Ani Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Question is below! Well I was reading/learning about this in my psychology class and also read about it online. After thinking about it. I can see some connections to my relationship. OK for example my girlfriend and I are in a long distance relationship, until next month.. YAY! Her parents relationship also started as a long distance relationship and have been happily married now for 25 years. The second thing that's common, her dad and I are both into software engineering/software development. I didn't know her dad did what I'm dreaming of becoming in the near future until recently. Third thing, her dad and I are crazy about sports he's into cricket while I'm into soccer. In attitude wise according to my girlfriend we're different. I'm more compassionate while he's more strict. There are many more similarities but I can't be bothered to write them. All this just seems weird to me. I didn't start thinking about these similarities until I learned about it in psychology. The similarities are rather jaw dropping. It doesn't bother me. I just find it rather interesting. Do you think it's true? Is a female most likely to marry someone who's like their father?
january2011 Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 There's a certain comfort derived from sticking to what you know and are used to. Perhaps you do remind her of her father and thus she's attracted to you because you feel familiar and comfortable. The relationship is 'easy'. That's attraction. Marriage is a different proposition. I don't know many women who married guys who reminded them of their father. Doesn't mean it doesn't happen though.
dasein Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 If she finds you attractive, she will recreate you in her mind as being "like her father" as it suits her, whether you really are or aren't. I can come up with similarities between Snooki and Mother Teresa if I'm trying to fit a specific attitude about them.
FitChick Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Do you think it's true? Is a female most likely to marry someone who's like their father? If they haven't resolved a bad relationship with their father, they will look for someone similar so they can rewrite history and have a happy ending, which is always futile. Sometimes they will seek someone who is the opposite -- a friend of mine had a very controlling father, so much so that she ran away from home and was put into foster care. The men she dated were rather weak and passive and she was the one controlling them, I assume because she felt safer.
ThaWholigan Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 I've heard that, seen it play out a couple of times. I more hear it in regards to sons and mothers though. My cousin told me I'll end up with a girl who looks like my mother .
threebyfate Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 How do you suppose people learn about love and relationships besides the family home, during their foundational years? To start off the analysis, my husband and I both get along with our parents and each other's parents extremely well. What's interesting is that my personality is somewhere between my mother and father, closer to my father's side. My husband's personality is somewhere between my mother and father's personalities, closer to my mother's. My father's tall, dark and handsome. So is my husband. Let's shift over to my husband's side. In personality, I'm somewhere between his mother and father, closer to his mother's personality. H's personality is somewhere between his mother and father, closer to his father's personality. His mother is short, thin and dark-haired. Guess what I look like? All coincidences or...
westrock Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 Do you think it's true? Is a female most likely to marry someone who's like their father? This goes both ways. Your g/f is probabably just like your mother in some ways (or some other female figure you knew growing up).
Author Ani Posted April 28, 2012 Author Posted April 28, 2012 This goes both ways. Your g/f is probabably just like your mother in some ways (or some other female figure you knew growing up). Yup! It's kinda freaky/interesting/cool now that I've noticed it.
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