Necris Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 I asked a similar question few weeks ago asking do other people feel that women or men seem for the most part unapproachable. Anyway I was noticing that no woman I ever meet ever seems to be interested in me, well its not like I just noticed its been that way forever. I'm just not the kind of guy women want it seems. Now I don't expect women to make the first move or approach me (I don't believe women ever approach men in general) since that will never happen but I guess I'm not very confident since before I will ask her out I try to gauge her interest first so I try to flirt and talk to her a little if she seems warm, friendly, and shows some sign of interest then I feel comfortable enough to ask her out. Though for me at least women never show any signs at all of attraction and are typically cold but usually not to the point of rudeness but I can tell she really doesn't want to be talking to me or just doesn't care. So what should I do if no woman ever seems approachable or interested? I was also wondering is my standard approach wrong? Generally I first find a girl that I'm interested in, then I observe her, afterwards I initiate friendly contact if she responds warmly and seems approachable then I move on to the next stage, where I ask her out on a date, unfortunately this is usually where it stops since most women I meet do not seem interested at all, if she accepts my offer we go on a date there is nothing after that since I've only been on a handful of dates most of them were actually not dates but just friendly meetings, one was a childish dare (this was back in HS but the only reason this girl agreed to go out with me was because of a dare but I didn't know at the time so I got stood up), and another the girl was crazy or deliberately trying to make it crazy so it went south quite quickly.
Bob_Funk Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Here's what girls are thinking when they get approached by a non model looking guy: "Oh God, not again. This is the fifth time today! Maybe if I just give one word answers, he'll leave me alone. But to avoid confrontation, I won't act too c*nty." Your situation is actually perfectly normal. Understand that as a male in the bottom 80-90%, you're unwanted by anything resembling a female. Once you've accepted this reality, you basically have two options: settle for warpigs or keep banging your head against the wall and hope you fluke out. 1
Author Necris Posted April 27, 2012 Author Posted April 27, 2012 Here's what girls are thinking when they get approached by a non model looking guy: "Oh God, not again. This is the fifth time today! Maybe if I just give one word answers, he'll leave me alone. But to avoid confrontation, I won't act too c*nty." Your situation is actually perfectly normal. Understand that as a male in the bottom 80-90%, you're unwanted by anything resembling a female. Once you've accepted this reality, you basically have two options: settle for warpigs or keep banging your head against the wall and hope you fluke out. Not very encouraging advice to say the least.
Cracker Jack Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Where are you meeting these women? That could be a reason. I don't think it's the fact that no women want you or anything. You're just not getting anywhere with these women in particular. It happens. Perhaps you'll need to change the way you're approaching these women to an extent, but don't let the difficulty stop you.
jobaba Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 So what should I do if no woman ever seems approachable or interested? I was also wondering is my standard approach wrong? Your question is loaded. Do you want to experience real emotional love? Or do you just want to date women and get sexual experience and tell others you have a girlfriend? I say you're still young enough to go for the former. Which means, socialize with women, get to know them, and you WILL eventually fall for one. When you do, hopefully, she'll reciprocate. That kind of young foolish love that people write songs about and crap. Part of the reason I'm bitter is because I've always been rejected by women I've had feelings for. But you never know how it will turn out for young men. My advice would different for someone who was older and had already faced a lot of rejection.
Author Necris Posted April 27, 2012 Author Posted April 27, 2012 Your question is loaded. Do you want to experience real emotional love? Or do you just want to date women and get sexual experience and tell others you have a girlfriend? I say you're still young enough to go for the former. Which means, socialize with women, get to know them, and you WILL eventually fall for one. When you do, hopefully, she'll reciprocate. That kind of young foolish love that people write songs about and crap. Part of the reason I'm bitter is because I've always been rejected by women I've had feelings for. But you never know how it will turn out for young men. My advice would different for someone who was older and had already faced a lot of rejection. Honestly I don't care much about sex (unfortunately I think about sex literally everyday but I don't feel bad for being a virgin) and validation or whatever I do however like the idea of loving someone and her loving me back I don't know but something about a relationship that special intrigues me. socialize with women, get to know them, and you WILL eventually fall for one. When you do, hopefully, she'll reciprocate. I do those things well except for falling for them (falling in love with someone that early I don't believe happens) and they never reciprocate, and that really doesn't seem like advice since a magical day where all of a sudden I get a great girlfriend isn't likely without some sort of major change. You mentioned something about songs and that reminds me do you notice essentially every popular song has something to do with sex or relationships? Wierd.
jobaba Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 You mentioned something about songs and that reminds me do you notice essentially every popular song has something to do with sex or relationships? Wierd. As a musician, I know music thrives on emotion. And love and feelings associated with love and heartbreak are the strongest human emotions. For better or worse.
truth_seeker Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Or turn people off with a negative attitude. If I see a woman with a miserable look on her face, I'm not going to approach. She may be a nice person, she may be frustrated because she gets no attention, but I know for me, a negative look usually means a negative person.
Author Necris Posted April 27, 2012 Author Posted April 27, 2012 I did, good life story bro! hmm.......?
dasein Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Keep your numbers up, keep working on yourself including venting here. You are doing the right things, they -will- pay off.
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