Necris Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 How do I tell a woman i'm interested in her without directly telling her? I believe this is called flirting? If so how do you flirt effectively?
DuchessKaye Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 Why don't you want to tell the girl that you are interested to her directly?
joystickd Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 Indirect leads you to one place the friendzone. http://orbitalvector.com/Megastructures/Pocket%20Universes/phantom%20zone.jpg Its like being hurled in space like General Zod 2
jobaba Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 OP, since I know you are more of a reserved, unsuccessful guy like myself (or at least I used to be more like that), I'll tell you what has worked for me... -In the past, verbal communication of adoration or feelings has always failed and it has not ever come close. -Flirting or letting it happen 'naturally' is what people will tell you to do. But there will be many cases where you will think she is into you, but she only likes you as a friend if that. -The best way in my experience is to get them alone at some point and just go balls out and plant a kiss on their face. How to get them alone? Well, like Duchess implied, if you're a good looking guy, all you have to do is tell the girl that you like her or tell her friends and word will get around. And the rest is 8th grade history. If you're not that, you're going to have to do some dancing around since most women will not respond favorably at first. If you think you might have a shot with one of them, ask them on a date or any kind of a one-on-one activity. If things are going well, just plant one of them towards the end. Has worked for me.
yongyong Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 you tell her with your eyes and hands. If she is giving you DDBL (doggy dinner bowl look) during conversation, just go for the kiss. That's how you Let Her Know. do you ask for the kiss? do you ask if you can get laid tonight?? Are you allowed not to kiss by your religion?
Author Necris Posted April 26, 2012 Author Posted April 26, 2012 So trying to tell a woman I'm interested without telling her directly that I'm interested is a bad idea? Anyway I guess the reason why I would want to do this is probably out of fear since I completely suck at direct approaching and also I didn't want it to seem odd when I do finally do the direct approach as she would kind of know that I'm interested if that makes sense. I guess an analogy for that would be if a person you barely know suddenly out of nowhere asked you out for a date would that seem a little wierd? Let's also assume they aren't super-attractive but they aren't repulsive either.
Author Necris Posted April 26, 2012 Author Posted April 26, 2012 you tell her with your eyes and hands. If she is giving you DDBL (doggy dinner bowl look) during conversation, just go for the kiss. That's how you Let Her Know. do you ask for the kiss? do you ask if you can get laid tonight?? Are you allowed not to kiss by your religion? Well I'm not actually seeing any signs from her at all, but then again the last time a woman showed any outward signs of attraction to me I believe was way back when I was 14 and a girl in my class liked me but I didn't understand at the time. As for kissing there is nothing prohibiting me besides myself I never kissed a woman my entire life the closest contact I ever had was a hug and that was a few years ago.
Million.to.1 Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 Is it the fear of rejection that is stopping you from being direct? Why can't you just say "it would be great if you'd let me take you out some time... if you wanted ?" with a nice smile and lot's of eye contact?
jobaba Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 So trying to tell a woman I'm interested without telling her directly that I'm interested is a bad idea? Anyway I guess the reason why I would want to do this is probably out of fear since I completely suck at direct approaching and also I didn't want it to seem odd when I do finally do the direct approach as she would kind of know that I'm interested if that makes sense. I guess an analogy for that would be if a person you barely know suddenly out of nowhere asked you out for a date would that seem a little wierd? Let's also assume they aren't super-attractive but they aren't repulsive either. Well I'm not actually seeing any signs from her at all, but then again the last time a woman showed any outward signs of attraction to me I believe was way back when I was 14 and a girl in my class liked me but I didn't understand at the time. As for kissing there is nothing prohibiting me besides myself I never kissed a woman my entire life the closest contact I ever had was a hug and that was a few years ago. Well. Seeing as how you're in college, the culture is not proper dates. Men and women in college are living on their own, but most essentially still socialize like children. So, the culture consists of hanging out in large groups, establishing a rapport with a member of the opposite sex and then sloppily hooking up when the moment arises. It sounds like you're talking about someone specific and you already know her. Yea, ask her out. Just be casual and cool about it though. Don't say anything about how pretty she is or something like that.
Author Necris Posted April 27, 2012 Author Posted April 27, 2012 Well. Seeing as how you're in college, the culture is not proper dates. Men and women in college are living on their own, but most essentially still socialize like children. So, the culture consists of hanging out in large groups, establishing a rapport with a member of the opposite sex and then sloppily hooking up when the moment arises. I know that but that isn't what I'm looking for. It sounds like you're talking about someone specific and you already know her. Yea, ask her out. Just be casual and cool about it though. Don't say anything about how pretty she is or something like that. No, not really anyone in specific I just worded it that way though there is someone I kind of like but I noticed she doesn't seem very "warm" when I talk to her and if I see her in public its not like she's going to say anything to me I have to always initiate conversation and even then its short, but then again aren't most women like that? At least in my experience, they really don't seem all that approachable and they don't seem to want to be bothered.
SilverBlueAndGold Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Indirect leads you to one place the friendzone. http://orbitalvector.com/Megastructures/Pocket%20Universes/phantom%20zone.jpg Its like being hurled in space like General Zod I am literally laughing out loud at the Zod reference. Thanks, I needed that.
Bob_Funk Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Do you look like this guy? If your answer is yes, you can do no wrong. If your answer is no, you might as well be deformed.
jobaba Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 I know that but that isn't what I'm looking for. No, not really anyone in specific I just worded it that way though there is someone I kind of like but I noticed she doesn't seem very "warm" when I talk to her and if I see her in public its not like she's going to say anything to me I have to always initiate conversation and even then its short, but then again aren't most women like that? At least in my experience, they really don't seem all that approachable and they don't seem to want to be bothered. Sloppy hookups in college lead to relationships. Dude, why didn't you join the church group? There are SO MANY opportunities to network and meet single women in college if you are of college age. There is absolutely NO EXCUSE unless you are a total commuter. Yea ... I've made the mistake in the past of thinking women have been interested when they're standoffish because I think they're playing games or something. All in my head. Anytime I've hooked up with a woman, they've always been chummy from the start.
persevere Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 The direct approach. "I'm interested in getting to know you". Don't bring looks into the equation..
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