nevaeh87 Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Ok try not make this long. Me and my partner slowly broke up over period of 12 months after moving to a small town. There I met a girl who became my best friend over this period. Me and my partners relationship was great for the first 6 months but then slowly broke down over the next 6 and I moved back home. I never understood why and how our relationship came to this as we were REALLY close and the best of friends. He came back..... within 2 days he told me he had slept once with this girl who was supposedly or so i thought a good friend. He said it was eating him up and he didnt want that on his mind if we were to get back together. We had LONG conversations and I found out she had been going to him and telling him things that were not true ex.... he cheated on me, i didnt want to be with him etc etc.....I remember her saying to me " i wish i had what you guys had"....this woman is also in a relationship. So for a period of time she slowly ate away at our relationship with neither of us really realising it......or the cause. After many days talking hes come to me and said he sees things so differently and we should of let someone get in the way of our relationship and always trust and go to each other. He said he wants to be with me and loves me and we can work through this..... I love this guy a lot. I dont know how to forgive and forget though...as much as I want to be able to straight away.....I need some help or advice cause I sont want this coming up later in our relationship or it will cause more resentment and anger. I feel I need more than just his word....I told him this and he said well I am here with you...and Im telling you how much u mean to me and I want to be with you...ra ra ra..... I asked him to contact her and tell her and he said im just digging stuff up and he told her when he left they couldnt be together...but its different now....it should be....cause his perception on her has changed and I feel he should....is this wrong?????
crazylove Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Is he still in contact with this girl? It sounds like not, in which case, he might be right. You don't want him to contact her again. It takes a long time to forgive, u will probably never forget. So it depends how committed you are to seeing this out as to whether you can both work through it.
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