nanbullen Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 Does anybody here dread mornings as much as i do. I wake up, everything hits me all over again, and I have this overwhelming feeling of anxiety and despair. My ex said he would call me tonight so we can talk about us. I know he won't call, so tomorrow morning I will just feel even worse. What do you do to get through the mornings? I can't be the only one who feels this way.
CrazyDiamond424 Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 It is damn hard. Waking up, thinking about things....OVERthinking. It sucks, I know. It helps having something to look forward to that morning. Going to the gym, meeting up with friends, going shopping or even just coming here to vent. It's a process but it gets better everyday as long as you keep looking forward. As for the ex...ZERO expectations is the way to go. Good luck hun
Chs Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 When i was at that stage some time ago i did something silly to prevent it, i slept with the TV on. It was actually pretty effective, not waking up to immediate silence i was able to avoid all those feelings quite effectively. 1
TaraMaiden Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 nan.... if you can - buy a dog. They are time-consuming, faithful, loyal, diverting and wonderful companions, and don't care what you do for a job, or what you look like first thing in the morning.... As a dog behaviourist - i can recommend it...
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 Does anybody here dread mornings as much as i do. I wake up, everything hits me all over again, and I have this overwhelming feeling of anxiety and despair. My ex said he would call me tonight so we can talk about us. I know he won't call, so tomorrow morning I will just feel even worse. What do you do to get through the mornings? I can't be the only one who feels this way. I was blue in the beginning because the "good morning sunshine" texts stopped. I had gotten used to those sweet texts. I now have a dog, LOL!!! I adopted her over a year ago and she has been a healer:) If you can't adopt, visit them in the shelter or volunteer:) I can't remember when it stopped hurting, it just stopped and things are becoming a blur.
TaintedHeart Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 It's the worst feeling ever! It's like your heart is slowly sinking to your stomach and then you feel sick and panicky!
Author nanbullen Posted April 26, 2012 Author Posted April 26, 2012 When i was at that stage some time ago i did something silly to prevent it, i slept with the TV on. It was actually pretty effective, not waking up to immediate silence i was able to avoid all those feelings quite effectively. I have been sleeping with my tv on for years. i can't fall asleep in slilence. Now with this, for some reason i can't even sleep in my bed and i have been sleeping on the couch.
Author nanbullen Posted April 26, 2012 Author Posted April 26, 2012 Everyone else, ( i don't know how to quote multiple posts yet:o), I would love to get a dog, but i can't have one where i rent. when i see a commercial for an animal shelter, i have to turn away or change the channel. not because i am an awful person, but because i start sobbing. I don't know why I take it so hard, but it's almost involuntary. I know this sounds melodramatic, but i think i have so much pent up sadness i don't know how to express, that some things totally unrelated to the cause of my sadness just trigger it. I miss so many things that he used to to say. He's very charming (manipulative), and he said the most romantic things. He used to tell me I was the first thing he thought about when he woke up in the morning. I just keep thinking about how he acted this morning... why would he FIND me just to screw me over? I can understand, his feelings changed, but doesn't he see that he at least needs to stop acting like everything's my fault. How can he blame me for killing our relationship when he's seeing somebody behind my back?
Author nanbullen Posted April 27, 2012 Author Posted April 27, 2012 It's the worst feeling ever! It's like your heart is slowly sinking to your stomach and then you feel sick and panicky! You are soooo right, it is the worst feeling ever. As soon as he said he would call me, i knew he was lying to get off the phone. But in my condition, of course it gave me this false hope that is driving me crazy. I dread not sleeping, and i dread being awake. If i can just get a grip on these emotions I will be OK.I will learn to like being alone if it kills me. I will never fall in love again. Love does not exist for me. I am going to stop crying and forget this slug. I can suppress sadness over the death of my family, for crying out loud, he's nothing to me. Because if everybody here says it's possible to learn to love yourself, then if it's the last thing i do i will FIGURE OUT how to love myself and not need anybody else!
Mr Scorpio Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Does anybody here dread mornings as much as i do. I wake up, everything hits me all over again, and I have this overwhelming feeling of anxiety and despair. My ex said he would call me tonight so we can talk about us. I know he won't call, so tomorrow morning I will just feel even worse. What do you do to get through the mornings? I can't be the only one who feels this way. I used to sleep in until about an hour or so before I had to go to work. Of course, on days where I didn't have to work until 4pm, that was a problem. Although, at one point I was going to bed at around 6am and getting up at 2pm. Not good for productivity or living a "normal life". These days? On days when I have to be to work/school early, it isn't an issue because I have to move. On days when I don't? I usually turn the TV on immediately, which helps make me feel connected to "the world" and hop on-line, which does the same. Sad but true.
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