Zabs Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 Hey all! There may be a similar thread somewhere but if there is, I can't find it! LOL Was wondering, if anyone has broken NC after months of being 'apart' and if so was it successful? Also, how did you feel at the time ie; making the call, visiting etc..and what was the end result? I think many would benefit from your opinions as there seems to be much debate regarding the 'rules' of NC especially on the Break Ups section of the site, despite 90percent of posters actually wanting a reconciliation. Hoping everyone is well and happy.. Zabs xxx
fucpcg Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 She was hostile and bitter when she broke up with me, she was as equally when I contacted her after 6 weeks, 10 weeks, and 11 months out. I had no issues contacting her whatsoever, I cared more about the relationship than pride, or any other emotion. I really expected so close to a year out that she would have calmed down, but apparently not at all. I don't give a rat's a$$ about NC rules either, I'm a big man who chooses my actions based on what my heart feels, not what "the rules" tell me. Having said that, I think there reason to feel she may have communicated with me by now, had I just left her alone 100%. Can't say for sure, but I do have the suspicion. Having said that, I don't nor do I ever, regret being true to myself. 3
leoc1973 Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 The rules of NC are supposedly very simple. You get dumped and you just ignore and delete the person from your life. This is intended to help you heal but we all know that the reason most of us go NC is to show that person that they miss you and to eventually get them back. I think you have to be very honest with yourself about why you are going NC. If you are using NC to get them back then don't tell yourself you doing it to "heal" because I think this actually slows your healing process when you are sitting around waiting for contact. If contact never actually comes then you have to start to heal because you have been in denial that the relationship was over. If you are a very strong person(i'm not) then you get it in your head from day 1 that you are done with them and would not even take them back. You go NC and start the healing right away. Like I said I am not so the first 6 months I was still telling myself that she will be back and she just needs time to miss me. Eventually I sat myself down and had to tell myself that I am done with her and have to move on. Thats when I really deleted her out of every thing facebook phone numbers email addresses. And all of my belongings that came from her. Thats when I started NC for what its intended for. 2
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