New to the dating scene, what's the next step?

[lostmamba]

Hi, I'm new to this forum and also am quite new to talking to girls I like and asking them on dates. After looking up a lot of threads and topics, I decided to post my own problem. I entered college a year ago and broke up with my gf in a relationship that lasted 4 years. During these last couple months of being single, i don't have any issues of trying to talk to girls in my classes; whether they are or not attractive, I'll just try to talk to them and get to know them more. But my problem is for the girls that I am interested in, besides feeling a little shy, I do not know when is the best time to ask the girl on a date and I can't tell if they are also interested in me:(.

For example, there's this girl in my class that I started talking to a week and a half ago and I'm very interested in. We exchanged numbers and I texted her every couple days to start a convo. Now I know I should not take too long after getting to know her before I get friendzoned, but is there an appropriate time where I can ask her out? I really felt like the 4 year relationship I had kind of halted my development of talking to women who I don't know and who i'm also interested in. Any advice or opinions are welcomed. Thanks!

[Feanor]

yes the appropriate time is right now! Just ask her if she'd like to grab lunch or something sometime. Send the text right now!!!!!!!!!!!

[thatone]

general rule of thumb: you have no investment in any girl you talk to until you're getting not just one but say...a month's worth of dates out of her. and even then, assuming you're not a virgin and don't care to be with one, until you're having sex on a regular basis you don't have any obligation to any of these girls. getting attached to someone you have nothing in return from is a recipe for failure.

 

as such, there should be no worry about when you ask them out, what you ask them to do, or any other such imaginary 'rule'. because there are no rules.