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Just when I was ready to throw in the towel

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...he comes through in the clutch.

 

Sort of. :laugh:

 

Things had been going downhill with work guy since he texted me asking if I had plans and never followed up. Contact had grown sporadic, I decided to leave it alone. Tuesday it had gone back to 'normal' and I had him call me that night. We talked for over an hour. I told him about what happened with my ex, emphasizing that I'm excited to start a new chapter and I have a lot of new things going on in my life. He asked yesterday at work if he could call me again and I said yes (he had a really cute smile on when that happened). Called me again. Talked for the same amount of time.

 

I feel like we were really tiptoeing around. We talked a lot about our attraction patterns--what we do when we're interested in someone, etc. We're much the same, very analytical, reading into everything, wanting the other person to be more direct before we do the same.

 

I started throwing heavier hints around but I think I will have to just drop the big bomb eventually and say "So when are you going to ask me out already?" :laugh:

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Or you could have used the Al Pacino Godfather III line

"Just when I thought I was out, they pull me back IN!"

 

i say drop the big bomb. maybe this guy is nervous or shy or lacking in confidence to ask you out. by asking him your big bomb question, that may break the ice for him. some guys need that little nudge.

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This does not sound like the start of something casual. Is that still where you want to go with this?

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I'm going to a free concert tomorrow night, and when we were hanging out today at work I said, "So there's a concert at (insert venue) tomorrow night, you should come. You know, 'cause I'll be there and I'm so awesome." :laugh:

 

He said he isn't going to be at work tomorrow because of a funeral that he has to go out of town for and he doesn't know if he will be able to get back in time (he doesn't have a car), but he will definitely let me know. It seemed like he really would like to, so I'll see what happens tomorrow.

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Weekend didn't happen, but today when we were taking break he asked if I wanted to get together tonight. I said yes. We are going out for a drink. I've been a little more flirtatious with him over the last few days so I think he's getting the message.

 

:bunny:;)

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What are you going to do after the drink?

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What are you going to do after the drink?

 

She gets to see his dinkle

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She gets to see his dinkle

 

I really don't know. I hope so. ;)

 

I know that I am interested, but I am still unclear on whether he is. No matter, I'll just be my devastatingly attractive self and see what happens. :lmao:

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WHEN IS HIS BIRTHDAY????

 

We need to do his natal chart.

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She gets to see his dinkle

 

I have surmised that Art is an 80 year old man.

 

WHEN IS HIS BIRTHDAY????

 

We need to do his natal chart.

 

And Easy is a woman.

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Dump him anyways... just to be a mean sh**. >:-)

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So...nothing happened. Well, we hugged. That was about it. I had a really good time though. He's really funny; I was laughing a lot. He asked if I wanted to get coffee tomorrow and I declined. I would have to get up earlier than I already do (he still forgets we're on different shifts).

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And Easy is a woman.
Dead.to.me.
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Dead.to.me.

 

pshaw. You love me.

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Soooo...he is coming over tonight right after he's done his shift. I am signing the lease on my new place and getting the keys :bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::D:D:D:D so I asked if he wanted to help me celebrate.

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Again, a great time. Again, nothing beyond a hug at the end when he left. Our hands touched a few times. I honestly don't know what to take it all as. Either he just isn't interested or he moves like a snail. It's turning me on a hell of a lot more than anything else has in a long while, and frustrating me more than anything too. :laugh: If I do eventually tumble into bed with him it'll be mind-blowing what with all the buildup.

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This does not sound like the start of something casual. Is that still where you want to go with this?

 

Repeating a question you avoided. ;)

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Sounds exciting. I always prefer more build up. Maybe he is just shy - but he is definitely interested ;)

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Repeating a question you avoided. ;)

 

Right now I still just want to hook up more than anything else. But I am really not sure how to go about it at this point because of how shy/uninterested he's coming across. I don't want to make a bold move and embarrass myself, especially since we work together...though that is changing in the next month as he's leaving. I might be hanging out at his place this weekend...if I do we'll see what happens then.

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You know, its difficult to know that he loves you or not..but guys always leave hints, from where you can find that he loves you or not...

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He should be making more effort if he is interested. Hmmm

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He should be making more effort if he is interested. Hmmm

 

I wonder if his lack of effort could have to do with the work situation. Maybe he doesn't like to date people he works with, so he's kind of stalling until it's closer to the time he's leaving.

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If OP was a bit more attractive and not a total meh/average gal, he would of made a move.

 

WTF

 

OP is hot. GO away troll :mad:

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I can tell it's moving forward, albeit slowly...but then again I've come to expect nothing else.

 

Today he complimented me on my outfit and took a picture of me on his phone, uploaded it to his photo-sharing profile. I went over to his desk before I left for the day and he was playfully poking at me. I might be hanging out with him tomorrow in between doing apartment move-in things.

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Are you reconsidering just having a sexual fling with this guy? Because taking it slowly like this is not the normal trajectory for such interactions. What if he is not looking for the same thing that you are? Are you going to tell him upfront that you just want to have sex … soon?

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