2good2btrue Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 I can't sleep and I need some advice. I don't seem to get straigh answers from the solicitor. I have been trying to get a divorce for two years, but my ex husband has an inability to keep a job so runs out of money. Plus he is a liar. He tells me that he is living in a caravan park, but when I phoned them they said that they don't know him. He says in is not living in london where he is working. He says that he is not living with anyone, but our child who is only just at school tells me that they only go this person's house. He never talks of anywhere else and kids don't lie. I am suppose to sign the financial papers for the divorcee but don't believe that they are true. I also believe that his grandad died this year and he has come into some money, but that's not down on the form either. My solicitor has sent them an email saying that we think he is living somewhere else. but he just denies it. Which is not unusal for him. When I was married to him, he lied that he owed his own property I had to prove to him that I knew that I didn't. And when some money mysterially went out of our joint account I had to pay to prove where it went only to find out it was him!! I just want it over. We were only married 3 years ( we have been seperated longer) and he had me so mixed up in that time I really didn't know what I was doing, we spent over a £100k, which I am paying off, and he won't contribute, he doesn't pay any child maintenance and It seems that he is still entitled to 20% of my property!! how is this fair? (The CSA are next to useless). I can't afford to go to court and because I have been careful and continued to pay the debt and have nothing for myself in the last 3 years I am now losing legal aid as I have too much equity in the property. doesn't life just suck? So what can I do? If I do prove he is living with someone does it help my case? Shall I just sign the forms even though I think that they are wrong just to get it sorted? If Iget the decree absolute with the financial matters not sorted, if I won the lottery after that would he be enititled to any of it? these are all questions I need help with. Does anyone know the answers or could give me some advice to help me sleep.
thatone Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 You need an attorney, pay one. Legal agreements are not do it yourself hobbies.
TaraMaiden Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 I can't sleep and I need some advice. I don't seem to get straigh answers from the solicitor. I have been trying to get a divorce for two years, but my ex husband has an inability to keep a job so runs out of money. Plus he is a liar. He tells me that he is living in a caravan park, but when I phoned them they said that they don't know him. He says in is not living in london where he is working. He says that he is not living with anyone, but our child who is only just at school tells me that they only go this person's house. He never talks of anywhere else and kids don't lie. I am suppose to sign the financial papers for the divorcee but don't believe that they are true. I also believe that his grandad died this year and he has come into some money, but that's not down on the form either. My solicitor has sent them an email saying that we think he is living somewhere else. but he just denies it. Which is not unusal for him. When I was married to him, he lied that he owed his own property I had to prove to him that I knew that I didn't. And when some money mysterially went out of our joint account I had to pay to prove where it went only to find out it was him!! I just want it over. We were only married 3 years ( we have been seperated longer) and he had me so mixed up in that time I really didn't know what I was doing, we spent over a £100k, which I am paying off, and he won't contribute, he doesn't pay any child maintenance and It seems that he is still entitled to 20% of my property!! how is this fair? (The CSA are next to useless). I can't afford to go to court and because I have been careful and continued to pay the debt and have nothing for myself in the last 3 years I am now losing legal aid as I have too much equity in the property. doesn't life just suck? So what can I do? If I do prove he is living with someone does it help my case? Shall I just sign the forms even though I think that they are wrong just to get it sorted? Invest in a private investigator and get proof. Borrow from someone if needs be. It's not your solicitor's job to find these things out for you. All your solicitor is there for is to carry out the letter of the law. If Iget the decree absolute with the financial matters not sorted, if I won the lottery after that would he be enititled to any of it? you include an agreement clause that once the decree is absolute neither of you have any claim on any monies either of you may earn or obtain by whichever means possible. this would of course mean that if HE won the lottery, you would have no claim either.
Author 2good2btrue Posted April 29, 2012 Author Posted April 29, 2012 Thanks for the advice, but have you seen the price of a private investigator? They are quoting anything from £35-£50 per hour and then expenses on top. That would run into thousands and I'd be in more debt! Unless you know of a cheaper option? I am open to suggestions. thanks
TaraMaiden Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 His evidence would be admissible, yours wouldn't. I can't think of anything else you could do within the limits or permits of the law. If he came into the inheritance from his grandfather after you split up it would be almost impossible for you to gain any of that anyway. but get that document drawn up.
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