JessJJ5377 Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 Me and my bf had been together for 18 months, had booked a holiday for this summer and had got over a rough patch before christmas so were communicating alot better. We fell out at a friends party, i though nothing of it but he said he thought we were 'a bit spent' and that he's not sure a serious relationship was what he wanted, he loved me but he didn't feel like he wanted us to be so official (i know what your thinking, oh he wants another girl. he has TWO friends, both of which are social enigmas, he has no time outside work to find another girl - works in an all bloke firm) So we said we'd still be friends, cancelled our holiday and i went on a bit of a wild weekend to try and drown my sorrows! I get back from my weekend and he's been texting me very normally. 'how are you babe, ect ect' so we start chatting and asks if i wanna see a film? We go to the cinema, absolutely nothing happens but he gets upset on the way home but wont say why. He then invited me over on tuesday for pizza, i expected his mates to be there, they weren't... He kept making excuses to touch me, like brushing hair from my face, rubbing my shoulders ect - he's not usually affectionate, even when we were together. Once again i didn't let anything happen, just cuddled him a bit, now were going to the pictures again on saturday night. I am BEYOND confused , my girlfriends are useless (don't like him at all) so i need some advice? thanks!
DuchessKaye Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 (edited) Why would you date your ex? An ex is an ex for some reason. I'd say, Go NC and stay the hell away from him. He is just using you... Edited April 26, 2012 by DuchessKaye
confused kitty Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 Why dont you just ask him "whats going on here?" and see what he replys with.. He could genuinely be missing you and regretting his decision. If he says were just hanging out and sais no more about it, then you need to tell him that "friends" dont go on dates alone or touch and cuddle affectionatly... Talk to him!
Tiera D Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 Taramaiden direct,harsh but effective as usual..when an ex does that it simply hints that he wants sex from you,i repeat he "does not not want commitment" i think,give him a choice take it or leave it then NC,show him that u dont like the current situation. TD
leoc1973 Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 The thing with these posts are we never get the whole story. What else was going on while you were officially with him? Were you smothering him? Maybe he needed a little guy time but you were always there? I was with a girlfriend before that I loved very much but she was always with me if I wasn't working she was there. I remember one time I was in the bathroom and already feeling a little suffocated and she said oh my god how long are you going to be in there I am lonely out here. I just cringed!! Then I come out of the bathroom and she said jeesh you were in there so long I have wrinkles and grey hair now. Again cringe!! Anyways yes most of the time it is worse case scenario like another woman or looking for another woman and just trying to keep you around for FWB but sometimes its a lot more simple and he just needs a little "alone time" 1
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