6070 Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 I am currently in my first serious relationship, and am wondering if i should end it. I am 24 years old and lost my virginity with this girl at 22, we have been going out for a little over 2 years and it has been great. The second year we started going long distance ( i met her at university when i was in my last year of study and she was in her first) the distance itself hasn't been a problem, i have visited her and she has visited me and all has been good. But now we are starting to talk about moving in together...and that is where the worry starts. For me to go from long distance to living together is worrying me. Also she is my first serious gf and she has been saying that she is worried i will leave her to play the field. So the question is should i leave her if i have all these worries? Or is my uncertainty completely natural? Should i try dating a few different girls so that i can be sure exactly what i want in a partner?? I just don't know what to do or how i feel anymore and the problem is compounded by the distance. Any advice would be really appreciated.
Author 6070 Posted April 27, 2012 Author Posted April 27, 2012 sorry about title, for some reason the full title "confused and needing advice" isn't allowed
Philosoraptor Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 It's all fun and games until things "get real". If she found her own place but you saw each other for hours every day, would you be ok with that? If so, then it's not as much the girl as it is not being ready for that strong of a commitment. If your issues are with the girl then they aren't just going to disappear. In two years you usually know if you have long term aspirations or not. If this is the case then you are better off testing the waters and finding someone you want to make more of a commitment with.
Author 6070 Posted April 27, 2012 Author Posted April 27, 2012 Well i've been ok with long distance i think, but it all just feels a bit different to when i was there every day. I think the real issue is the girl..I feel guilty saying it but even if we moved in together and it was amazing, the fact that she is the only girl i've slept with would hang over my head. im only young once.. am i a bastard?
Philosoraptor Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Nah, not at all. It's normal to be unsure of what you want out of life until you've truly experienced life. The thing is that it's hard to be sure of what you want out of life until you've got enough life experience. You're about my age and I consider every day another day to learn more about me and what I want for my future. Some things at this point are written in stone as I am certain that they are what I want... while many other things I'm still figuring out. Just take life a day at a time and enjoy the journey.
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