in to that. It's self-inflicted. Miserable is, as miserable does. Edited April 28, 2012 by TaraMaiden 2
Author HollyBolly Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 Now? She's not miserable. No, she's not... She's feeling sorry for herself. she's in 'poor me, woe is me 'mode. Be that as it may, my heart still broke when I heard she was unhappy. I thought I'd wanted that. *sigh* Thank you all, for your responses.
Sugarkane Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 If she's unhappy thats her problem now, not yours anymore. 2
TaraMaiden Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 I have to agree with sugarkane here.... You have to detach, and practise indifference. there was no such emotion of empathy when you needed it most. now, in order to protect yourself, you have to stop caring. you actually have to practice something that is completely alien to you. you have to continue without a care in the world..... 1
Tiera D Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 Do not hate her..just let it go to u it should be she is a mere stranger,a ghost in ur past,something that is dead..A normal person cannot hate another that he/she truely loves even its past,do not confuse pity and love.remember that. TD 1
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