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ls32ssibm Established Member

ls32ssibm

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I thought this would be a "fun" idea, so I'll get it rolling;

 

1. Never get to close with your SO's friends (that weren't previously your friends). When you split, they go with the SO and it makes the breakup even harder.

 

2. NEVER date someone fresh out of a relationship :sick:

ToyWithMe812 Established Member

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- The lack of genuine people on the planet is staggering.

 

- Love is not as important as "Facebook"

 

- Even the most genuine, caring and sweetest person can evolve into a cold blooded succubus (knew it happened, but she never exhibited anything "fake" about herself in 10 years)

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Tiera D Established Member

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what i learnt in my past relationship?

 

1) Never put all ur love in a single human,there is much moreout there than love.

 

2) Never become overly nice to ur new partner,always keep an ace on ur sleeve(i mean surprises not cheating..humans love new things)

 

3) Never Ever relent on boundaries that u had set up,they cross it once..they can cross it again..

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Damia Established Member

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what i learnt in my past relationship?

 

3) Never Ever relent on boundaries that u had set up,they cross it once..they can cross it again..

 

Boundries is #1 for me

 

And trust your instincts 9 times out of 10 they are correct

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Million.to.1 Established Member

Million.to.1

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That i shouldn't settle.

TaraMaiden Established Member

TaraMaiden

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never settle for being the option.

Reddice Established Member

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1. Friends and family must always come in the 1st place. You come 2nd. Partner must come in 3rd place.

 

2. Only expect the best from your partner. Do not settle for second class behaviour.

Million.to.1 Established Member

Million.to.1

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never settle for being the option.

 

How was that for timing?! :laugh:

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TaraMaiden Established Member

TaraMaiden

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we're just brilliant.....:laugh:

LZ2000 Established Member

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1) When you are in a relationship, your personal well being should never be compromised. A strong relationship lasts when two individuals look after themselves and take prudent and responsible ownership of their own individual lives.

 

2) I realized the relative importance of communication. If you speak genuine words of love, they are priceless. If you speak with lip service, it is useless and leads to nowhere.

Tiera D Established Member

Tiera D

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that depends damia my gut feeling is 9/10 wrong usually :(

 

TD

DuchessKaye Established Member

DuchessKaye

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I have learnt to love myself more than anybody else...

 

That's all.:cool:

BewitchedandBothered Established Member

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I thought this would be a "fun" idea, so I'll get it rolling;

 

1. Never get to close with your SO's friends (that weren't previously your friends). When you split, they go with the SO and it makes the breakup even harder.

 

2. NEVER date someone fresh out of a relationship :sick:

 

1. If he trashes all his ex's/calls them 'psycho', you will be the next one he does this to.

 

2. If he calls you by another woman's name, dump him and never look back.

 

3. If he is obsessed with putting money in his account and asks you how much you make, dump him.

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shayla Established Member

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Always be gentle and loving with yourself. You truly are your own best friend, settle for nothing less from anyone else.

 

Always trust your gut. Never ignore yourself, putting someone elses needs above your own.

 

When someone treats you badly, it is not your fault, you didn't drive them to it. Deal with them accordingly, and don't allow for their manipulation.

 

Love them. Love yourself more.

fificremefarben Established Member

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Allow me to be a Negative Nelly for a moment. I have learned that...

 

- there is no such thing as "The One"

-14 years of history and a 4 year relationship, unfortunately, does not entitle you to a fair or humane breakup, and that lying about why you're breaking up and then revealing a month later in a TEXT that there was actually another woman is something that they are very much happy to do

-despite all the history between you and another person, you can never really know them as well as you think you do. Not really. The only person you can really trust is yourself.

-to not fully believe the words of any future partner ("I'll love you forever", "I could never be with anyone else", "You're the one", "I see myself marrying you")...believe their actions, instead.

-that my tear ducts are in perfect working order and can work OVERTIME.

 

 

Wooft, that felt good! On the other hand, there are positives too. I have learned...

 

-a bit more about what I think good relationship behaviour is how i would want to treat a partner/be treated myself.

- that I'm so lucky to have the kind of friends who will travel the 2 hours distance between just to watch me cry into fajitas and rant about my ex.

 

but most of all, I have learned that a relationship is like a bullet to the knee or arm. It hurts like hell, but it WILL NOT KILL YOU. Win!

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I thought this would be a "fun" idea, so I'll get it rolling;

 

1. Never get to close with your SO's friends (that weren't previously your friends). When you split, they go with the SO and it makes the breakup even harder.

 

2. NEVER date someone fresh out of a relationship :sick:

 

1. Don't get close to your SO's friends - when you break up, you lose a great group of friends (even if they think your SO didn't deserve you)

 

2. Selfishness is a dealbreaker (for me). There's a difference between looking after yourself and selfishness to the point where you hurt the other person ridiculously. Oh, and lying.

 

3. Don't drag things out longer than they need to be. The more it is dragged out, the more heartbreak and negative feelings are incurred.

 

4. Stand up for yourself. If you think something unjust, hurtful or plain rude has been said by your SO, don't put up with it otherwise it will keep happening.

 

Yeah, life can deal you a raw hand, but you have to keep going - otherwise there's no point. Do your utmost to be the best you can be, and don't let anyone hold you back.

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nanbullen Established Member

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1. Just because you reconcile with an old, old love….does not mean it was *destiny*.

 

2. Everybody is human, nobody is on a pedestal. Nobody can promise you what the future holds.

 

3. I have never been able to give or receive love.

 

4. People find each other on Facebook every day. It's no big deal.

 

5. You can never go back.

 

6. The person i thought was my one true love....wasn't.

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4. People find each other on Facebook every day. It's no big deal.

 

It is a big deal when finding this person causes the destruction of a 20 year marriage.

 

Yeah Im a bitter FB hater, but for good reason. I know...it's just a tool.

 

Anyway, just venting.

 

One thing I have learned: Take your time in a relationship. And if you get the feeling your girl is absolutely nuts...she probably is.

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Fitz Established Member

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1. People change.

 

2. Don't do long distance relationships. Any LDR longer than a year is asking for trouble.

 

3. Don't ignore red flags. It'll come back to haunt you.

 

4. Write physical letters to your girlfriend/boyfriend. E-mails are password protected and can be hidden. Emails can be deleted. But love letters are usually collected. And physical letters are usually stored in a drawer. And can be stumbled upon. Gifts with dated inscriptions are also a good idea.

 

5. If your GF goes on vacation "with the girls", ask for pictures. If she forgets her camera, tell her to use her camera phone. Later when you look at the photos, check to see if your she is alone in every picture. If she is alone in every picture, then she is sleeping with the guy who took the photo. And she lied about hanging out with "the girls."

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collegeguy_24 Established Member

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What I learned from my last relationship:

 

1) Don't tolerate lies or half truths.

 

2) Don't tolerate her hanging out with former FWBs and not telling you what was going on.

 

3) Don't be a wuss; sadly, that was me, I was a wuss. I have since grown into a man.

 

4) Don't obsess over things, that was a problem both of us suffered from.

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gibson Established Member

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Sometimes you are the windshield, sometimes you are the bug.

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aliii Member

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If he says "I´m falling in love with you" after 2 weeks - RUUUUUN!

 

If he says "I´m kind of selfish" - Believe him. He is big time!!!

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DMS Established Member

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If your partner takes sudden interest in things he/she didnt have any desire for before, there may be someone else.

 

If your gut says there is someone else, there probably is.

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tears_in_rain Established Member

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Trust No one. Everyone is capable of deceit.

 

Trust your gut instinct. 9 out of 10 times its right.

 

Communication is paramount.

 

No one controls your life but you.

 

You don't need someone in your life. You choose to share your life with someone.

 

You hope karma will be a bi*ch.

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