we made plans to visit city together, shes going with friends now should i be mad

[thatoneguy1988]

long story short we have been seeing eachother for a little over a year, we live in different countrys so we do not get to see eachother often, It costs a signifigant amount of money for me to go see her which is fine. I Visited her in her home city, went to all the museums and monuments etc, we made plans long before this to visit a different city in her country together and she was talking about how exciting it will be to go and see this city she hasnt seen before together.

 

I am back in the usa now and we were just talking and she says "did i tell you i am going to that city with my friends now? I will be able to show you the cool places I will see when you come again" So shes going to visit the place we were supposed to go to together for the first time with friends now instead of me, but will go with me again when I come.

 

She is a very very nice girl, we have never got in any arguement or fight ever yet she has never even made me mad once, But today I got mad/sad I didnt show it to her because I dont know if I am right or wrong to have gotten mad/sad at this, after all she will go with me again, and she is the biggest sweetheart in the world, but then again I live half way across the world and this was going to be our next trip and I thought it would be special because she has not seen the city yet, but now it will all be boring because its the 2nd time around for her seeing the same stuff again.

 

anyone have any opinions on this? she had to go to bed and said goodnight before I replied and I just said "no you didnt tell me that I think it will be boring for you to go there again when I come then" so i didnt overreact or anything, But she will ask me about it I know tommorow and I am wondering if I am in the right or in the wrong? I want to tell her its wrong to make plans with someone and go do the plans with others but then again I think "shes not ditching me and will go with me when I come"

 

idk really what to say or do

any opinions?

 

I kinda feel like just saying "Its ok I will go with friends and see the city too"

Edited April 27, 2012 by thatoneguy1988

[dasein]

Welcome to the forum. Cool off about this, it isn't a battle to pick. Look at it this way, she is scouting it out for you, if she is ambivalent about going again, you would probably have more fun going somewhere else. If she is fired up to go again, maybe you will have a better experience due to her having some street smarts in the area. Good luck.