lovesick23 Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 (edited) My boyfriend of 11months left me a week before our 1 year anniversary. We were in a long distance relationship the whole time we were together and that was never a problem for us. We saw each other every weekend. He is 21 and I am 23. I cannot say our relationship was perfect, it wasnt, by any means. When he initially left, he said it was so that we had some space and a wakeup call. It definitely gave me a wakeup call and I realized where I lacked in the relationship, and where I could fix things. I explained to him that I would make every attempt to fix our problems and make him happy again. The first week of our breakup, he was drunk everynight out partying with his very very immature friends. One night even texting me asking if I would take him back. Only to tell me the next day when he was sober that he didnt know if he "meant" it. Three weeks have passed and I have received nothing but mixed messages. When I try no contact, he wants to talk. When I try to hold a conversation with him he will only respond when he feels like it. If he is not "too busy". I am 99% sure there is not another girl in the picture. And when I told him that I might try and move on to other people he was very jealous and angry. Feeling as though I was still "His". I have really hoped that we could say goodbye in person. Or at least see each other in person. Since when he left it was so ubrupt and unexpected for us both. I do not want to leave this hanging with no closure. I don't want it to be over at all, but it;s not solely up to me. He has promised me he would make time for me. It has been almost a month and there are still talks of seeing each other but it hasnt happened yet. I think he is being a coward and is afraid to see me, because if he did I dont think we would continue to be separated. He was always the head-over-heels one in our relationship. Always the one who was madly in love and would do anything for me and all of a sudden it changed. He claims he is "broken". Doesnt know what happened to him, or what he even wants. It seems like something snapped in him. I feel like he is a stranger to me sometimes. In the meantime I am suffering with the mixed messages and have done nothing but love him and miss him, and in return he can be quite cold at times. Other times when I am not speaking to him then he is "sad". I think I am so afraid of never speaking to him again because he will forget about me. He will move on. And I never even got to say goodbye Any Advice would be appreciated. Edited April 27, 2012 by lovesick23
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 My boyfriend of 11months left me a week before our 1 year anniversary. We were in a long distance relationship the whole time we were together and that was never a problem for us. We saw each other every weekend. He is 21 and I am 23. I cannot say our relationship was perfect, it wasnt, by any means. When he initially left, he said it was so that we had some space and a wakeup call. It definitely gave me a wakeup call and I realized where I lacked in the relationship, and where I could fix things. I explained to him that I would make every attempt to fix our problems and make him happy again. The first week of our breakup, he was drunk everynight out partying with his very very immature friends. One night even texting me asking if I would take him back. Only to tell me the next day when he was sober that he didnt know if he "meant" it. Three weeks have passed and I have received nothing but mixed messages. When I try no contact, he wants to talk. When I try to hold a conversation with him he will only respond when he feels like it. If he is not "too busy". I am 99% sure there is not another girl in the picture. And when I told him that I might try and move on to other people he was very jealous and angry. Feeling as though I was still "His". I have really hoped that we could say goodbye in person. Or at least see each other in person. Since when he left it was so ubrupt and unexpected for us both. I do not want to leave this hanging with no closure. I don't want it to be over at all, but it;s not solely up to me. He has promised me he would make time for me. It has been almost a month and there are still talks of seeing each other but it hasnt happened yet. I think he is being a coward and is afraid to see me, because if he did I dont think we would continue to be separated. He was always the head-over-heels one in our relationship. Always the one who was madly in love and would do anything for me and all of a sudden it changed. He claims he is "broken". Doesnt know what happened to him, or what he even wants. It seems like something snapped in him. I feel like he is a stranger to me sometimes. In the meantime I am suffering with the mixed messages and have done nothing but love him and miss him, and in return he can be quite cold at times. Other times when I am not speaking to him then he is "sad". I think I am so afraid of never speaking to him again because he will forget about me. He will move on. And I never even got to say goodbyeHe's immature and does know what he wants...another girl. Go with your gut. Your first reaction is usually the correct one. What do you want with this bozo who left you. He left you...that's enough to make you want to not contact him. And contacting him is useless because it fattens up his ego and robs you of your dignity. You get nothing from it. He is a stranger to you; there is nothing to love about him here. If he's cold, there you go. Move on from this one. 1
Author lovesick23 Posted April 27, 2012 Author Posted April 27, 2012 Thank you BewitchedandBothered. No one has been able to put it so simply. I am losing my dignity. And he is sitting there getting all of this attention thinking Im going to wait for him for the rest of my life. He doesnt want me. That is reason enough to forget about him. 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Thank you BewitchedandBothered. No one has been able to put it so simply. I am losing my dignity. And he is sitting there getting all of this attention thinking Im going to wait for him for the rest of my life. He doesnt want me. That is reason enough to forget about him. Sitting up there thinking "yep, she wants me", while doing whatever he's doing. Keep that dignity and if he calls wondering what you're up to, tell him to keep his spoon out of your bowl; it's ovahhhh!!
Author lovesick23 Posted April 27, 2012 Author Posted April 27, 2012 Sitting up there thinking "yep, she wants me", while doing whatever he's doing. Keep that dignity and if he calls wondering what you're up to, tell him to keep his spoon out of your bowl; it's ovahhhh!! Thank you Thank you! Why care if he doesnt?
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